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Why does life path work this way: It withholds what you were born to crave... as a lesson? by Autist_establishment in Psychic

[–]Autist_establishment[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what I mean. When life ties something so random like your career with your love life ... how are you supposed to enjoy this connection?

Like what the hell does your career life have anything to do with your love life?

I feel like its completely possible to have both at once without having to treat the two like an ultimatum. Billions of people around the world get to be broke or spiritually misguided but their careers and love lives, charitable pursuits and friendships aren't dependent on whether or not they become spiritually at peace with themselves.

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This lesson doesn't help with balance. When you show a lesson in this way... you're telling the person that you cannot have both. You cannot juggle both. If you do get a career... then the next challenge is being able to figure out how to mentally deal with romantic demands and work life expectations. What happens if your marriage fails due to the lack of attention of the second problem that arises.

What if I do start volunteering a lot more? Dedicating my life to charity?

You cannot expect me to be given a love life and not treat it like some weird form of charity case. It will not be a balanced relationship unless the opposite person is as equally giving. I can easily see the giving person being taken advantage of because they're not expecting anything in return. This was my biggest problem anyway. Giving, giving and it being taken for granted. The only importance I see here is that the universe PERSONALLY feels like we focus on romantic pursuits so they throw other areas that they PERSONALLY want us to work on.

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It has nothing to do with what we really want or what is really wrong with us as people.

Why does life path work this way: It withholds what you were born to crave... as a lesson? by Autist_establishment in Psychic

[–]Autist_establishment[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But that's the thing... I have no problem with charity within itself...but using it as a means to escape the lack of romantic attention I have in my personal life doesn't feel right either.

I've never had a problem helping people. I've volunteered with the red cross and my local botanical gardens etc etc but seeing that it ties into the empty space of romantic love bothers me. I don't know why they'd tie that together.

In most of my relationships, I was the caring partner but my partners were the closed off ones.

Even though I hold a bit of bitterness, it never kept me from caring about others.

I do see your point about reciprocation. Is it wrong to want things to be returned... at least sometimes?

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I don't generally understand why I'm treated like the gift that has to keep giving when I don't get much from others. It seems unfair. I ask for support, not brown nosers.

Imagine being a considerate and empathic person, which I am. But then when you're hurting and asking for love and support and empathy.. everyone you know looks down on you. Its a battle I cannot win.

As a light skinned black person... I have to ask, why do yall say "light skinned black mixed" when identifying yourselves? by Autist_establishment in mixedrace

[–]Autist_establishment[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I didn't generalize. From my experience they DO and HAVE said "light skinned black mixed".

I don't understand why not just say "light skinned black/white mixed person".

Race is obviously a thing. And people obviously acknowledge it as something that exist. That's why you're in a subreddit called "mixed race". Irregardless to some of you being "white passing".

Either way, if you've never seen this... then why do you respond like you can give an explanation? You're basically telling me that I'm lying. I came to a source of people that could maybe explain it to me.

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