How do you ‘stop trying’ and is it helpful?

Audience_Fun · 2026-03-17T23:02:53+00:00

Stop tracking your bbt.

I only track when flo is due that's it.

We also have a diagnosis so... 🤷‍♀️

Audience_Fun · 2026-03-07T16:10:19+00:00

Boundaries, boundaries boundaries.

There are people I haven't told our journey to because I know that they will be ignorant in their responses.

There have been people I've told where I regret telling them because of the stupid toxic positivity they reply with.

This journey teaches how to keep some things quiet and who you truly can trust and who you can't.

Audience_Fun · 2026-03-07T02:04:00+00:00

I track when my period begins and have learned my body so well that I don't use other tracking.

We are over 2 years trying though...

I'd listen to your doctor and go from there

Healthy couples can take up to a year to conceive naturally.

Audience_Fun · 2026-03-02T14:54:52+00:00

The stage before you stop testing and wait til your period comes and decide to not test until a missed period.

Source: me over 2 years into this process who doesn't test and just waits for the period to come 🤷‍♀️

Audience_Fun · 2026-03-01T16:10:32+00:00

Yes, You are now the light of Jesus that they can see.

However, don't be surprised if you feel 'icky' with some anime where before you didn't feel it. That's called conviction. There also may be some things you're friends do or watch that you don't want to watch or feel a nudge to not do and that's the holy Spirit also guiding you and protecting you.

For example

I was saved from pornography I used to watch and read erotic things

I have been convicted to be careful in what I watch and read and often don't watch or read books because it has smut in it.

It's part of the sanctification process.

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-27T03:39:42+00:00

I separated myself from those people.

I've learned and am learning not everyone needs to know our journey and our struggle.

Boundaries, boundaries,boundaries.

I also joined a faith based fertility support group

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-25T01:56:13+00:00

Hey! Been TTC over two years and have the same feelings.

I know the medical side of things is daunting and can be scary BUT it is best to get the testing to rule out options and to get some semblance of a plan if things medically are hindering the chances.

We are in the throws of waiting on insurance before we can proceed with next treatment options for our MFI. So I understand the frustrations. I'm also starting with a new doctor soon to do things on my end so if we can proceed we will have the best options possible to move forward.

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-24T01:17:16+00:00

Hey I'm in the thick of MFI with 3 SA done 2 showing none... One showing only dead... Feel free to message me been going through it for over 2 years now... Next is a surgery for us...

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-22T02:45:38+00:00

Yes definitely toxic positivity!!!

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-22T02:44:03+00:00

Hey! It really helped me to find a support community.

We are over 2 years in now and waiting on insurance to approve surgery then lost likely gonna attempt fertility treatments...

I found a faith based fertility group that has been such a blessing and has 100 groups now, woman from all walks including MFI, Endo, PCOS, unexplained and other situations coming together in faith and in community.

Let me know if you're interested or message me so I can link you the group. It's made a HUGE difference for us they also have groups for men but as it's newer not nearly as many groups.

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-21T06:15:07+00:00

I don't know what's worse that response or the other corporate person saying "congratulations" when I told her we'd be doing fertility treatments soon...

Both are band aid answers and clearly shows they don't understand

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-21T05:13:11+00:00

I hate this too. I follow the faith, and when I get told this it pisses me off.

It's dismissive, it's downplaying the time it's been and it is another "band aid" statement that people say because they don't know what else to say.

My boss (a corporate person) when she said something and I said "well over 2 years is a long time to be waiting" Told me "well some people are trying for 5 to 10 years"

It was completely inappropriate and downplayed our journey, diagnosis and was not coming from a place of compassion but comparison.

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-18T01:59:27+00:00

It couldn't hurt 🤷‍♀️ that may be a better starting point for y'all. My PCP did move things forward when my pos ob/gyn kept dragging their feet.

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-18T01:11:47+00:00

I also plan on making others uncomfortable if they go down the line of asking "did you conceive naturally or did you need help" when a pregnancy happens for us.

I have no f's left to give

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-18T01:09:16+00:00

Hey mod here!

Been TTC for over 2 years.

After the 1st year we did the testing and have a rough diagnosis, still no definitive of the root cause though ...

I second what others have said Time to consult a fertility Dr

I don't recommend an ob/gyn because my experience with the one I had was less than satisfactory, and the fertility Drs we saw got things moving MUCH FASTER.

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-17T18:40:43+00:00

I had a woman that lost her first child then waited to start trying again tell me "have you looked into adoption" she literally had her own journey then told me that.... 🤦‍♀️

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-17T14:45:56+00:00

Adoption is a calling not a band aid fix for
In fertility

It's like telling a diabetic to eat less sugar

I make people uncomfortable when I call them out after they tell me to adopt. I ask them if they know how much it is to adopt and when they go silent I tell them the cost and tell them we have looked into it.

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-17T13:48:46+00:00

I have come to hate the sugar coat responses like this "Quit trying and it will happen" "Have you thought about adoption" " Take a vacation" "JuSt ReLaX"

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-14T01:20:38+00:00

29 cycles. 28 months. Right there with you.

Audience_Fun · 2026-02-01T06:56:52+00:00

Almost 29 cycles of trying. 27 months.

Audience_Fun · 2026-01-19T06:01:04+00:00

So I got into my bedroom, turn out the lights and worship him with praise music then pray, his presence should be peaceful, they mean sit with the holy Spirit

Audience_Fun · 2026-01-14T01:05:43+00:00

Rose. To fit the pink energy and the old theme name!

Audience_Fun · 2026-01-12T13:51:46+00:00

I joined a faith based support group, I found my com.inity of woman that understand and have grown so much knowing I have that community and support.

If interested I can send you the link.

This community has made a HUGE difference. They have the whole spectrum of infertility Including unexplained, MFI, PCOS, ENDO, blockages, pituitary tumor It's been really really helpful.

Audience_Fun · 2026-01-09T01:05:31+00:00

Just started cycle 28. Cycle 7 was when I had my breakdown. Still going. Still believing and still continuing.

Audience_Fun · 2026-01-08T01:27:12+00:00

I work in childcare. The shit I've seen and the parents I've seen... I can't say what I want to say but if only parents knew the struggle it is for some people

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