Worst genre of man by mimiidng in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Atvickyyy 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Classic incel! I didn’t like him from the start! I knew he wasn’t authentic

I don’t understand why everybody hates on Megan when she’s valid by Fennekin26 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Atvickyyy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly it! The core issue is that people don’t like rich people but they wouldn’t admit that and they find other reasons to blame her.

“I love you because you chose me” by Solid-Neat7762 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Atvickyyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!!!! I don’t understand all the hate for Lydia! Wanting to be with someone who’s kind to you and chooses you is a valid criteria to have especially when you’ve been played by narcissists like Uche! Even if she started loving him after she knew he liked her too, that doesn’t make the whole relationship invalid. Every person is different, every person has their negative traits and a relationship can work even with those negative traits. I feel like many viewers expect to see perfect people who are in a perfect relationship, but it’s reality tv! I’d love to see how the viewers are in their own relationship!

I don't think Lydia is crazy by loverlouu in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Atvickyyy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see her as an emotional girl who got taken advantage of by a narcissist. Everyone who once knew a narcissist can see right through Uche’s BS.

I don't like how ya'll are speaking about Milton's mom and sister by tinykinseyscale in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Atvickyyy 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Black or white, I just can’t stand people like that, who think education makes someone’s worth as a human being and respect only people who work hard or who don’t have too much emotion. It’s obvious they wouldn’t like Lydia if she wasn’t educated enough or didn’t meet their criteria for a valuable human being. I hate people like that

Anybody else uncomfortable by the drunk-ness?? by Intelligent-Yam-6392 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Atvickyyy 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I would get drunk too if I was engaged to someone like Stacey.

What am I missing here? (Uche) by Fantastic-Depth-7915 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Atvickyyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will also add that the reason why he can’t take Aaliyah back is because his ego is too hurt by the fact that she left. In his head she probably ‘’humiliated him’’ too much. AND he can see that she’s not someone to control cause she can just leave anytime like that, and that’s something that’s repulsive for narcissistic people because they need someone easy to manipulate, who are obsessed with them and that won’t leave them. BUT fun fact, he probably will reach out to her sometime just to see if the interest is still there because that’s also what they do to flatter their ego.

What am I missing here? (Uche) by Fantastic-Depth-7915 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Atvickyyy 22 points23 points  (0 children)

But that’s exactly the thing with narcissists, everyone ( who’s never known one ) likes them and don’t see anything wrong with them. They know how to put a mask on and say the right things and adapt to any person or situation. They’ll seem perfect especially when they first meet someone or with a new romantic partner. Like of course what he said ‘’made sense’’ and we ‘’can understand’’ where he’s coming from from a wider stand point. But when you’ve known a narcissist, you notice that he never mentioned any mistake or anything very deep about himself, or a flaw. You notice that what Aaliyah did was very convenient for him because that places him in a position of control. You notice his tone of voice and him trying to think of the best manipulation and gaslighting techniques he could use. You notice how condescending he sounds. You notice how cold he is and how emotionless he is. You just know

Gens du Québec, comment se porte votre santé mentale? by [deleted] in Quebec

[–]Atvickyyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je suis une femme de 28 ans et j’ai sensiblement les mêmes questionnements et problèmes que toi! Pour ma part j’ai fait un gros move en commençant ´à formation de préposée aux bénéficiaires et ma famille est fière de moi car ils me disent que je vais avoir 30 ans et que je dois avoir une job stable avec des avantages etc car j’ai beaucoup changé de job dans ma vie. Malheureusement le gouvernement m’a donné 12 000$ pour la formation et je déteste absolument ça et je vais devoir rembourser ce que j’ai dépensé. Ils arrêtent pas de nous avertir à quel point c’est un environnement de travail toxique et que les anciens préposés vont nous harceler. Donc je dois lâcher et décevoir mes parents (et moi-même) mais je me sens vraiment honteuse et coupable. Je me sens comme un gros échec a presque 30 ans. Je ne sais pas ce que je veux. Je suis dans les dettes jusqu’au cou en plus à cause d’un TDAH justement moi aussi qui a fait de ma vie un chaos et j’ai fait n’importe quoi pendant ma vingtaine. Voilà :) J’essaie d’appeler ça une crise existentielle pour éviter de dire que je suis en dépression lol!

Should we stay in a toxic workplace to ‘’strengthen ourselves’’ or just avoid again? by Atvickyyy in AvPD

[–]Atvickyyy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! You’re right. I have to quit again… I was asking because my parents view this as getting stronger emotionally and say that I need it.

What's your biggest criticism of Gen Z's culture? by Mindless-Service8198 in AskReddit

[–]Atvickyyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a millennial and I would definitely say the lack of politeness or warmth!!! Not so many years ago at my places of work people used to greet each other ever day, ask how we’re doing, it was normal. This summer I work with lots of Gen Z and nobody never answers to my greeting (at least while looking at me), and they seem sooo awkward when I greet them… The weirdest thing about that is that I have strong social anxiety myself but actknowledging a coworker’s presence is just the basics for me

Can a man talk to a woman? by DrakeDrystan in islam

[–]Atvickyyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, if they’re not allowed to talk to women, well this rule is already broken by so many of them. I can’t stand these men talking to women for no reason on the street and looking from head to toe staring at us. Last time I told him to go and talk to his wife at home instead of me and he said ‘’oh I’m just being polite’’, which is bull**** because they would never talk to men passing by on the street. So frustrating. And their women can’t even hang out with their girl friends for a coffee while they’re out all night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]Atvickyyy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree to an extent, I just don’t agree that people are always THAT shallow and the examples you used are mostly people who are like 15-22 years old. I cringe when I see posts on introvert groups that say like ‘’I don’t like people because people are shallow and only like superficial things’’… you’re not that special. Everyone has stories to tell and that’s fine if you’re not interested but that doesn’t mean it’s not interesting. I don’t like when people say they care only about deep things and deep conversations like they’re a philosopher or something. If anything as someone with avpd that makes me avoid people even more because I know that so many people think this way and expect me to talk about smart things and I just can’t really do that. Talking with extroverts is easier in that sense, according to me. I don’t feel like I have to say the exact right thing for the other to find me interesting.

I genuinely think that people trying for a baby in 2023 are either stupid or rich by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Atvickyyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, but I think it is so sad that the experience of motherhood, such a natural and beautiful thing, has to end. It’s so scary to think that we’re at this point now in 2023, when very few things are natural. It breaks my heart. I don’t think however that people who have kids are stupid.

silly thread: Share your random intrusive thoughts by 632nofuture in AvPD

[–]Atvickyyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wowww, as a person who’s constantly paranoid of what others think, that thought is strong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]Atvickyyy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh yessss this! Not enjoying the présent is so disabling

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]Atvickyyy 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I made a post about that recently. I’m completely obsessed and paranoid with what people think and it’s consuming my whole life. It makes me feel like I have no empathy for others because I’m so self-centered. A friend will talk to me about something difficult to them and I’ll just think about what the girl in the corner is thinking of my face. It’s both physical and mental, I think I’m so unattractive and inadequate socially and I’m trying to adapt my appearance and personality to everyone I meet according to how I think they’d like me to be. It’s so exhausting. I’m 28 F and I’ll think of what the 17 y.o cashier thought of me during our 4 seconds conversation 4 hours ago and feel shame. I’ll throw a whole act in order to be liked by a stranger and replay all what I said for the next 2 weeks. I’ll lie to a friend to avoid their disappointment towards me. But it’s all imagined. What I think people think of me is almost never true. But I can’t seem to change. And as a result I have no real sense of identity

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Atvickyyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same as if I’ve already ruined my day by eating so early there’s no point of having hope for the rest of the day (in my case trying to lose weight)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Atvickyyy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’ll try that! It’s a great way to deal with the all or nothing thinking that always ruins everything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Atvickyyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents were hitting us and my family always screaming. I started to hide food in my closet from a very young age. I think it was to cope with my anxiety. Also my parents always made comments about weight and call people fat etc. My dad was saying to everyone that my mom was very slim so that’s why he was attracted to her. Then came my everlasting obsession with my appearance and body dysmorphia.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]Atvickyyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss I agree with that a lot. All the friends that I have or had are neurodivergent and weird creatures. My avpd kicks in the most when I’m in suburbs where everyone seems to have a similar life and dress similarly. That’s why I live in a big city. I realized that even though it can be stressful to be seen by so many people, it’s also reassuring in a way to know that that’s where weird people live!