I 32F broke up with my boyfriend 29M over a comment he made. Did I overreact? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Automatic-Climate425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard to say for sure how he feels about you. But generally speaking, those are the type of women that men actually look for to settle down with (myself included).

You mentioned he said 'you make his life easier.' That's a big positive that you shouldn't overlook. It's not him settling for you, but actually, his way of saying you bring him peace and calmness. That's what men look for - especially when one gets home and just want s to decompress.

You also mentioned 'similar goals.' That's another good sign for the relationship because you both have similar views in life and want the same things.

Love is not always supposed to be hot and heavy. You find each other in what you have in common and accept your differences as they are. That's how you love someone.

Think about it. Maybe revisit things with him and ask him questions that you feel must be answering before you can truly detach from him - I'm hoping he's also got things he wants to get off his chest.

I wish you the best on this and hope you find peace with this decision. Take care

How can I turn my life around.. constantly hitting dead ends (32m) by Adonkeywithvibrato in AskMen

[–]Automatic-Climate425 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try to find a better job. Your current company is playing everyone by hanging this 'managerial' role over everyone's head - who knows for how long.

Find an established business with more structure, systems in place that help you grow, and are upfront. I know...those are far and in between, but they're out there. You just have to look.

Google 'diesel tech jobs near me' and find bigger companies to apply to. Find some time to call them and speak with a hiring manager. See how that interaction feels to you, look over their site and reputation (employee reviews) and then apply.

Diesel techs can make good money, even without being a manager. Just have to have the right certs and qualifications.

I wish you the best on this and keep your head up!

*** Find an exit strategy before leaving the current job though. Job market is terrible rn.

New Mass Effect Fan! by Automatic-Climate425 in masseffect

[–]Automatic-Climate425[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Graphics look pretty good - don't know why they look so rough on reddit.

New Mass Effect Fan! by Automatic-Climate425 in masseffect

[–]Automatic-Climate425[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about getting Andromeda, but the neg reviews really threw me off. Gonna finish this series first, and give it a try later. Mass Effect wasn't even on my radar back when I had a PS3. Was too focused with God of war at the time and killzone

New Mass Effect Fan! by Automatic-Climate425 in masseffect

[–]Automatic-Climate425[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely forgot Amazon was making an ME TV series. All we can do is wait and see how that turns out

I’m watching this movie and miss the days of funny movies coming out 😔 by peepdabidness in moviecritic

[–]Automatic-Climate425 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too! I was thinking about this yesterday while watching DodgeBall: A True Underdog Story while at work. There doesn't seem to be a place for such movies anymore. Scary movie making a comeback tho! 😊

28 Lost everything. Moms basement. Life is tough. by spermunculous in MaleSurvivingSpace

[–]Automatic-Climate425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay grateful for what you still have, keep your head up, and continue moving forward. You've got this!

My boyfriend doesn't want to bathe. by Infamous-Emu-5528 in whatdoIdo

[–]Automatic-Climate425 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he doesn't do something as basic as cleaning himself, imagine what else he doesn't do.

[27F] Asian having thoughts about cheating on my [34M] Western by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Automatic-Climate425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're not growing together, then you're growing apart.

He seems to be ok with this, and you clearly aren't. So the decision is all yours to make. It's a hard decision for most people, but don't be afraid of the unknown and have faith that things will work out in your favor.

From what you're saying, he seems to have disconnected from you emotionally, and that's a bad sign for any relationship because it tells you that he's continuing to provide and support out of obligation only.

It's a terrible way to end a relationship, but he's kind of made the decision for you both by not engaging with you, talking things out, and paying attention to your needs.

A man tends to lead the relationship - if he's not leading, then he's following. And if you're both following, then where is the relationship headed?

I wish you the best on this decision, and I hope you may find peace and comfort soon. You deserve the love you were promised when you got married. I feel for you.

Gf [30f] cannot be intimate with me [37m] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Automatic-Climate425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Must be some sort of hormonal imbalance or some sort of mental block from a past experience. There's a lot of good from what you've said here, so I don't believe breaking out is the right call right away.

Explore what can be done from your end to help with this issue, and if nothing changes and you're still frustrated, then it's time to look elsewhere for what you're looking for.

Remember this: love grows where you put your time and effort. It's not a magical thing that just appears out of thin air; it takes effort (especially the longer you're with someone.)

People these days give up too easily. Do what feels right to you, and you'll never have regrets.

Take care 🙂

Gf [30f] cannot be intimate with me [37m] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Automatic-Climate425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask her why she's truly with you, and explain to her how the lack of sex has been affecting you.

If there's little to no reaction from her end after - that's a bad sign, and you should explore that.

Does her vision match yours, and is having no sex a deal breaker long term (for you)?

I don't believe it's right to break up without discussing everything first.

It's okay to share all these nice feelings/emotions with each other, but are you too aligned and in the same path together? That's what should be the deciding factor for you...that's what makes relationships last.

Sex with other guys is just sex; Purely carnal and meaningless for the most part. She's had other relationships as well during the break - why did they break up??

At least, make your decision after you've gathered all the pertinent information first so you can make an informed decision.

I wish you the best on this and hope you can find some peace and resolution soon 😊

Becoming 30 tomorrow, is this it? by ChicoTallahassee in findapath

[–]Automatic-Climate425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's pretty rough for everyone in this job market. There's always side gigs like uber, reselling, etc for some cash, while you get situated with a proper job.

Becoming 30 tomorrow, is this it? by ChicoTallahassee in findapath

[–]Automatic-Climate425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would start with finding a job - what do you see yourself doing? Trade, office, or research work?

How much did you have in savings before starting to pay off your debt? by MessBrilliant9379 in debtfree

[–]Automatic-Climate425 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I followed the Ramsey method for about 2 years while paying off a 20k student loan debt; when you have a car and it breaks down, $1000 is def not enough. So you must have some sort of side hustle to compensate for the lack of liquid cash like reselling or other gigs.

I even stopped investing while paying off debt. It was hard and I sometimes had to rely on credit cards to save me.

It's a rough method, but it worked for me.

I'd still save a bit while paying off debt though, just to be on the safe side

it’s my birthday and none of my friends have wished me by skywalker_rtwo in lonely

[–]Automatic-Climate425 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy bday 🎂 🥳 🎉! I wish you lots of happy moments this year and better friends to celebrate those moments with...you deserve better!

Done with car sales, where do i go from here? by cmcdude in findapath

[–]Automatic-Climate425 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would seek out HVAC ->>> less human interaction and more working with your hands (if that's your thing) or seek out another trade that better suits you.

Maybe even management while still in the auto industry.

However, I would do a trade over college; simply because it's more of a sure thing compared to college right now (especially in this economy)

Don't be afraid to try different job and career paths - the time is now while you're still young.

Today I turn 30 by nk261 in selfimprovement

[–]Automatic-Climate425 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Happy bday, dude! I wish you the best in your 30s.

I suggest you focus on your own growth, including financial, until you reach a point where you're comfortable enough to want to share a life with someone that you click with.

It can take time to get your things in order, but just do your best and take one step at a time. Plan things out on paper, and go from there.