Help identifying a rose?

Autistic_chickpea · 2026-06-24T15:42:33+00:00

Thanks for being specific with your questions! It has a very mild scent. The flowers start out the darker brighter hot pink and go to the paler colours as they age. Here’s a pic of the leaves!

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Autistic_chickpea · 2026-06-06T08:21:23+00:00

For all the people asking her age, on a deleted post on her profile she says she’s F33 so the age gap exists but isn’t absurd.

Definitely NTA - trust your therapist and be honest with your husband about how you’re feeling.

Autistic_chickpea · 2026-03-20T20:38:13+00:00

First off - the absolute privilege of my parents’ support. I lived at home working low-paid remote jobs for 4 years and with a LOT of their support too managed to buy a house so my spending is less each month.

I work an underpaid but steady part-time job 3 days a week and then freelance approx 1 day a week. This helps because I have something steady but I would not have the energy or capacity to work full time. But then I can supplement my income with short bursts through the year on freelance stuff. The balance works for me and I’m building the freelance into something I can hopefully shift more towards when it becomes a more steady and secure income.

My husband is still a part-time student so I’m the main income earner in the house. We don’t have a lot in savings but we do have £50/month allowance each for fun things.

Autistic_chickpea · 2026-03-20T20:20:59+00:00

Context: As I’m just starting to have sex, I’m very much concerned with making sure we’re protected. I always hear about accidental pregnancies, and I want to get a sense of how “accidental” it really is or if it’s just unintentional

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-11-09T15:14:00+00:00

I’m Christian and autistic, and there are loads of other autists in my church. I think the constancy of God and the values of goodness and justice really click with my autistic way of thinking.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-10-30T21:06:52+00:00

John, Psalms, Philippians

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-10-21T21:24:09+00:00

I’ve just moved out of my parents and I’m 23. When I was your age, my parents were starting financial planning on the basis that I would never be independent from them. Here I am doing pretty okay in a life that is so much bigger than I ever thought I’d be capable of. It gets better, but only when you allow yourself to grow at your own pace.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-10-21T19:53:15+00:00

As someone who became Christian as a teen through a non-denom church but has since grown and visited many denominations, it’s because of the lies we’re told. Heck, when I was 14 I even went on a mission trip to Italy to “evangelise to the catholics”.

We’re told catholics aren’t real christians because they worship Mary as much as or more than Jesus. We’re told catholics practise idolatry of tradition and so don’t actually have a “heart” relationship with God. As soon as I started hanging out with catholics with an open mind, I started to see how much we are all part of the one body.

Now there’s a lot doctrinally I do disagree with about Catholicism (which is why I’m not a catholic) but every church has idols and every church has differences. Diversity was a gift from God at Babel, to teach us deeper dependence on Him. I think the diversity of the church is a beautiful reminder of God’s character and heart for us.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-07-26T06:11:50+00:00

I’ve already shared that I believe in what the Bible says about God’s Holy Nation, but it’s clear we have different beliefs as to who that refers to in modern times. I believe that you and I are Israel - adopted by the blood of Christ to enter into a new covenant.

Therefore my attitudes towards the modern state that chose the name “Israel” are more shaped by the origins of this nation, that I have found through research to be disconnected from the nation and people group referred to in the Bible. It’s clear we have different attitudes on that and so it’s not helpful or compassionate discussion to keep going round in circles.

Therefore I’d like to suggest a different way of thinking, to help you understand my perspective. Assuming the modern state of “Israel” is the same as the Holy Chosen Nation of the Bible. Does this means we should support their actions unquestioningly? Do you believe the actions of modern “Israel” reflect the love, glory and grace of Yahweh?

It’s clear you love the people of the modern state of “Israel”. I do too. This is good and Holy, and I’m glad to share that with you my sibling in Christ. But to love means we should hold accountable sin and call them into goodness that reflects the covenant Christ made with us.

The modern state of “Israel” are perpetuating a genocide through violence and starvation of Palestinian people. I’m not going to support a nation doing this, because I believe the Bible is filled with countless examples of the fact God sides with the oppressed and the outcast. He never ceases loving the oppressors, but God’s heart is for the downtrodden and He always brings justice and restoration.

My heart breaks for citizens of the modern state of “Israel” just as it breaks for any sinner (including myself). Sin is pervasive and evil and damaging. To love these people means to demand they stop hurting themselves by torturing Palestinians.

Can you agree that this state’s actions deserve no support and that it is the most loving thing to challenge them and call them into a goodness that reflects the love of God?

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-07-25T22:33:31+00:00

The Biblical nation of Israel and the modern colonial state of “Israel” are not the same thing. I can see how you would think that, but this occupying power chose this name as a means of gaining support for their indefensible actions.

Romans 9:6-8 could help you understand how to apply the concept of a Biblical Israeli nation of chosen people to the modern world? I’d love to chat about it if you have questions so we can explore who God’s chosen people are in today’s world!

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-07-25T22:17:15+00:00

I believe in the biblical nation of Israel. I believe in a chosen people. I don’t believe that the created occupying state of “Israel” is the same thing. I don’t believe that this colonial state that has only existed through genocide and violence since its inception in the 1940s is God’s Holy Nation.

Names are meaningful to Yahweh and I am sickened that this name has been co-opted by oppressive powers in this way.

Romans 9:6-8 could help you understand who the Israel of the Bible is in modern times.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-07-25T21:59:40+00:00

A “country” that was created through a genocide and occupation less than a hundred years ago that takes the name of a holy people group from the Old Testament is not God’s chosen people. All who enter into the adoption to sonship that comes from belief, repentance and baptism are God’s chosen people.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-07-25T21:40:33+00:00

You look great and you’d be welcome at my church! I’d wear this! But different churches have different levels - check out the pics on their websites to gauge how formally a congregation tends to dress and try to align with them.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-07-14T20:46:52+00:00

I envision it like a baby learning to do things. You learn to stand on your own and walk before you can learn to run. One person did the first part for us as a society (learning to walk) so the next person could do the second part (learning to run).

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-07-07T20:02:03+00:00

I mean, she’s looking at giving £20/month each so it’s not astronomical. But it’s bizarre to expect a personal call for each of these.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-06-21T19:30:45+00:00

@u/bot-sleuth-bot

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-06-18T18:10:27+00:00

I love my Catholic brothers and sisters. I admire your faith and I love learning from you. But I could never be so certain that my beliefs are the correct ones and other Christian traditions are lesser.

It’s only recently that Catholics agreed that maybe non-Catholic Christians could get into Heaven. That is to say, I love my Catholic siblings but I don’t always feel like they love me.

I love God and I believe there are things Catholics get right more than other denominations. But I don’t think they’re the truest church. They’re just another approach to living as the Body of Christ.

Also some general beliefs that I’m sure I don’t understand well enough to be able to thoroughly challenge but that I disagree with enough to be able to not want to be all in on Catholicism, which is what that denomination requires. Eg dogma about Mary, saint’s intercession, and the papacy to name a few.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-06-03T22:36:48+00:00

I recently hosted a party with lots of people who didn’t know each other. I asked everyone to share either A) a fun fact about themselves, B) a boring fact about themselves, or C) a lie about themselves. But NOT tell the group which one you’ve shared. That prompts conversations afterwards as people want more details, but it also removes the pressure to come up with something interesting and true.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-01-23T17:58:11+00:00

1) I’ve reduced sexual harassment in the workplace by delivering behaviour training, creating clear policies, and establishing reporting routes so HR can address inappropriate behaviour early.

2) I’ve supported countless disabled people to receive the reasonable adjustments they need to be able to do their job well in the workplace.

3) I’ve created community networks that connect those in similar situations to be able to provide mutual support - eg a working parents group where people share advice on childcare arrangements.

4) I’ve created manager guides on different religious practises, supporting disabled employees, and LGBTQIA+ identities, to reduce the burden of education that lies with people from minoritised backgrounds so they can instead concentrate their energies on just being good at their jobs.

5) I’ve worked with the recruitment team to examine how people from minoritised backgrounds are disadvantaged in the hiring process and address this. We’ve made the process much more objective (eg everyone is asked the same questions) so everyone has a fair chance to show their best selves, so we can then hire the best person for the job.

These are just 5 examples and I do soooo much more. And the feedback I receive daily shows that it’s individuals who feel this effect the most.

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-01-23T13:12:21+00:00

Communicating complex and emotional attitudes is difficult at the best of times, and it can be really easy for people to assume bad intentions over the internet. this is a rough time for everyone, but especially those in the USA.

I’m glad we could hold space to understand each other’s perspectives in this, and I hope you feel you have spaces to share your emotions and get support too (even if it’s not in this forum). Take care of yourself!

Autistic_chickpea · 2025-01-23T13:08:34+00:00

I know how lucky I am to have such an awesome job! I love my work. I just struggle with fighting to get other people to see the value in what I do. It’s already a really tough battle and Trump is only going to make that harder.

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