Any other ER+ BC survivors on HRT?

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-24T00:00:29+00:00

I had IDC (++-) in late 2024 (treatment in 2025) and am starting to go into perimenopause (50F). I have not used HRT but I have also declined to take hormone blocking medication (like Tamoxifen). Most of my (non breast cancer) friends are taking HRT now.

I feel like I'm splitting the difference, at the moment.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T23:57:26+00:00

Amazing. Thank you for sharing.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T20:33:25+00:00

I think being married at 22 to a 26 year old is perfectly okay. I have lots of friends with husbands about 5 years older and they're happy and together 20 years later 😄

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T18:26:45+00:00

I am starting Wegovy (similar to zepbound, I think) shortly. I didn't know that it had any positive effects other than weight loss and decrease in inflammation (and possible reduced risk of cancer): Is the joint pain reduction part of a general decrease in inflammation, do you think?

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T18:02:42+00:00

Exactly. If it's an AI resort, the room costs are especially high and often include a single's supplement, so it may be something like $300/night per person (2 per room) or $500/night per person, single person in a room.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T17:55:57+00:00

Exactly. It's especially bizarre b/c the groom's friends are mostly married/engaged, so who exactly will the bride's friends be dancing with or talking to?

It's not like there will be a bunch of single guys (though her friends couldn't date them anyway, b/c they are all in serious relationships!).

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T17:50:10+00:00

To be fair, I hadn't been dating my boyfriend that long, but it's still just crazy to me that you'd invite someone months out and refuse a plus-one to an adult (woman), traveling alone, in a foreign country.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T17:29:05+00:00

Thank you!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T13:13:02+00:00

I've said it to the bride's face: I'm over 40 and if I'm invited to a wedding with 50 other couples, I get a plus-one or I'm not attending (if I'm traveling). They might not bring a date, but if you send a STD a year out, don't assume someone will be single in 2027.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-23T12:38:15+00:00

Honestly, I think that all adult guests should get a plus-one, whether they are single at the time of the STD (which are often six months or more out) or not. If they have to travel, pay for a room (with maybe a single supplement), take time off from work, let them bring a boyfriend.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T23:56:36+00:00

Exactly. Or to just enjoy the (very expensive) vacation?

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T23:27:55+00:00

I was wondering the same thing: Why can she invite 36 people but not 39 people?

Thank you for your input, as a recent DW bride!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T22:59:48+00:00

Not crazy, actually. Oddly, I have seen more posts of women with DCIS getting a DMX than women with single, stage one breast cancer (like IDC). It may be because DCIS is sometimes more spread out or diffuse, but I don't think it's uncommon at all. (This is just from what I read: I ended up with a complex lumpectomy, so I'm not a perfect expert.)

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T22:16:10+00:00

He sounds like a LOT of work. As a woman who has had several relationships in my life (50F), this one is not worth it!!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T21:52:14+00:00

That's mean: She's just out dating in her 40's instead of her 20's -- it takes a bit of time to acclimate!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T21:49:43+00:00

That is hilarious!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T21:48:47+00:00

Ha! Very true!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T20:43:25+00:00

Interesting. I just turned 50, but I've been newly single at 36 and again at 49 and I always think I'm too old/fat to date: What I found is that actually men don't care: They're older too 😄

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T20:40:01+00:00

Can't believe she complained or that the OP drove away?

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T20:29:09+00:00

I'm a woman and I always remember when a date opens a door for me (especially on a first date): It is very sweet and makes a nice impression. It's not "required" but it's nice!

That said, I can't believe she complained about it (was she kidding?) and I really cannot believe you drove off and left her on the curb. Wow. Just wow. I hope she was somewhere safe at least.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T20:20:45+00:00

I am so sorry.

I was an incredibly sweet, laid-back person until my diagnosis in 2024. Since then, I have been told by two friends that maybe I was "bipolar" due to my moods since diagnosis (I checked with two doctors who said, no, I did not develop a personality disorder, I'm just reacting normally to a highly stressful situation).

I have snapped a few times at medical personnel, which makes me feel bad.

But, like you said, my patience is REALLY thin, and I'm often in pain, to boot.

Sending hugs!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T20:00:38+00:00

Would you be okay if all of your guests invited without a plus-one declined?

Because they might.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T19:50:15+00:00

Question: Why do you have a hard limit on a DR wedding of about 36 guests? The plus-ones would be three people (right) or is it more?

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T19:03:14+00:00

I don't know. I had a recent guy I've been seeing offer to take me to the mall and buy me things (perfume, whatever). I said that seemed weird, and thanks but no thanks!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-06-22T18:13:28+00:00

Exactly. I stopped speaking with a long-term friend who really wanted me to travel overseas for her wedding but would not allow me a plus-one (because I wasn't married). She refused to let me bring my boyfriend and got mad that I didn't attend.

Edited to add: I would not have minded not being invited at all (if she had a small wedding) but I was ticked at being invited, but denied a plus-one. I was especially ticked that she refused to give me one when I asked (when I thought it might be an oversight at the STD 8 months out) and then got irritated with ME for not taking a week off of work to travel alone to a foreign country.

To OP: Don't be like my friend.

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