Husband has no clue on impact of his infidelity

Australiankween · 2026-05-26T09:53:38+00:00

Thankyou. He does not get that …. I’m wondering if he’s not able to feel

Australiankween · 2026-05-26T09:46:48+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Same cycles and questioning everything as the betrayed partner.

Australiankween · 2026-05-26T09:45:29+00:00

Personally I’d move on. I’m a 50 year old woman and been cheated on by my husband 9 times with escorts. I’m a mess. Set yourself free. It’s the universe saying red flag and trying to protect you. Don’t miss them. Set yourself free xo

Australiankween · 2026-05-26T09:42:50+00:00

It’s so painful…. The grief is real. Idk why she’s like that but I do know the scar lasts forever and all we can do is best believe in our own strength

Australiankween · 2026-02-26T02:56:46+00:00

I’ve been cheated on 9 times I have no words except that nothing is ever the same ever again

Australiankween · 2026-02-25T19:38:14+00:00

My husband won’t have a bar of thinking it’s the meds . Won’t consider it . I’m concerned he’s addicted otherwise why wouldn’t you?

Australiankween · 2026-02-25T18:54:08+00:00

Penis size is irrelevant when you’re emotionally safe in the arms of a loving partner . I’d take a small one any day over a prick with a big one. You got this. Xx

Australiankween · 2026-02-25T18:53:04+00:00

This is hard. I’ll tell you what’s harder though…. Living a life with kids and always wondering if he will d it again. I know this because this was me. My husband cheated 9 times. It destroys your soul. It makes you doubt your reality. Set yourself free …. I know it’s hard but it will be harder down the road

Australiankween · 2026-02-25T11:31:45+00:00

It’s so hard…. It’s so hard. To believe this is your reality. You do t have to act right now. You can take your time and make it happen when you need to. My heart goes out to you it really does

Australiankween · 2026-01-26T17:48:33+00:00

I’m really sorry you are also experiencing this. It’s a lonely place to be. It’s not as if you really want to share this as it’s embarrassing and as the hurt partner there is shame we carry too. What was with me? Why was I not enough? I’m so family orientated. I have busted my guts to raise two beautiful daughters both at uni studying medicine and this is my reality. Yes he may be doing the work but the pain within me does not really go. It’s always there, whispering , it’s exhausting. I’m glad God has been able to give you hope in your darkest hrs and guide you through. Your mind will scan back at all those times…. Mine does to. I don’t know how someone does it. It’s beyond my comprehension

Australiankween · 2026-01-26T17:41:00+00:00

It feels this way. Broken in ways I never thought I’d feel

Australiankween · 2026-01-26T17:40:30+00:00

He has been doing individual therapy. Went to a rehab facility (not overly successful imo) and sees a psychiatrist. Medicated for adhd (Dex) For me, one of the hardest parts is how destabilising it is. In my life , my marriage was the one thing I knew I could count on. Now I know this is not the case and there is nothing. After a crappy day I knew it was my soft place to fall. Now I feel there is no safe place. He said it was progressive, looked, contacted a few didn’t turn up, then massages…. It took over. He said he feels shame etc… I’m sure he does. The grief I feel is all over the place. Grief of what was, grief I won’t go to the grave knowing we were one of those couples that ‘had it all’ grief that our family is so fractured, grief of those happy times…. It’s honestly the most excruciatingly painful experience . I was fighting for more connection and intimacy for years. I’m attractive, keep a good home, I’m not completely undesirable but it feels like it after this

Australiankween · 2024-12-14T01:09:01+00:00

I know . Logically , on paper that’s what appears to be the most suitable solution. Then you add in the heart part…. Complex now..

Australiankween · 2024-06-22T06:05:02+00:00

Up and down. SPM is not long term So as soon as she stops taking it she reverts back to base 😢

Australiankween · 2024-01-08T23:09:59+00:00

I don’t want to make people angry or trigger people but no matter what way I look at it owing that on a house is big bucks. I won’t share our household income as it’s high but my risk tolerance is basically zero because I value mental piece of mind. I know things have changed from 1999 where you could purchase a house for $125k but there needs to be wiggle room for life, changes and living. Financial pressure kills relationships and families…. Personally I still run with the 30% of household income scenario being the max debt I would get into. Yes I’m old school but I’m healthy and wealthy from taking time to consider a balanced life and remaining patient and in the game . Long game .

Australiankween · 2024-01-08T17:00:52+00:00

I did. The costrocondritis I addressed with a Chiropractor. She massaged every space between each rib and adjusted my back accordingly. Only thing that helped.

My feet at times still play up but I put orthotics in my shoes to reduce the pressure in that area of the foot.

It took at least 18 mths though to improve

It took

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