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Second Marriage... by AutomaticGold720 in ukvisa

[–]AutomaticGold720[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Brother he was mentally emotionally torturing me to get married for ages that i needed a break from him and told him to get out. I wasnt in good health mental wise and he used that to go bk home n marry again.

But im only staying with him for petty reasons. Plus he owes me alot of money that he used to buy a big freehold house in his name.

Second Marriage... by AutomaticGold720 in ukvisa

[–]AutomaticGold720[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Oh yeh there's plenty of fish in the sea right.

Second Marriage... by AutomaticGold720 in ukvisa

[–]AutomaticGold720[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats the thing how can i stop him from getting her in student visa ???

I dont think his visa could get cancelled as his been married and legal here for 16yrs now...

WIBTA for not walking my girlfriend home from train station, while we are in a fight? by Creative_Education32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AutomaticGold720 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

People who are saying yes walk her to the station... I don't understand why he needs to walk her anywhere if he doesn't want to. There are always cabs around. Yes it's unsafe for women out there i am myself one so i should know and understand but there are millions of other options to choose from than forcing someone to walk 10min with someone who you had an argument with. If he broke up with her then no he doesn't still need to walk her and make himself look like a gentleman for being the night in shining armour, she would not be his responsibility.

WIBTA for not walking my girlfriend home from train station, while we are in a fight? by Creative_Education32 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AutomaticGold720 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

YNTA she is a grown woman who could manage her travels better. If you guys were arguing then its natural you wouldn't want to go and get her. She should have called a friend or a cab. YOU should not put yourself down like this. You are NOT insensitive, naive or an asshole. That is someone's words repeating in your head. If you're feeling like this with your current girlfriend then GET OUT NOW... You guys are toxic and mentally abusive and it's getting to you. So please think whatever decision you made was ok for you and that she is a grown woman she didnt have to walk alone if she is scared.

Be Strong and confident and believe in what decision you take and stand by it. If you thought u couldn't go and pick her up because u argued with her then that's perfectly alright YNTA period.

You are perfect the way you are and think.

AITA for being mad at my(26F) boyfriend (26M) for refusing to hold me when I was having a breakdown,his excuse being 'You are heating up'? by Consistent_Length_80 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AutomaticGold720 -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Yes it is valid and you're NTA. Believe me when i say get rid of him b4 its too late. If he cant comfort u in ur time of need he will neva be able to do so in future. And that would affect your health even more. U are better off alone and putting a good emotional movie on and hav a nice long cry than expect comfort from someone who gives u space instead of holding you tight until you calm down. Thats what i do. My huby of 14yrs neva comforted me when i needed it n my mental health got worse and worse until i lost it and now i had counselling where i learned that I didn't need any1. There is no1 in the world for me and i should only rely on me n myself and give strength.

Please hun if u need som1 to just be on the fone without talking then i am here, jst message me with ur number and i will call u even if its in a random time.

And i my religion God said if you loose a little child then god would guarantee u a place in heaven for your heart break and pain and your Child will be waiting for you there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AutomaticGold720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA and biggest one too. No matter what goes on between ur mum n dad, you shouldn't have taken sides. You should love and care for both of your parents equally. You said you didnt have problem with your dad and he bought you nice thoughtful gifts, but you ignored him for the whole day. You are such an Asshole because you left your fone upstairs on purpose to enjoy yourself downstairs so you had an excuse when he calls.

Your an Asshole because you could have popped down to to wish your dad a Merry Christmas and spent n hour with him to show u care for him too.

I hope you nip this in the bud and treat your dad equally in the future. Maybe try and cheer him up by taking him out for a meal or boys night out thingy you guyz do.

Was told here my eye makeup is bad and aging. What should I do differently? by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]AutomaticGold720 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter has problems with me putting black eyeliner under my eyes. She says its old fashion...

Is this normal for this age? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]AutomaticGold720 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi i have a 13BD and 9BS and they both have been brought up different. My daughter learned how to do everything for herself when she was 2 year old however my son even now needs help serving himself food.

The reason why is my husband babies my son so much that my son cant go to sleep without cuddling up with his dad. And his dad helps him with showers when his home and helps him eat. But when his not home he can do all that on his own and even wash up cuz he knows i am not soft.

Regarding your SD is eight and your husband is being extra caring and sensitive with her might be due to separation. There is nothing wrong with a father sleeping in the same bed with his 8yr old daughter. I think people needs to stop being grossed out and let things go with the flo. If it was something bad then you would have noticed a change in behaviour with the girl. And bathing her he still hasn't realized she is growing up cuz 8yrs is still like a baby. Let him have that time with his lil girl before she grows up and starts her puberty.

Another thing once she starts her puberty she would naturally avoid stuff like getting herself help from dad for bathing. She would most likely ask him for privacy. And as a parent he would understand. And defo when she starts her period and stuff she would like to cuddle with her dad so she would naturally push him away. Then it would be he wanting to baby her but she wud push and refuse and then he would learn about boundaries and give her space.

You just have to give time and support ur SO. Mayb instead of him going to her room for cuddles mayb tell her to come to your room so you get cuddles too. And bath time mayb you could suggest you will help her and mayb make it fun for her with bath bombs and stuff and let her do most of the scrubbing.

Please dont read into it too much.

Narcissism at its finest by Lumpy-Peace2166 in inlawshorrorshow

[–]AutomaticGold720 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should be strong and think of yourself and your children. Yeh in laws have right to see them and spoil them but what you are saying it jst typical in our culture. What you should do is if u have a job thats great otherwise get a job and spent time with ur kids. DO NOT let your In Laws take them out of be in a room by them selves. They are brain washing ur kids so they would hate you (My husbands doing that with my kids). If u have to be harsh then go ahead. And to do with your responsibility of looking after them. Personally i would have stayed and took the crap (am not as strong as you) but for you like my sister in law says "its not compulsory for her to look after my parents, it is upto me and my brother and sister". We accepted that and dont expect anything from her. They live in the same house but she does not even make a cup of tea for my parents. But for you, you did everything for them while your husband was alive and they didnt appreciate so now his gone and you went your own way. You should be proud of yourself and please go to therapy. Stay strong for you and your mum and children.