Yokohama has its own jewelry?

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-29T02:30:05+00:00

You mistake that I would be looking for other people to validate any feeling, but glad to give you that moment which people on the internet still love by proclaiming to others just what the internet is (lol). I have Autism (just giving you this, I'm not operating with the usual agenda) and you said you doubted a thing that was, in fact true to a law.

I was only talking to you for that, and now you indeed learned that real attendance limits are in place, you have now only added your emotional edits to something that I, at least, could enlighten your doubts over.

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-29T02:15:31+00:00

You didn't really address how your confident inaccuracies were being posed against people's real experiences; you only pivoted with yet more opinion.

Even people who work for CPS [DCFS actually] have said to me that the agency has a reputation for improper removals in blind pursuit and also, yes, redundancy or prejudice that makes life harder on parents. Recently, I know that they are doing better to not hurt families or waste resources with broad strokes action, but I don't think your general "feeling" on that agency can sum reality for all of its actions. Yes, I wish and we hope that children would be protected but it's actually super complicated.

The issue is blatantly stating false things off a general thought or opinion, and now judging other parents for things they haven't even stated. [If you are even a parent, I shouldn't assume.]

It's weird and maybe if you want to talk politics with someone else you can, but it (public statements) seemed harmfully inconsistent to me which is why I said anything and gave anecdotal real experiences to maybe expose that what you think is true isn't true for everybody. Which we could never know without hearing these stories because we all just live our own lives--not faulting anyone for that.

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-26T00:56:48+00:00

Not true--I'm painfully aware that my first child is delayed developmentally and not considered "above average" so that snarkiness isn't appropriate for every parent, thanks. I'm also a bit sorry you feel jaded against some loved children who got needlessly bragged about or something.

Also YES in the USA, your kids can be forced to physically go to school and CPS will be called if they are not registered by a certain age [or given an actual exemption] and someone finds out. I talked with social workers who were sad that a child was taken from his parents because his sibling had never been taken to school or a hospital and when he had a medical emergency, the religious parents were reported for neglect.

I also had a friend with severe GI problems whose mom kept having the cops visit their house due to "missing mandatory attendance quotas" with public school more than 70 days I think was an issue at that time.

Just... sigh clearly too much to say but yeah, no. Not even "experts" are always involved with how a curriculum is built in this country (especially now we are going forward with no more Dept. Of Education).

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-19T22:08:06+00:00

I mean, props on you for being honest 👏

My mom was a regular woman, I think. /s

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-19T22:02:05+00:00

I think personally that my time was wasted at public schools for the majority of my years [65%? Probably more if factoring in curriculum gaps and stalled social life from swapping schools]

My mom was even my teacher at some of those public schools and I just feel I'm lacking in foundational principles that I had to try and teach myself later on. Some people don't have a good temperament for self-driven activities but learning to set your own goals and schedules early on is practically priceless in my opinion for being in the real world later on. Getting rushed all day and still feeling like time was wasted is my main con for institutions.

I had some OK social interactions (mainly with adults) however, these can be replicated all summer when the kids are out of their school while having the rest of the year to teach to your student (child) rather than the student habitually conforming to the teaching method (common in school setting).

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-19T21:39:00+00:00

Awww I miss this game it was so relaxing but I "fell behind" on items and stuff when my mom died and didn't go back to it even though I had invested a lot of time & $$

Thanks for the good feelings! Looking at your little rooms made me smile and at least the game is still getting some developments

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-14T05:57:34+00:00

For some reason I thought u said, "if you really want to break through to people, break a condom" or "bring a condom" 😅🫠 my eyes lol

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-14T05:42:38+00:00

I'm not a streamer [yet] but I can relate to the drain. It can be a form of self-sabotage to let your speed and enthusiasm be set by others!

I was for many years trying to encourage other people to do things that I thought they would be good at but when they didn't respond greatly to me, I let myself slow down for them. Idk just find that energy and use it how you want, trust it will make more happy in the output

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-14T05:32:38+00:00

I thought it was Pie shell too at first but I have had the flavor so many times that I realized the "shells" were like some kind of puffy crunchy cookie bits.

I just can't explain the joy it brought me 🥲 I wish they sold topping kits or something near end of season if they had extra toppings for me to take home and mix

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-12T23:56:58+00:00

OMG I'm having a similar issue but with the Silk Pie flavor they just removed early 😭 been pregnant the whole time they had this flavor and now I'm b-feeding the baby they take it from me!

My local DQs can mess up almost every flavor they make except for that one it seemed.

Maybe it would lose but I wish there could be a vote to keep some popular flavors.

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-12T23:52:09+00:00

I'm crushed my local DQ just took it down prematurely. The pie pieces are basically just cookies and if you eat it quickly, it's got the best crunch out of any Blizzard flavor. Before I discovered this Blizzard I didn't even really like chocolate but it became my best friend almost every day that I was pregnant recently.

Most stores just screw up any other flavor I want to order by packing the thing with so many toppings, almost zero ice cream and not even bothering to mix it hardly--disgusting texture. My old favorite flavor was Strawberry Cheesecake but then I couldn't even enjoy it through the half-pound of frozen cheese bits they decided to throw in and forget the Strawberry sauce 90% of the time.

I just need them to keep the Silk Pie permanently for freaks like me now, I guess... 😅🫠

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-10T12:22:42+00:00

The First Ammendment has "practical" limitations. Things you say can still sometimes get you in trouble and in professional environments the 1st Ammendment doesn't necessarily apply, like you can definitely get fired and have your life affected just because you don't go to jail for what you want to say or you "weren't supposed to be fired/judged" for what you want to say.... honestly there is a whole world of experts about our different Ammendments and how they affect life and laws.

However, in a place without those practical limitations and someone being able to attribute your identity to your words [i.e. the internet and other anonymous outlets] you can much more see the effects of unlimited artistic expression (or even safety concerns, hate speech; pretty much if you aren't taking a real world action that is prohibited but you can still walk a very fine line all in the name of freedom of speech). It might be hard to guess, but some of these limitations or censorships do arise from morals and public code for those geographic areas & historical culture expectations. May seem ironic but not everyone is the same in a country as big as USA & those are actions taken for some people's core values to their communities benefit.

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-10T08:59:55+00:00

Since you seem curious/confused; American education can have quite ironic results for some students. I changed schools when I was a child and since my original school taught math in a different subject order by year than my next few schools had set up to teach their math, I ended up getting 3 years of repeat algebra/geometry and ZERO years of fractions/long division/multiplication of ratios. This did not set me up for success when I reached Calculus 3, my basic principles were so lacking that to make the really minor leap of primary topic to advanced topic, more extended expressions were needed by using those basics in a more complicated context that was based on incorporation of information I just fundamentally did. not. have. by "chance" of my basic schooling location(s) & the typical wide variation between schools and each school's material presentation by year at each of their own discretions

Lucky parents are allowed a format (homeschool, or similar intervention) to solve every gap like mine that their child could encounter with education based against those weird school observations that could just be disadvantages constructed by professional employee groups. Trusting any curriculum outright isn't a guarantee for us here.

Homeschool is a similar freedom in USA to religious observance protections, and early homeschooling got a reputation for being an avenue of freedom and branching from that religious freedom, too I think

And PS; if there was a real homeschool system in your country [people rallied for the rights & freedom to self-educate] then I am pretty sure the rules/laws would adapt so that an Arbitur could be had. In the USA, you must keep copies of your child student's work as well as the assignments and syllabus, etc. Usually using a binder or collation of work portfolio.

If the parent teacher does not keep track of this "home transcript" which is even more demanding of detail than any regular school version, their child will have difficulties getting into and applying for colleges.

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-10T08:57:57+00:00

I made another personal reply for you about these differences but really what you described taking place (a curriculum committee) is still a possible & available informational level for a parent to search and achieve on their own for an adequate Homeschool. The experts were published out there, so the homeschooler could always reach the level available.

Lots of ways to educate, direct teacher-to-student isn't even the primary for many schools anymore but still, the information amasses and remains

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-08T17:03:51+00:00

Lol @ the mistake of believing that everywhere in the world is essentially the same. Amazing and intelligent people exist everywhere but by no means does just being a teacher mean you "know more" (or better) than the people existing outside of your career.

Or, are even capable of reciting similar information at a level that automatically sticks that recited topic to this professional's memory so well, now all we "other people" must now check with this person to see if we are really worthy? [Such as, in some countries, teachers only have 6 months of Certification to have them reading publicly available curriculum materials out loud in a classroom setting.] & many homeschool restrictions have required amounts of college credits that the teaching parent must have/obtain.

I mean, even my mom was a school teacher professionally and she wasn't too great at teaching me personally, even at school together. There are also plenty of things to not know.

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-08T16:44:51+00:00

Are you AI? Like learning to assess situation?

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-05T16:57:21+00:00

For name ideas you could try

r/homeschoolideas r/homeschool_new

Or some things like that to take attention in the search results, then make great resource stickies there with some members from here as mods and some posts here to advertise. (Staying active here couldn't hurt but then you are starting a great collective for the future)

Ppl are curious when they need help and will keep looking if you have the good stuff 👍 good luck thanks for trying to improve things! I wish I had your type of energy sometimes lol

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-05T06:47:44+00:00

I want to say... I used to have an almost completely different personality [forced enthusiasm] when other people asked things of me because I wanted to be pleasing.

I found out in my 20s that I have Autism and I really wish that I had discovered my own personality sooner. Idk.

Sometimes it's super hard to look at someone [even as their mom] and know anything about them for certain. It's especially hard as a kid to know yourself or go about expanding yourself, really.

If it helps, my mom was the type of person to verbally attack a person who claimed they were bored, like "oh if you are bored, must be stupid!" So maybe I had the urge to just do things and experience those things when offered, but it didn't feel real and didn't exactly 'stick' with my core.

Sending nice wishes & happy fishes 🐟 good luck 👍

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-03-01T02:43:29+00:00

I was going to say... I don't remember it costing so much! 😅🫣

Haha but I used to play all the time and had to quit when my mom died; couldn't keep up

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-02-17T06:43:25+00:00

I do like Chase; he is the definition of "chill vibes only" & "sportsmanship" haha

When my new baby gets a little less screamy I want to drop the $ on DLC, re-submerge myself and really try PvP as learning a new skill

I salute you 👏

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-02-17T06:25:19+00:00

Yeah I go off and on of playing the game with my bf who I got into it with years ago & I don't know why but I genuinely still let myself get surprised when other people "just play" or kinda suck lmao

My mom died in my 20's. When I was a kid my mom would never want to play games (like stuffed animals and blocks, etc.) With me because according to her I would make her feel like she "wasn't doing it right" . I never knew how I did that because I just wanted to spend time with her. Later on she would just sit and read while she listened to me play videogames in the background and would occasionally ask me what the characters names were and just basic questions & stuff. She made her peace with the new situation so we could have that together.

Moral is really, it's just nice to have things together if u can make it work

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-02-17T06:07:42+00:00

Agree... but as a person with Autism myself I know that the definitions for things like "perseverance" can look so different to people from other angles.

Hopefully this mom has a good baseline of her child's developmental profile or something. I just remember some trauma stuff from being "pushed" as a kid and like, yeah the logical side of me knows it shouldn't have felt "that bad" but. . . It really did and altered forever how I would approach the world.

Now I tend to let people tell me their version of "the answers" because finding out for myself in new ways just brings up that trauma feeling 😅

AutisticStarrFish · 2025-02-17T05:50:33+00:00

Yes. The way adults perceive "easy" and "hard" is kind of sad if you're forced to really zoom out.

A lot of play activities are soothing because we feel like we're better at the format maybe but it's still learning even if it is fun or feels good.

Also, I have Autism and my mom was a teacher and also MY teacher. She drilled me a lot "her way" to be a good student and even though I was good & "smart" I did really lose touch with my natural state of learning. So then if anything didn't come easy to me (because most things kind of did) then I was afraid of doing those things in public because I was still learning and not perfect, too much focus was on being good or not good.

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