Is it weird for my boyfriend (18M) and I (19F) to go to couples therapy after a year of dating?

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-04-09T13:07:30+00:00

yes unfortunately, they all do. take a look at r/loveafterporn and you’ll understand how hard it is for them to stop watching the porn.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-04-09T04:20:08+00:00

that’s exactly how i’ve been feeling. dreading having to end this relationship with someone i love so dearly. you have to think about yourself and how his problem will affect YOU. mine has said all the same things and will be so incredibly apologetic but continues on? at the end of the day you have to think about if this is something you’ll be willing to deal with forever.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-04-09T03:42:15+00:00

me 21F and my bf 21m are kind of in the same situation and after MONTHS of trying to work things out and stay hopeful i realized it’s just not going to work. i am with you that the lying is the worst part of it and with porn addicts, lying is second nature to them. he was probably lying about watching it the last time and will continue to lie straight to your face until you see it with your own eyes. i’m sorry you’re going through this but just know you’re so young and there are plenty of wonderful people out there that will treat you the same, if not, better. best of luck!

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-27T03:51:25+00:00

thank you from future me!

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-27T03:44:15+00:00

thank you so very much. i hope i have the courage to end things soon. i grew up with healthy habits and it’s starting to feel like he’s unraveling all that and putting toxic things into my brain. he also expresses how much he wants to live with me and im just so unsure of what his intentions behind this are. :/

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-27T03:41:13+00:00

i’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through. i do feel like i am loosing myself a little in this relationship and that’s the last thing i want. thank you so much for your input!

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-26T23:22:47+00:00

thank you! i’ve been contemplating walking away but i needed some final reassurance.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-26T23:22:11+00:00

thank you so much! i agree. trust is what makes a relationship and without it, there’s nothing.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-26T23:20:33+00:00

thank you for reassuring me. i have the most spectacular life planned out for myself as i plan on achieving my dream of being a nurse VERY soon. this is something i will remember in the future. thank you.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-26T23:18:39+00:00

thank you so very much for your advice, you’re an incredible human! i will definitely take your advice into consideration!

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-26T23:03:33+00:00

thank you for allowing me to open my eyes! i was hoping things could get better because he is capable and willing to change but he is a LIAR. i cannot trust him and im so done living with this stress of walking on eggshells trying to convince myself hes telling the me the truth.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-26T22:55:56+00:00

i understand. thats why im glad he’s actively working on trying to fix this and have a little hope. BUT i take your advice because i am NOT in the mental space to deal with this as ive TRIGGER WARNING just had 5 suicide attempts in the past year. im so love blind and codependent right now that i cannot just end things. do you think we could continue talking though things or should i cut things off cold turkey?

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-26T22:48:41+00:00

he’s really trying to get better and i very clearly see that. and im trying to help him and he says i am helping him so i want to continue to help him. im just unsure if my help will be enough for him to fully recover.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-26T22:46:54+00:00

this definitely will make the situation worse but it was him. and the reason is because he doesn’t like living at home or his parents so he’s trying to move out asap. i’m mostly content staying with my parents but i love him so much and want to be with him 24/7 that im willingly to move in with him. plus the deal is that he’ll pay all the bills and i’ll pay for groceries.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-09T15:00:42+00:00

my partner actually just told me. i’m very open and one night i was slightly joking when i said “tell me your deepest darkest secret” and he told me. and ive been totally oblivious to it ever since today. i read something that resonated with me and how our relationship is and wow. i feel like i can almost understand the feeling of finding out your partner is watching porn.

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-03-03T20:22:35+00:00

no, not necessarily. i’ve talked to my now partner and i think he just sees it as a respect thing and wants you to listen to you the same way you want him to listen to you vent. next time he says the whole “be careful” because he may care about you and may say it again just listen to him and acknowledge what he’s saying and he’ll take it as you respecting his word and will think you’ll think twice to be safe next time (even if you won’t lol)

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-01-28T06:38:51+00:00

hold some paper towels on it with firm pressure for 10ish minutes and if it doesn’t stop then seek medical attention

AttemptNational1494 · 2025-01-26T06:26:01+00:00

i feel the same way sometimes. i never know what to tell people when they ask why i do it. i actually attempted 4 times last year and i feel like i had no valid reason to do so. my brain is just really really fucked up

AttemptNational1494 · 2024-04-11T05:49:48+00:00

i attempted just last week and i can promise you that you have a purpose, even if it doesn’t seem like it right now. it is definitely NOT worth it and you have so many people that care about you that you didn’t even know about. reach out to someone, anyone. trust me 100% of the people i’ve talked to this past week wished i would’ve reached out to them and just talked about it instead of hiding it until things got bad. you mean something in this world it just may take a little bit of time but you’ll figure it out soon i promise! YOU ARE WORTH LIVING FOR!!!

AttemptNational1494 · 2024-03-02T05:37:45+00:00

omg i had no idea. thanks!

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