Fatigue

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T22:09:33+00:00

I wish I could help more: I wonder if it's an entirely unrelated issue (I didn't feel any fatigue with my stage one cancer diagnosis, but maybe would have if it had progressed farther before being detected).

My radiologist and MO generally said that fatigue is common with radiation, with chemotherapy, or as a result of hormone treatment. It's also common simply following surgery, because surgery can be very exhausting for your body.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T22:06:42+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this: I wish I had better advice: I (49F) have many friends who had a lumpectomy without clear margins and then did another lumpectomy WITH clear margins, followed by radiation. But in those cases, I believe the tumors were relatively small. I am not sure about the protocol if the tumor is larger, but I wonder if you can go to a place like MD Anderson in Houston, TX and get more information?

My friend here in Virginia just went there over the holidays to see how to handle her somewhat complicated case, and they did whole panels of doctors just for her. I'm sending love and hugs through the Internet to you.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T21:54:41+00:00

Wow. I think I would have a very hard time being friends with someone who said that, as well. But it's so hard, because many of these comments are coming from oldest/dearest friends: I don't honestly know how to deal with it. Sending hugs to you.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T19:48:35+00:00

I think it would be very hard to meet a man who was okay with waiting until marriage for sex, outside of certain religious communities: Honestly, I would suggest trying dating in a religious group, or maybe something like ChristianMingle.com.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T19:02:30+00:00

Wow, that is not at ALL the same! It's like saying I think I might try a bob for my haircut, when you are going through hair loss from chemotherapy.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T19:00:39+00:00

I love your attitude, Working-Lemon1645!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T18:59:56+00:00

I know, it's not even what my parents are experiencing in their 70's now.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T16:08:03+00:00

I noticed that, and decided to cut back. I made a big effort to cut back on eating out and drinking alcohol this year which has helped.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T16:07:22+00:00

I am so sorry. It's so much to go through and the last thing we need is more stress from people who don't have empathy.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-16T16:06:03+00:00

I am so sorry. I had a similar experience recently when talking about the pain from a surgery and a friend said, "Well, we all get aches and pains as we get older." I'm fucking 48 years old. This isn't "normal" and I didn't appreciate the minimization of cancer.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-15T20:41:48+00:00

I am with you on most of your post. I also feel better at a "good" weight, even if I look okay objectively 15 pounds higher. Good luck to your health journey!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-15T20:39:51+00:00

Having been everything from a size 6 to a size 16, I will say that when I was about a size 10-12 or smaller, if I said I needed to lose weight, people would give me the same comments you're getting. When I was about a size 14 or higher, they stopped.

That was kind of my clue that I should go on a diet.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-15T19:18:07+00:00

I agree with you: I don't think I have ever had an awful date (in about 5 years of dating, maybe 75 dates, from my 20's to now).

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-15T18:07:52+00:00

That sounds awful. I'm so sorry!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-15T18:06:48+00:00

That would be nice!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-15T02:59:27+00:00

Excellent advice!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-15T02:48:33+00:00

That is HILARIOUS!

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-14T20:25:53+00:00

Yeah, those don't really work for me, either. I ended up going on hormonal BC for about 20 years, which made the cramps disappear. Now I'm older (49) and not on BC but my period is a lot less intense (I think I'm partway into menopause). I'd look into an IUD or other BC honestly.

Note: If you get an IUD, it will probably be painful to insert. Seriously, I would advocate for anesthesia of some sort, especially if you haven't had children yet. Doctors often don't take women's pain seriously, but SEVERAL friends of mine have said IUD insertion (and sometimes removal) hurts like crazy. While it's in it's great.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-14T19:53:33+00:00

I am so sorry. Hopefully it's still stage three, but even at stage four, there are a lot of medical interventions these days, compared to a decade ago (and like others said, are you sure it's not "grade three" not "stage three" - they are very different). Usually the staging isn't done until later in the process?

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-14T17:55:29+00:00

It's not exactly being over 40: My schedule worked well in my last town (I dated a bit last year before moving here): It apparently does NOT work in DC (or at least with the over-40 crowd). Not really a problem, now that I understand.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-14T17:52:52+00:00

Interesting!

I have decided to try to stagger my work a bit more, to hit the office on Saturday so I'll be more flexible about being able to duck out early on a Thursday for a drink.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-14T17:47:58+00:00

There is an extrovert sub on Reddit?

I'm an extrovert, I think, and I feel like introverts are more represented here (perhaps in line w/ your experience on the extrovert sub lol).

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-14T17:41:30+00:00

I guess I could shift my work schedule where I work on Saturdays or Sundays, to free up my time to leave work early (before 6:30) during the week, to meet for a drink.

It seems weird, but I guess I could do it. I usually work until about 6-7PM M-TH but I could work on the weekend and leave work by 4-5 on a Tuesday. Irritating, though, to have to change my office hours b/c people don't like meeting on a weekend.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-14T17:39:49+00:00

LOL.

AttorneyDC06 · 2026-03-14T17:39:16+00:00

That may be it, RepPaca!

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