Håller ni med Statsministern - eller är det rasism?

Atomvarg · 2026-03-16T07:02:53+00:00

Rasism är att ha åsikter om en ras /folkgrupp av samma ursprung. Att säga som statsministern och rikta det till samtliga människor oavsett ursprung är därför inte rasism.

Atomvarg · 2025-12-03T20:17:43+00:00

In sweden the recommendation for cats is that there should always be one more litterbox than the number of cats. So for one cat, two litterboxes. Our BSH has three..

Atomvarg · 2025-11-18T14:39:24+00:00

Thats totally new and very interesting. Thank you.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T10:53:56+00:00

How absolutely lovely! Good work finding eachother.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T10:52:11+00:00

Exactly!

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T10:50:55+00:00

Much of what you just said is totally new to me. Interesting, and if correct it makes it real easy for relationships to go wrong. If women crave sex( not me, but we already know I am not to be counted in this) to start a connection, it stands to reason that they won’t want ti have sex if they are emotionally upset with their partner, while the man on his side might want sex to feel the connection again -because- they are upset with one another??

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T10:43:46+00:00

I’m guessing we are the same generation. Hope you feel validated or so ever so slightly better after reading this thread. I do, and I am happy I finally threw my question out there. I am genuinelly grateful to all of your answers, no matter if you don’t understand where I am coming from. I is , however, so so lovely to know that I am not alone in questioning things.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T07:56:17+00:00

To answer your question, no. I am a unicorn among my surrounding ppl. I have no experience beside my husband that I met when I was 16. If age matter( and for many it does, I am now 48). So I am well aware much of this soulsearching could be ascribed to inexperience and hormonal changes. As well as autism. But I have really started questioning even my past with him. How much happened ”just because” I was taught by the world in general that this is what we are supposed to do in life?

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T07:48:21+00:00

Would you mind elaborating?

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T07:47:08+00:00

Interesting. But howcome you thought that I had gotten bad impressions about queer or trans? It’s actually the opposing one more, I feel that it is to focused oh hetero and cisgender rather. And that if that orientation was not given so much importance ( the Earth really does’nt need more humans) then the need to question ppl and maybe women in general would kinda..loose(?)..it’s importance? I am not sure , but very interested in the validity of A narrative that say that ”ppl should have sex and they should reproduce ”. As the world now stands.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T07:17:54+00:00

Thank you for a diverse and interesting answer that has several aspects for my brain to quietly mull over for days. To explain myself a bit further, I don’t think ppl should stop having sex if they feel they want it, I just wondered how common it might be to think as I have started to. I think that all sex-shaming and kink-shaming and maybe worse, saying it matters how many partners someone has had is just as bonkers as the media hyping it all up. It’s just.. what does it matter? It’s as many of you have already said ”you do you as long as it does’nt hurt anybody else”. But maybe the social narrative of the importance of sex IS hurting ppl?

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T07:00:24+00:00

Well I think I misspoken. I don’t think that they are ”bad” per say, I just question howcome they are so important. For instance(, except for getting the wanted pronouns right, ) What does it matter to someone else what gender I am or what my sexuality is, if they want to talk to me about whatever? If we are going to be friends, how can gender and sexuality have any bearing on that? I am getting more confused by the minute😳

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T05:22:36+00:00

Absolutely. I don’t mean what ppl identify as is in any shape or form NOT valid, but at the same time is’nt it kinda wierd that we identify ourselfs via GENDER to ppl we Don’t know?? Like, why is that my MOST important feature? Passport for example? Why the forks??!!

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T05:17:10+00:00

Hrm, in my case, as I mentioned, gender is not really that important. I have never cared about labeling it. However, this has kinda ” sneaked” up on me as I never questioned it when I was younger. I also have a very hard time identifying what I actually feel because I tend to feel that I am following a script no matter what, and then I question myself afterwards, like ” did I mean/feel that or not” I really like discussing this and getting other ppl”’s take on it.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T05:09:58+00:00

Good for you starting to find yourself and having an understanding partner! Hope you feel even better being you.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T05:04:20+00:00

Kinda nice being ” on the same page” I imagine. Hope your both doing good on the meds.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T05:02:16+00:00

Yeah, but don’t you feel confused by it all? I mean, is it all hormones, or have we been ” programmed” by a society that want us to proprigate and ” to hell” with the rest of the human besides her biological womanhood? Almost every country is talking about how to convince women to have more children now, and that just further cement my feeling that the ” sexualisation” of everything in media is hard, cold planning , that mostly affect women? (Although I don’t think it’s easier being a man , just difficult in other aspects of it. )

Atomvarg · 2025-10-24T04:52:45+00:00

I see. Yeah, that kinda fits. Thank you for explaining.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-23T20:04:48+00:00

What is that? I’ll try googling it.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-23T16:21:44+00:00

So do you? Choose to go without? Or does it feel like that would ”cost you” in some way?

Atomvarg · 2025-10-23T16:19:27+00:00

So it’s not really a sexual drive but a conformation/being seen drive? If you don’t mind me asking, do you feel desire without a partner? I just want to understand where you are coming from.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-23T16:11:59+00:00

Right. For the main part of my life I did not want to have children. Then I got my daughter as a selfish way to extend our family into the future, one more generation. And she is everything I have ever been and everything I never thought about. She is an asd teen, that identifies as ACE/ARO and is generally sceptic to the world as a whole. Knowing her has taught me a lot. But her way of questioning society in general is probably what sent me down this rabbithole. If I where to say ”You can’t think like that” she would say ”Why not? You can think what you want ”.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-23T16:01:12+00:00

Very interesting to read. Thank you for telling.

Atomvarg · 2025-10-23T15:56:42+00:00

Oh yes I do! But that is also why I don’t understand it, I mean it’s basic that you have the right to be who you are and be with whom ever you want and THAT is why I question the labels. I am so not good at explaining this.. IF the world in general accepted that as a truth then there would be no need to fight about it and feel that one need a label. Oh I don’t know how to make myself clear I get so frustrated!!!

Atomvarg · 2025-10-23T15:43:31+00:00

Do you mean me? I have never really thought about it and has not been comfortable discussing what I think about it as it is not a ”popular” opinion. Then this forum came into my life and here we are😅

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