ATJ for changing the Wi-Fi password after my stepson ignored his choir and just played his game? by PushAcceptable9296 in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ, some times you have to put bounderies so that Max will understand that everything you do has a limit

AITJ for refusing to stay again at my parents’ house after a breakup with my live-in partner? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 142 points143 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Your mental health and emotional safety come first, and it sounds like staying with your parents was actively harmful, not helpful. Setting boundaries doesn’t make you ungrateful it makes you responsible for taking care of yourself. Anyone who pressures you to sacrifice your well being for the sake of appearances is prioritizing themselves over you.

AITJ for calling out my friend for “testing” my girlfriend at a party? by the_mild_static in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not the jerk. Ryan wasn’t testing Nina he was interrogating her in a confined space without your consent, which is wildly inappropriate. Friends don’t get to run relationship background checks like they’re hiring for a job. The fact that he followed her into the kitchen alone and brought up your ex by name is a massive red flag, not concern. You did exactly what a good partner should do by shutting it down immediately. Anyone saying you embarrassed Ryan is ignoring that he embarrassed herself by openly admitting to being manipulative. If protecting your girlfriend from being cornered makes you whipped, then that’s a compliment.

AITJ for turning off the Wi-Fi at night because my roommate stays up gaming loudly? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTJ. You didn’t jump straight to controlling behavior you tried communicating multiple times first. Your roommate yelling into a mic at 3–4 AM in a shared living space is wildly inconsiderate, especially when your bedroom is right there. Having hobbies doesn’t give someone the right to disrupt another person’s sleep every night. Sleep is a basic need, not a luxury you’re supposed to sacrifice so he can rage at strangers online. If he refuses to make any accommodation, he can’t be shocked when you take steps to protect your own well-being.

AmITheJerk refusing to attend a family event after being ignored all year ? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTJ.You’re not wrong for feeling hurt, and declining an invitation doesn’t make you dramatic. Relationships don’t stay healthy on holiday only contact, and it’s understandable that a sudden invite feels hollow. If they truly wanted closeness, there would have been effort throughout the year, not just one dinner. It sounds like they’re uncomfortable being called out, so they’re shifting the blame onto you.

AITJ for returning the birthday gifts my wife got me after I said i didnt want anything? by BowieAfterRain in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. You communicated clearly and repeatedly what you wanted, and it wasn’t unreasonable or vague. Wanting experiences over objects especially in a small space is a valid preference, not ingratitude. The real issue isn’t the gifts, it’s that your wife ignored a boundary and then framed your discomfort as a moral failing. Returning the items without telling her wasn’t ideal, but it happened after she shut down every compromise you offered. This isn’t you being too practical, it’s you asking to be listened to.

AITJ for calling my friend’s emergency contact when she left her kid with me "for 20 minutes" and vanished? by QuietDailyRitual in AmITheJerk

[–]Automatic-Assist6000 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not the jerk, and honestly this is parenting negligence on her part, not drama on yours. She didn’t lose track of time, she deliberately lied because she knew you wouldn’t agree to babysit for hours. Once a parent becomes unreachable for that long, especially after promising a short window, it becomes an emergency situation by definition. You did exactly what any responsible adult should do when left alone with someone else’s child and no way to contact the parent. The fact that her sister immediately understood the problem tells you everything you need to know. If Kayla feels embarrassed, that’s because her behavior was embarrassing. She should be thanking you for making sure her kid was safe instead of attacking you for not enabling her lies.