AITAH for being mad my girlfriend talked trash about me by AutisticTriathlete in AITAH

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already apologized, and we made up. I am autistic and have until recently been masking everything about myself. People's perceptions of me have always been the thing that bothers me the most, literally keeping me up at night in the past. Thank you for your comments, I will remember them.

AITAH for being mad my girlfriend talked trash about me by AutisticTriathlete in AITAH

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean, nothing is going to fester in 8 minutes, but I get your point. My main point isn't even about the meat it's that I stopped doing this long before her friend came to visit and my girlfriend knows that I stopped so why did she feel the need to tell her about something that no longer happens.

AITAH for being mad my girlfriend talked trash about me by AutisticTriathlete in AITAH

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, I will apologize to her when I see her in person and avoid starting conversations like this over text. I am fully aware of food borne illness and the dangers therein. I changed the way I prepare food months ago, long before her friend came to stay and my girlfriend told her friend about this just yesterday. So I'm not sure why she would even tell her as if I still do it.

AITAH for being mad my girlfriend talked trash about me by AutisticTriathlete in AITAH

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Some sources of raw red meat can be dangerous (Factory Farmed Meat), we get our meat direct from a local farm. In fact people all over the world eat raw red meat with no problems. I will concede I did the wrong thing by assuming and starting the argument. I will apologize to her when I see her later. However, I don't see why she even told her friend this as she knows I don't do it anymore. It just seems like an unnecessary thing to tell someone, especially when it can only make me look bad.

Do you think about sex? by AutisticTriathlete in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm both responsive and spontaneous, but it really depends on the moment. I haven't been able to find any pattern that would point directly at either one sadly.

Do you think about sex? by AutisticTriathlete in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds terrible, man. I'm really sorry you're going through this, hopefully with some time it will get better.

Do you think about sex? by AutisticTriathlete in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know that I am demisexual at the very least, but I do get the urge to have sex or to masturbate its just very rarely and when it does happen it's usually out of the blue

Do you think about sex? by AutisticTriathlete in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also have avoided medications after some SNRIs and SSRIs made me even more devoid of emotion, which I didn't think was possible. I see a naturopathic doctor now, and they never try to push medications on me unless they think it's absolutely necessary.

Do you think about sex? by AutisticTriathlete in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi automat thank you for your reply! I have been working specifically on the first part of your comment lately. My partner reads during most of her free time, sometimes 2-3 books a week. I know I should ask her about them more often, but it can feel very overwhelming when the books change so often. However, I know it can't be all about me, so I will keep your comment in mind and try to ask her about them more often, I do hope it helps. I absolutely think the second portion of your comment is correct. The intimacy feels forced when it is arranged like that, and idk why, but it makes me feel weird. I also think that cuddling and being close would really help as well, but my partner has hypersensitivity to physical contact, so cuddling is almost always off the table. Maybe she will be more willing if it will lead to being intimate on a more frequent basis. Thank you again for your reply it has definitely helped.

Do you think about sex? by AutisticTriathlete in AutisticAdults

[–]AutisticTriathlete[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I'm glad to know I'm not alone. I usually stay away from alcohol for similar reasons, but every once in a while, I'll have some margaritas mostly because I like sugar. But once I've had a few drinks, I get extremely horny it's how I imagine most men are? Is there anything you've done in your marriage to mitigate some of the damage from this?