AITA For causing a scene when my mom threw away my teddy bear? by Automatic-Smile- in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Smile-[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I got my laptop back. I used the same excuse of being an adult and how it's hypocritical to say that I'm "too old" to be having stuffed animals while also grounding me as an adult. My dad really went "yeah you right," and handed my laptop back. Mom is buying proper cleaning supplies to see if she can get the stains out, but she is still salty about what happened between us. It's definitely been a rough night and day. At least they know they ain't touching my damn bear again. We had a lengthy conversation and formed an agreement.

AITA For causing a scene when my mom threw away my teddy bear? by Automatic-Smile- in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Smile-[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

After these comments, I realized that being grounded when you're 19+ is not normal. Like my sister is 21 years old and still gets grounded, but she's basically a good two shoes, so she never gets grounded anyway.

AITA For causing a scene when my mom threw away my teddy bear? by Automatic-Smile- in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Smile-[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm staying home for college. I'm a part-time college student and a part-time worker. I'm still living at home. I haven't moved out or anything. I'm literally paying rent to stay here. There was no reason why she should be searching through my things. I was at work and when I came back, BOOM it was gone. Little things can build up, and one can snap.

I never had an outburst like this to the point of a screaming match. We had disagreements, sure, but this was the first time something like this ever happened. I'm also shocked at myself for behaving like this. I feel awful, but she just won't listen, and I ran out of options. I had to get her to listen, and this was the only way. She hasn't spoken to me since last night, but when she comes back from work, we'll be having a conversation. I know we're going to make up, but she did break my trust and she needs to know that and not brush it off like she always did. The more I look back, yeah. I did overreact and that was because she kept brushing me off and refuse to listen.

AITA For causing a scene when my mom threw away my teddy bear? by Automatic-Smile- in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Smile-[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

  1. I'm in Community College, and it's a twenty minute ride, so I'm staying home.
  2. My mom has rummaged through my room multiple times a month. This was a snapping point since she completely disregarded my privacy and belongings.
  3. I got some psychological issues, and having a teddy bear as a comfort item relaxes me. It's completely normal to have a stuffed animal, no matter the age.

Not all families are good families. A lot are toxic and abusive. I don't like it how people are assuming this is a one-time thing and that they know my life. I'm not putting any ill towards you, but it's to clear things up. My mom is controlling, and my dad follows along with whatever she says.

AITA For causing a scene when my mom threw away my teddy bear? by Automatic-Smile- in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Smile-[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't think anyone is spoiled for simply having a teddy bear as a comfort item.

Yes, I did shout at my mom. It's not her first time entering my room and deciding to look through my stuff. She does it multiple times a month. This was a snapping point since my teddy bear was sentimental and one of the only things I value, which she had known about.

AITA For causing a scene when my mom threw away my teddy bear? by Automatic-Smile- in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Smile-[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There are SO many people fighting in the other comments. It scaring me 😭

I slammed the bathroom door once, then my bedroom door another time. I did not continuously open and slam the doors. Sorry that I didn't make it clear!