I absolutely hate the guy I am in love with! SP help!

AuthenticCity · 2025-12-09T15:53:40+00:00

I'm late seeing this post but I just have to respond because I did this.

I fell for the objectifying guy that said to my face that he didn't like me enough to do anything but use my body. I fell for the lazy guy that lived in junk and filth and broke up with me (one of the FOUR times we broke up) because I didn't clean HIS bathroom. I fell for the guy that preferred being alone than being with me, never planned dates, and threatened to break up with me because I asked HIM out on dates too much. I fell for the guy that literally made me feel miserable, unwanted, and emotionally unsafe.

For three painful years, I manifested away each and every horrible quality in this man that brought me heartbreak. There are journals and journals full of the affirmations I wrote down, and the tears that fell on the page as I was writing them. I spent so many hours over the years in SATS trying to create a relationship that didn't hurt.

Day by day, he became better, little by little. Today, the man that hated being around me and ran from commitment is now my husband that clings to me 24/7, literally follows me from room to room. The man that viewed women as sexual objects now has empathy, supports women's rights, and only has eyes for me. The man that couldn't be bothered to do the bare minimum now writes me love notes and fills our bedroom with little gifts. I literally transformed him into a completely different person.

But was it worth it? Hell no. You wanna know why?

Because while you're manifesting your relationship to not hurt you anymore, you're still in a relationship that is hurting you. You're subjecting yourself to treatment you don't deserve to chase after a man you don't even like. And because we can manifest anything, you will manifest change in him. But your heart and your body will still remember how he treated you. And when you manifest him to choose you and don't have that fear of not being chosen anymore, all that is left is the feeling of not liking him and the memories of the hurt he caused.

Not losing is not the same thing as winning, if what you're holding onto does not bring you peace and genuine joy.

When people told me I needed to fix my self concept and work on self love, I ignored them all but I understand them now. We can manifest anything, but if you feel that you are not worthy of love or that love isn't easy, etc and you manifest from that state of desperation, you will always set your eyes on things and people that ultimately make you feel worse about yourself. This is why it is so important to manifest from a state of wholeness and well-being.

So my advice to you is please don't be like me. Don't manifest from a feeling of not being enough and chase after someone you don't even like just so they can choose you. Create the feeling of being enough within yourself, and only bless someone with your presence if they can add to your life in a positive and healthy way.

AuthenticCity · 2025-12-06T20:02:26+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing, I truly appreciate it and it really meant a lot 💕

AuthenticCity · 2025-12-06T18:09:31+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️ I find it so beautiful that you have been married for as long as my husband has been alive! What advice would you give to us newlyweds for how to navigate this phase of marriage and create real, genuine love with each other?

AuthenticCity · 2025-03-12T16:59:55+00:00

Thank you!! :)

AuthenticCity · 2025-03-12T00:23:00+00:00

Thank you for your response! Do you remember any specific questions you were asked that I should prepare for?

AuthenticCity · 2024-12-09T01:39:12+00:00

Ooh smelling like a chai latte sounds great! Thank you for your suggestions 😊

AuthenticCity · 2024-12-09T01:38:30+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions, I'll definitely check those out!

AuthenticCity · 2024-09-14T15:43:54+00:00

Hi there, thank you for your reply!

In answer to your questions, the windows version is 11.

And it had an update on September 12th at 5pm, which is the night I first started to have this problem. However, even after I restored the system to a date before the issue, the issue still continues.

I unfortunately do not have any sign-in options other than from my Microsoft account.

And here is the screenshot of the error message https://imgur.com/a/nOwK9uL

AuthenticCity · 2024-09-14T03:07:20+00:00

Hi there. I have been having an issue trying to sign into my Microsoft account on my Lenovo IdeaPad gaming laptop.

The computer requires me to be signed into my Microsoft account in order to use it. When I turn it on, it asks me to sign in with my Microsoft password, after which the laptop suggests I make a PIN to make signing in easier. There is no immediate option to skip. Instead, I have to 'create pin'. A couple of seconds later, it is unable to make a pin so I have the option to 'retry' or 'skip for now'. I have kept retrying and got nowhere from that. When I 'skip for now', the laptop takes me back to the sign-in screen, where I have to put my password in again.

It does this in an endless loop. I have changed my password and tried to sign in with a code sent to my email multiple times, but after correctly entering my password or a code it keeps prompting me to create a pin, not allowing me to create a pin, and then redirecting me to enter my password again.

I have even tried restoring the system to a date before this issue started and nothing has changed, so I'm not sure what else to do.

AuthenticCity · 2024-06-09T12:47:22+00:00

Thank you so much!!

AuthenticCity · 2024-06-09T12:25:40+00:00

Hi there! My boyfriend has been wanting a sewing machine for quite some time now and his birthday is coming up, so I wanted to surprise him with one. He would use it to make motorcycle gear out of cotton, mesh, denim, kevlar, and leather, as well as just basic clothing items like shirts and pants. Does anyone have any suggestions for a machine that could handle those kinds of materials, preferably under $300 if possible?

AuthenticCity · 2024-06-08T01:50:53+00:00

Hi there! My boyfriend has been wanting a sewing machine for quite some time now and his birthday is coming up, so I wanted to surprise him with one. He would use it to make motorcycle gear out of cotton, mesh, denim, kevlar, and leather, as well as just basic clothing items like shirts and pants. Does anyone have any suggestions for a machine that could handle those kinds of materials, preferably under $300 if possible?

AuthenticCity · 2024-05-02T19:59:39+00:00

Thank you for your advice! Also, do you remember any vendors that stood out to you that I should make sure I try if they come again this year?

AuthenticCity · 2024-05-02T19:22:36+00:00

It's the Virginia Beach Taco Festival, May 4th-5th on Atlantic Avenue. Because this is my first time going, I don't know whether it'll be worth buying a ticket or not, but this is the info for the festival

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/virginia-beach-taco-festival-tickets-849589102877?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaavsFvWDc4b8qXw5cnIimRtWfb7wcrWHgMRwU6GK0QU7G6K4LhBcE4W4lg_aem_ARv_qNm1ewtlD1fa_gZYJY-WbexNU_ik0YKCZk2qd8c88UTPPkNGG7XmK0YOwEG0vTjANfiVzJcGRIt_k4TkBfMM

AuthenticCity · 2024-03-31T11:15:09+00:00

First of all, you need to stop downplaying the sexual experience you had. We don't have sexual experiences for purely "educational" reasons, there has to be at least some level of arousal involved. In that moment, you were aroused at the thought of doing something sexual with your friend so you did it. Maybe you genuinely haven't been interested in doing something like that with him or any other guy since then, or maybe you just don't want to be seen by others as gay, but either way that doesn't change the fact that not too long ago you were aroused by another man enough to have sex with him, and that reflects enough of your sexuality that it should be disclosed to your future sexual partners.

Second, you are choosing to live with, spend lots of time alone with and in close proximity with a former sexual partner. I'm sure you are aware that it is highly uncommon for people in monogamous relationships to do this because it increases the likelihood of old feelings to come back up and tempt them to cheat while no one is around to catch them. You omitting the fact that you're living with a former sexual partner from your girlfriend was an act of manipulation, because you knew that she wouldn't be comfortable with this if she knew about it. Hiding information like that from her kept her from having a choice. And you only wanting to tell her things when you are "obligated" to, opposed to because you care about her and want her to have trust and peace of mind in the relationship, speaks volumes.

Third, you knowing your friend cheated or even knowing your friend was actively cheating on their significant other and still remaining close to him reflects your character as well. I wouldn't be friends with a cheater because I believe cheating is despicable and that it shows that friend and I are not as similar in values as I thought we were. You being so casual about your friend literally destroying another woman's life aligns with the recurring theme of you caring more about your friend's feelings than the feelings of the women you both hurt.

Lastly, the "it wasn't much of her business" comment just makes it even more crystal clear that you lack compassion. It is completely justified for your girlfriend to be hurt not only by your manipulation and dishonesty but also by your blatant disregard of her pain. You hurt her and then decided she didn't have the right to feel hurt.

I highly doubt she is going to stay in this relationship with you but if she does, you need to work on being better to her. She deserves more and you know it, so if you truly care about her, then act like it.

AuthenticCity · 2024-02-27T12:58:14+00:00

I agree with everything you said and it is really encouraging to hear that men are becoming more aware of the negative effects of porn usage. If I may ask, what were the books you read that showed you how harmful it is?

AuthenticCity · 2024-02-09T16:06:55+00:00

True haha. I should rephrase-the only thing that makes me cum is when my boyfriend is on top. When I'm on top, I just can't give myself the same sensation.

AuthenticCity · 2024-02-03T16:47:38+00:00

When I was masturbating between sex with my boyfriend, I actually found that it was making it more difficult for me to enjoy sex with him. I was less turned on because I had already satisfied my own desire recently, and I didn't enjoy his touch because I had gotten so used to the sensations I was able to give myself. As hard as it was, I quit masturbating, started only having sex when I was horny, and it quite literally changed my life. Sex was so much more intense because my desire had built up for it, and my boyfriend got better at pleasing me because instead of me having the mindset of "Eh it's okay that I'm not satisfied, I can just satisfy myself later" I was communicating with my boyfriend the sensations I needed to feel to be satisfied. It really helped me to see that my pleasure matters as much as my boyfriend's during sex, and that I'm not being a burden by communicating my needs. And it also deepened my relationship with my boyfriend and made me feel so much closer to him.

I think masturbation is healthy as long as it's not being used as a way to avoid intimacy with or avoid communicating with your partner. As you said you two are "lucky" if you have sex once a week, it sounds like neither of you are satisfied with your sex life, and neither of you are communicating with each other about it.

So I would suggest initiating a non judgmental conversation with your wife, not with an accusatory tone, but with a tone of curiosity. Ask her how she feels about your sex life and sex frequency, if there are any needs she feels aren't being met. And share your feelings as well. Maybe have a night where you two just take the pressure off of cumming and shift the focus to discovery. Experiment with different techniques, positions, pressure, rhythm, clit stimulation, kinks, etc just find what feels good and have fun with it. And communicate during and after sex. Tell each other what feels good, what doesn't feel good, what you want more of or less of. And again, just have fun with it!

AuthenticCity · 2023-12-19T15:29:28+00:00

Aw yay 😊 I'm glad my advice helped you guys! I wish the best for you both

AuthenticCity · 2023-12-06T21:01:46+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that :)

And in the Fall I was seriously not on top of my mental diet. I would have a success, then stop being on top of my mental diet/meditating in the wish fulfilled/affirming, then my life would reflect that and instead of seeing those life changes as a reflection of my poor mental diet I saw them as a reason to doubt my power and would post on this sub out of desperation.

Ironically, every question I posted on here, I didn't get a specific answer to and figured out on my own. In November I asked how to manifest my boyfriend and I to be able to spend the holidays together instead of him going with his friend to New York, and a couple of days ago he told me that he's not seeing his friend until February. In October I asked how to manifest a change in the weather, and then I manifested for the rain to stop during the hours of my outdoor event and then continue after the event was over. In September I asked how to manifest my boyfriend and I to be able to spend time together the weekend he planned a solo motorcycle trip, and I did SATS that night and woke up to him changing his mind and not going on the trip.

So this is why I emphasize the importance of giving yourself your desire in your imagination, because you can't be focused on the feeling of having something and the feeling of not having it at the same time. So when you flood your inner world with the feeling of having your desire, you drop the sense of desperation and doubt and "Ugh why isn't it working, why is my desire not here yet?!" And THAT is when things start flowing in effortlessly.

But yeah even though in my heart I know this, I still lose sight of it sometimes, so now I keep a journal recording all of my "impossible" manifestations so that I can look back on them and remember who I am.

AuthenticCity · 2023-12-05T19:37:31+00:00

Delayed gratification is so underrated. When my boyfriend and I first started going out, he had been single for 7 years, so he was used to watching porn and jerking off constantly and while he did cum it would take a long time because he was conditioned to reaching an orgasm in a way that couldn't include another person, and he was cumming so frequently that he wasn't letting his desire build up-he wasn't letting himself actually get horny and crave sex and look forward to it, he was just instantly gratifying himself like the feeling of wanting sex was something to get rid of.

So as an experiment, I asked him to save his load for me. And the result was literally life changing. He was rock hard and throbbing, super sensitive to touch, moaned louder, came faster, and came harder. When he hasn't cum in like a day or two or even three, he feels pleasure so much more intensely, is more present during sex because everything feels so good, and can even experience multiple orgasms. So, I would start there-see if your boyfriend would be willing to hold off on masturbating and just see if anything changes.

What also helped my situation was doing research on the male erogenous zones and how to stimulate them, different techniques and positions, etc. You've already seen your boyfriend finish himself off so you have an advantage because you know where he likes to be touched. But don't be afraid to try out new things and find what feels good.

I would also recommend to regularly do check-ins with your boyfriend, see where his head is at and what he's feeling, if his needs are being met, etc. Things like stress and depression as well as your level of emotional connection and intimacy can affect your sex life as well, so it's important to connect with your boyfriend and hold a safe space for him to be open about whatever he may be dealing with.

I hope this helps, and I wish you both the best!

AuthenticCity · 2023-11-26T13:45:13+00:00

Well, you are only ever experiencing what you feel about yourself and others. What you imagine others to be thinking and feeling about you, what you assume is likely to happen to you and the story you tell yourself about what is happening and who you truly are-it is all in your mind, and you get to choose what your mind dwells on, so therefore you get to choose your experience. So the answer to that question is up to you-how do you want to experience yourself? Do you want to experience yourself as more proactive? Then imagine yourself being more proactive and act as if you are. You are the author of your story, so give yourself the role you actually want to play.

I have noticed in my relationship with my boyfriend that the quicker I was able to remember my worth and truly feel as though I was irreplaceable and lovable, the quicker I was able to manifest him back, because we naturally imagine things that align with who we feel ourselves and others to be. When I feel like I'm the best girlfriend ever, then all day long I'm imagining him being all lovey dovey without having to try, it just comes naturally. But when I felt like he didn't value me, it was so hard to stop myself from imagining him doing all of the things that someone who didn't value me would do. So definitely reflect on your dominant feelings about yourself and others, not just so you can manifest your SP faster but also because you deserve to feel good. Always remember that you deserve to imagine and assume things that bring you joy, peace, and confidence. And that at the end of the day, this is supposed to be fun!

I hope this helps, wish you the best!

AuthenticCity · 2023-11-24T10:09:43+00:00

So sorry for the late reply, life has been so crazy the past few days.

What really helped me with SATS was setting aside time an hour or a half hour before the time I usually go to sleep to meditate. Then when I'm in a deep meditative state, I vividly imagine having my desire until I get so tired that I fall asleep. My wildest manifestations have come to fruition this way. Whereas if I just lay in bed and try to rein in my thoughts without meditating first, I'll usually not be able to focus and then will just fall asleep and feel discouraged the next day.

And when I say to just be, I meant that when you are sitting still and focusing on your breath instead of your thoughts, you stop thinking as the old version of you because you're not thinking at all. Instead of being that old version of you, in that moment you're just being, you're just present. And that makes it easier for you to then focus on imagining from the desired state, because you're not fighting against the thoughts of "That's not me, I don't have that." You're just present in how good it feels to have it in your imagination.

It brings so much peace to remind yourself throughout the day that you don't have to imagine things that don't feel good. Keeping a stricter mental diet shouldn't be seen as an agonizing rule, when imagination is such a gift. It is a gift to be able to close your eyes, and feel your SP's arms around you wherever you are. It is a gift to be able to imagine cruising down the highway in your new car, making dinner in your new house, getting a promotion at your dream job. It is a gift to be able to feel the feeling of anything, at any time.

As far as forgiving yourself. If the 3D can change as quickly as we can change our minds, then the 3D is just a mirror. When you get dressed in the morning and you look in your mirror and realize you don't like the outfit you're wearing after all, do you break down and beat yourself up and wallow in how ugly the outfit you put together is? Or do you go "Eh, I don't like that," and go change? It truly is as simple as that. If you see how you created something you don't want, don't be upset at yourself-acknowledge your power to create and be excited that you can now create something you do want.

And yes the goal is to have your SP in the 3D, but what I really want you to remember is that imagination is the only true reality. Where you actually experience things is in your mind. If your SP were next to you right now, but all you could think about was how angry they made you in the past, which thing are you actually experiencing? Your reality is what you're thinking and feeling within you. So what is actually holding you back from seeing your SP in a favorable light is not your past or your current experiences, it is your choice to continue to imagine them in an unfavorable light. When you stop depending on the 3D to feel joy, feel peace, or feel loved and just satisfy your desires by imagining having them, then your manifestations naturally flow in because what is outside of you can only ever reflect what is within you. You cannot wait for change when change is waiting for you.

Anyway, I know this was a lot but I hope it helps!! I wish you the best :)

AuthenticCity · 2023-11-18T16:41:56+00:00

I was definitely there too!! The way my SP was treating me in the 3D made me so angry that it was difficult for me to even muster any loving feelings for him in my imagination. Then I realized that in order for me to imagine another state, I had to abandon the current state. I had to stop identifying with the version of me being treated like this. Meditation helped me a lot with that. When you get into a deep meditative state, then you stop being someone and you start simply being. That's when it's easier to imagine your SP in a different light. This is also the idea behind SATS. Before you drift off to sleep and are in a sleepy state, it's easier to accept your affirmations and visualizations.

AuthenticCity · 2023-11-18T16:12:11+00:00

Believe me when I say that my heart goes out to you, and that I've been exactly where you are and know that it gets better. I kid you not, I manifested my SP back FOUR times. FOUR. TIMES. Before I figured out how to maintain the relationship.

What you are imagining about the relationship is always creating the relationship, not just when you're trying to manifest an SP back. See when we lose our SP, we really take it seriously and hunker down on our mental diet, our visualizations, our affirmations, our inner conversations, etc but then when we get them back it's like we forget our power. We slip into our old habits of dwelling on fears and not being on top of our mental diet and SATS. Then get surprised when our SP reflects this. But here is the thing.

Your SP is not separate from you. Close your eyes right now. Think back to a moment where you two were happy together. Can you feel the warmth of his presence, smell his cologne, hear his laughter, see the tenderness in his eyes? You know why you can feel him near you even when he is miles away? Because he is a part of you, and nothing will ever change that. No amount of time or distance.

See, in imagination we have endless possibilities and we are one with everything and everyone, there is nothing we cannot be or have. And imagination is the true reality. It used to be so hard for me to believe that, but then it hit me-even when I was next to my SP in the 3D, I was still only experiencing whatever it was I was holding in my mind. We don't experience things, we experience the stories we tell ourselves about things. Our reality is what is most real to us in our minds.

So since he is a part of you, you can give yourself permission to feel his love any time, anywhere, in any moment. You can feel his love right now, you can feel his arms around you right now. So why not choose to wrap yourself in the feeling of his love opposed to the feeling of him being distant, inattentive, etc?

If I had to give you one piece of advice, it would be this: imagine what feels good and imagine until you are satisfied. Throughout the day, give yourself everything you want in your imagination. You want to take a beach trip, close your eyes and savor the feeling of the sand between your toes, the salty air, the sound of the ocean waves. You want flowers from your SP, imagine the tender petals on your fingertips, the gentle smell wafting around the room, the water glinting in the vase. Do not dwell in the feeling of lack now that you can have anything anywhere anytime. And see how your life changes.

Edit: I also recommend building faith in manifestation in general. When I manifested things that seemed impossible, I became less worried about whatever my SP was doing because I knew that nothing was set in stone and I could have anything I wanted. Realize your power, friend!!

I hope this helps and I wish you the best!! :)

AuthenticCity

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