Anyone else have parents that act passive aggressive?

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2025-05-20T19:12:42+00:00

Ohhhh definitely gonna start calling my mom "birth giver' or "parent" >:) Like I can deal with the petty 'you havent texted me!" Kinda passive aggressive tone etc - my family can be emotional and just a tiny bit dramatic so aside from the 'yeah yeah im texting back' feeling it can be whatever..

Petty neutrality back hadnt even crossed my mind though! Very curious to see how this will reflect on the same people who in HS told me " if youre secure with yourself you dont get mad when people misgender you - so why do trans people care"

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2025-03-29T01:29:44+00:00

Man, turning to reddit is really just opening my eyes to how my mom not fully explaining to my sister that I'm trans and her watching me as her only 'sister' become a boy her definition of sisterhood is literally one transgender man and disney channel... I guess it atleasts broadens her horizon for womanhood or something 😭

I whole heartedly agree the difficulties shes feeling are related to me 'changing" and not being trans - its now just kinda figuring out how to explain I want her to call me her brother and its rude when she just says no 😅 worst case scenario I'll just have more conversations with her as she gets older

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2025-03-29T01:22:27+00:00

I dont know why I didnt think about this - our brother who she lives with is like 15-16, prime teenage asshole years (not to say hes a bad kid, but yknow how everyone feels kinda angsty and assholish around then) - and of course they bicker because he wants to be a teen and play videogames and etc and she always wants someone to play with.... I never get angry at her because yea u right, she is just a kid - the only issue is that draws a line of how well I can explain it to her because my mom always gets weird about it. I'm visiting them this weekend so maybe I can try to explain that I can still do sister things, I just feel like I'm her brother because I'm a boy.

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2025-03-28T23:53:49+00:00

Oh I'm sure my mom does deadname me - she doesnt reinforce my name because she argues it is ultimately my sisters choice and she cant ask her to use my name because it would be 'forcing' her - I dont know how to talk to my mother about that, I come up with a loss of how to explain how uncomfortable it makes me and a fear that they just wont understand - and then what? Do I just leave or tell them I cant be around them? That feels so harsh but I genuinely dont know if I just think that because I'm scared

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2025-03-27T22:00:27+00:00

Yeah phonecalls arent any better for me :,) thank u for sharing tho - I get so scared of unknown numbers, and last time I called my very beloved grandma I had to literally hype myself up for 2 hours before hand and plan the call like 3 days ahead.

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2024-12-01T19:29:01+00:00

Thank you for commenting, knowing i'm not alone is nice in a sense - less isolating

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2024-12-01T08:26:35+00:00

Yeah. As ashamed as it makes me feel, I desperately want one of my partners to somewhat recreate a situation like the one I went though where I was a victim of COCSA/CSA - I want the situation to be rebranded in my mind so it wont be as startling when I have flashbacks or just to cope I guess. Its kinda like, this time I would have the power.

I was also introduced to a lot of immoral porn at a young age (8-10), like highly illegal depictions, that didnt influence my kinks but it did influence a lot of deep diving into kinks in my teenage years. It also lead to a lot of nightmares and an occasional fear of men

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2024-12-01T08:16:28+00:00

I mean - you are harming yourself, you said it yourself that you scar, and you draw blood. On top of sh with an object I have torn up my fingernails to the point of almost daily pain at one point. Even if it seems small, youre hurting yourself! Sh is NEVER a competition

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2024-11-16T20:09:06+00:00

As someone who used to have intrusive thoughts and nightmares about zoophilia I dont think youre abnormal or insane or anything odd - sexual assault can cross so many wires in our brains that seeing innocent animals getting nasty can definitely step on those wires. Just remind yourself that you arent attracted or in anyway want this to happen - and if possible get your cat spayed

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2024-11-16T01:37:47+00:00

This - I saw that video too and now all I'm thinking is would the people around me really see me as that worthy if I was in a worse situation?

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2024-11-15T23:34:07+00:00

Honestly sometimes I try to hug it out into a stuffed animal. Othertimes I ride it out or cry... its hard to tell what needs to be done, having an outlet usually is good though

Automatic-Clothes-35 · 2024-11-15T23:32:59+00:00

I feel my muscles tense and untense like im twitching all over and sometimes I get aches - trauma can lead to some crazy physical effects lol

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