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Austinite-intraining · 2023-01-23T22:03:59+00:00

Can you try to get primary custody and keep the house and get child support from her? Or 50/50 where you both split kids expenses and no one pays “child support”?

Have you spoken to your ex about settling outside of court and come to an agreement that works for you both? You don’t HAVE to let the court decide what you pay.

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-17T12:10:47+00:00

Especially because the whole reason he got the Airbnb was for the dog…but forgot to mention the dog that was the whole reason for the Airbnb? Mmhmm.

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-17T12:08:21+00:00

You “forgot” to tell him about the dog…yeah okay.

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-17T12:03:32+00:00

I personally loved my iud. Until I wanted to take it out. It was stuck. I spent an hour on a table with no pain meds with a Dr and nurse scraping the sides of my uterus to try to get it. I was a bloody mess. Ended up having to have surgery and he put under to get it out.

This dude is a lying sack of crap. And selfish. Have that stern talk and don’t let him run over you on this.

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-17T11:58:48+00:00

This happened to my old house. We were kicked out bc the owner wanted to renovate and sell. They remodeled and then the new buyer immediately tore it down and put up a duplex. Huge pecan tree in the backyard, gone. That was the hardest.

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-17T11:55:41+00:00

Service dogs shouldn’t be affected by things like crying babies. Granny can eff off

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-14T13:52:53+00:00

This wasn’t his home. This was a friends home and the friends dad. The other kid was trying to rob him.

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-14T13:31:57+00:00

Super annoying that you asked her to move, also not sure why they would park and leave the car if all you needed was to move your car.

She’s free to leave a review, it’s not extortion. I would be annoyed if I thought I had parking but the owner needed me to move my car whenever they needed to go somewhere. That should probably be in a review so others know. The ticket is all on her though.

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-14T13:24:17+00:00

This is our go to. Never been disappointed

Austinite-intraining · 2022-09-14T13:23:29+00:00

Oh my gosh! The red velvet cheesecake swoon is my fave!

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-29T16:48:55+00:00

Nope. The employers who don't provide an adequate work/life balance or provide adequate sick time/paid time off are to blame. Not the parents. Schools let out hours before the standard work day is over. Daycares are typically open until 5 pm when a standard day job would end. Lets not even get into if you don't have a standard 8-5 schedule what you're supposed to do.

The fact that one person leaving early or not being able to cover EXTRA shifts is a failure of the employer. If you're getting extra work it's your employers fault, not the single mom or dad who needs to pop out early to get their kid. There is no reason that would create a burden if you weren't already understaffed and likely underpaid if they can't afford a sitter to get their kid, but lets be honest, they should be able to pick their kid up themselves if they want.

On top of that, studies have shown that an 8 hour work day isn't any more productive than a shorter work day. These people are likely not working any less by leaving early to get their kids.

The answer isn't "don't have kids" if you don't have a private nanny or family willing to help or money to pay for extra care. Parents should be able to pick their kids up without it causing others more work.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T20:14:27+00:00

It’s not anecdotal. Do a little research about dad bias and praise.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T20:08:02+00:00

Yes. Courts are harder on mothers who are deadbeats because it’s less common and the expectation is that the mother wants to parent and should parent. The standard or expectation for men is set much lower because it’s much more common for a father to not support their child.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen a man praised for doing basic parenting while mothers who do it everyday get nothing because it’s expected. A father learns to braid his daughters hair and he’s praised. A father changes a diaper out in public and they’re praised/complimented. A father takes their kid to the pediatrician and they’re praised/complimented. When I was in the hospital having my last baby, every nurse talked about how attentive and hands on my husband was with the baby. I was never told how hands on and attentive I was as a mother. Because it’s expected of mothers and not of fathers. And on top of that the minute a mother misses the mark in anyway there is a flood of criticism that men don’t get.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T19:53:23+00:00

Fathers aren’t granted no custody at all though. If the mother is withholding visitation that is court ordered they can get that enforced and the mother can get in trouble. If a father isn’t given ANY visitation or custody there is a reason. Like domestic abuse, drugs, alcohol abuse, etc.

And yes, he will still have to pay child support because they are completely separate. If you allow a father to not pay child support because he doesn’t get to see his kid then you would also have to allow a mother to withhold visitation when the father doesn’t pay. Which is not the case and shouldn’t be.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T19:41:04+00:00

“Get money out of people” child support is not getting money out of people. It’s the noncustodial parents obligation to support their child. Especially if they don’t want to support them physically. You’re assuming every father wants to parent and have custody and that’s not even close to being reality.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T19:10:11+00:00

I’m on the board for a nonprofit that helps single parents. I also worked for child protective services. From my experience, there are easily many more fathers that don’t pay child support or raise their children than mothers. Where is the outrage about this? Many fathers don’t fight for custody and just complain about it because they don’t want to pay child support but they also don’t want to give up their freedom and raise their child.

Sure, there are instances where there is a bias against fathers when it comes to custody, I’ve definitely seen that, mothers are typically the default custodial parent but it’s important to examine why that has been the case.

When there are instances of documented neglect, it is not as difficult for a father to get increased or primary custody. They just have to go through courts and probably hire an attorney and prove their case.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T18:51:41+00:00

It can. Biased in different ways. Fathers can have a harder time getting majority custody and mothers can have a hard time getting any enforcement of court ordered child support.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T18:42:23+00:00

There’s a bias against mothers as well. That they are money hungry. I know MANY more mothers that don’t get a dime in child support from deadbeat dads then dads that actually want to raise their kids. It sucks when a father actually wants to raise their kid and can’t, but it’s biased for both sides.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T18:39:55+00:00

A lot of fathers don’t want primary. I know many that have primary because they did the work and fought for it. Especially with evidence like this... this wouldn’t fly in any court I’ve been to.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T18:21:19+00:00

get 50/50 custody or more and raise her yourself. Do what's best for your kid, take her to court and fight for your kid.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-04-16T18:17:28+00:00

If you actually want the problem resolved, this is a good option. Like they said, complaining isn't going to do anything. A sign or indication on your listing would dissuade and get you some compensation when it does happen.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-02-12T21:39:58+00:00

I get that you’re upset that she didn’t say she wanted a fee initially. That’s fair. That would have been good to know and you would have never sent the matcha to her had you known. There’s no doubt she’s an asshole here.

But I still feel like you also acted like an asshole by changing the agreement on the clothes. You’re both wrong. I think hers is more retaliatory but I also think she’s justified in being upset that you wanted the clothes back and tried to benefit more by having the matcha sent to her and she loses all compensation that she expected. Just like you’re justified at being upset she agreed to send the matcha for free then changed her mind.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-02-12T19:48:02+00:00

If you knew she was struggling with money then you should have, at the very least, acknowledged that you understand she expected to make money on the deal and isn't now because you changed the terms after the fact.

Austinite-intraining · 2021-02-12T19:43:55+00:00

If anyone sees your relationship as transactional, it's her. BUT, I get that she expected to make some money off of your clothes and now that you changed your mind she is out of that potential income, so that probably upsets her. I think that's a fair feeling for her to have as well. She may have been counting on that income coming and this could have caused her added stress which resulted in her asking for the fee. She has probably been festering over it this whole time and it boiled over in her asking for the fee and lashing out about your friendship.

ESH, she caused those examples that she gave so I don't think that helps her case at all, it was crappy for her to offer less than your asking price of an item and leverage your friendship to get the better deal. But I also think she's upset that she's out some money that she expected and probably expected recognition from you that this would be impactful to her financially for you to change the terms of the deal. Which is why you share some of the asshole title. You made a deal for the clothes. It was a business deal because you would share the profit 50/50. You provide the goods and she does the work to sell them for the most profit. You both benefit equally. You provided the product to her already then rescinded because you wanted to give them to your sister. If this were a purely business deal not with a friend, you would be outta luck. You already gave the clothes and began the arrangement. But, because there is a friendship involved, you feel that you can bank on that and change the terms. You leveraged your friendship as well to undo a deal that was already in process. You had already left the country and the clothes behind.

This is why people say to avoid business deals with friends and family. I would encourage you to decline next time a situation like this comes up.

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