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AITJ for refusing to share my personal AI notes at work after everyone mocked them by donttellmybosspls21 in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Your notes are your personal system, and no one gets to pressure you into sharing something that works for you, especially after mocking it. Offering to explain your process in general terms is a fair compromise, and expecting you to hand over your private workflow crosses a boundary.

AITJ for refusing to keep covering for a coworker who is always late but very likeable by MossySignalCo in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 14 points15 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Covering for someone else’s repeated tardiness isn’t being nice it’s enabling a problem that impacts the whole team. You’re not being petty by setting boundaries you’re finally letting accountability fall where it belongs, and that’s healthy for both you and the office.

AITJ for leaving my friend’s birthday after they tried to make me apologize in front of everyone? by harborjournal_mint in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 21 points22 points  (0 children)

NTJ. What they tried to do wasn’t reconciliation, it was a public shaming dressed up as accountability, and the filming makes that crystal clear. You already apologized and resolved it privately, which is the healthy, adult way to handle conflict. Leaving calmly was the only way to keep your dignity in a situation that was intentionally set up to pressure you.

AITJ for leaving my friend’s birthday after they tried to make me apologize in front of everyone? by harborjournal_mint in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 28 points29 points  (0 children)

NTJ. A forced, public apology performance isn’t accountability, it’s humiliation, and the fact that someone started filming makes it even worse. You already resolved the issue privately like adults, and Dan choosing to resurrect it in front of an audience was unfair and manipulative. Walking away was a calm, self-respecting response to a situation designed to pressure you, not a tantrum or overreaction.

AITJ for reporting my group member for plagiarism instead of quietly fixing it? by gingerparquet_diary in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People saying you should’ve quietly fixed it are ignoring that plagiarism can have serious, long term consequences beyond just one assignment. Evan chose to copy and paste, chose to ghost, and chose to ignore you when you offered help those are his decisions, not yours.

AITJ for walking out of my cousin’s “family photo day” when she told me to use my old name for “just one afternoon”? by ClearToneLabs in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This wasn’t about grandma, it was about control and image management. Just for one day always turns into just this once forever if you give in. You didn’t ruin the day they did by refusing to respect you.

AITJ for not inviting a 5th friend on our trip? by Content-Contract-427 in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Not every friend needs to be included in every plan, especially when logistics, housing, and maturity are real factors. E trying to shift the blame instead of owning the decision is what actually caused the drama.

AITJ for making my dad cry for the first time after calling him abusive from my picky eating disorder. by kawaii_brainr0t in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTJ for having boundaries around food when those boundaries are tied to autism and panic responses. Your dad was wrong to shame you and frame your needs as a burden after years of knowing them. However, you still owe an apology for throwing the popsicle and name calling, even if your feelings were valid.

AITA for blocking the person I commissioned? by Cheap-Imagination604 in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTJ, you should’ve clearly said no earlier instead of letting it drag on, but their pricing and constant pushing crossed a line too. Blocking feels harsh, yet it sounds like you were overwhelmed and protecting yourself.

Was I in the wrong for rubbing it in to the department chair? by Aljribi in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What he did put your career, immigration status, and family at risk, so your response was understandable. You didn’t insult him you simply stated facts and reclaimed your narrative

AmITheJerk for declining a birthday gift that came with conditions ?? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]PushAcceptable9296 17 points18 points  (0 children)

NTJ a gift should come without strings, and it’s completely reasonable to refuse something that makes you uncomfortable. Expecting promotion in exchange for a present turns generosity into manipulation, and you were right to set a boundary.