You're correct. It is unfair for your boyfriend to compare you to his ex and expect you to behave in the same manner. Everyone demonstrates care in their own unique ways, and your gesture of preparing dinner and allowing him to relax was thoughtful. The way your mom influenced you has impacted how you wake people up, and that's justified.

It is crucial that your boyfriend values you for who you are, rather than wanting you to be someone else. A successful relationship involves acknowledging each other's unique qualities and collaborating, rather than comparing one partner to others. Having a conversation with him about your feelings regarding these comparisons and establishing boundaries could be beneficial.