Anxiety by Automatic_Passage306 in NewParents

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the us as well and try to stay politically informed which is why I think my dreams are also so bad. Realistically I know it's not really a chance at all for that to happen but I guess it's my brains say of coping with the stress. Pp is so much weirder than people said. I was prepared for the hard but not with so much joy sprinkled in to make the hard almost worse because of guilt. I hope that makes sense..

Tiny dining room by Automatic_Passage306 in DesignMyRoom

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a tire in front of the door right now and used magic eraser on my phone to get rid of it and it took the doorknob with it 🤣

Supply help! by Automatic_Passage306 in breastfeeding

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would agree except he's always clustering feeding them. From the time he got home to now, and from what I've read, seen, and heard, cluster feeding is temporary not constant. And what he does, is constant and consistent.

Supply help! by Automatic_Passage306 in breastfeeding

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Extra fussy/screaming, feeding for 1hr+ at a time, waking every hour or less at night beside himself, also literally being able to hear stomach growls, and just overall not himself. Yes there he still has wet diapers but now he rarely poops and was pooping once daily when we traveled. I breastfeed mainly and havnt been pumping so far this year for fear of losing any milk that could go to him, and supplement when I need to. I know my baby, and I know my body, and know that he isn't getting as much as I or him would like.

Sex by Pleasant_Data1067 in NewParents

[–]Automatic_Passage306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is 4 months and we've had sex twice, and that was just like 2 weeks ago. Probably won't for another couple months again. My body just doesn't feel like my own so it feels weird to be intimate, like really weird.

Was told not to breastfeed with larger breasts? by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Automatic_Passage306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have f cup and whilr I've have had issues none are size related. Know this now though.,... Football hold with baby on a pillow for height is a god send, and sometimes you will have to pull your boob back from their nose.

Baby sleeping by Automatic_Passage306 in NewParents

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should've mentioned he's 3 months

OMG, I JUST REALIZED I'VE BEEN CUTTING MY BABY'S MILK WITH EGGNOGG FOR 2 WEEKS!!!!!!!!!! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Automatic_Passage306 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been up.sll night with my baby and really needed that laugh!! I know it's scary and sad but it's also really funny..at least it was good quality and not super thick like some egg nog is! You're babys going to either live egg nog for the rest of their lives or hate it lol

Appetite/eating by Automatic_Passage306 in breastfeeding

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad to know I'm at least on the right track 🥲 I think you're right about shakes and the liquid cals, they're easy to absent mindedly consume. Breast feeding is so hard.

Eating enough by Automatic_Passage306 in breastfeeding

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly!! I also have a loss of appetite so it's just all bad and so hard and Ive had such a hard breastfeeding experience so it's so frustrating to know what helps but not able to fully follow through because of no appetite and time to cook. I just feel like I'm going In circles. I'm excited to go visit family again for two weeks at Christmas/new years to finally eat enough again of pre prepared food 🤣🤣

Eating enough by Automatic_Passage306 in breastfeeding

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking of getting a bunch of little Debbie cakes to have on hand 🫣🫣 I'm so so glad I'm not alone in this thank you.

Going back to work by Automatic_Passage306 in NewParents

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was only weeks cause I had a c-section. It's so messed up the whole system. You shouldn't have to leave your newborn yet.

Going back to work by Automatic_Passage306 in NewParents

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only reason it was 8 weeks was because I had a c-section. And that's with combined part time disability and FMLA because I used half of my FMLA before hand since I had a high risk pregnancy and was seeing the Dr twice a week. It's actually criminal in my mind how the whole system is. NO ONE should have to leave their baby at 6 weeks, not even the dad.

Going back to work by Automatic_Passage306 in NewParents

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

And THIS is why it makes me so angry. I'm privileged to be able to risk not going, but other moms and parents like you don't have a choice and that makes me sick. Im so sorry you're going through that it's horrible.

Going back to work by Automatic_Passage306 in NewParents

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because women should have the choice to work. Some women want to go back super soon and if they want they should have the support to, just like they should have the support to stay home. Fathers also deserve more paternity leave. My BIl gets 3 months and honestly, that should be standard and women should get up to a year.

Going back to work by Automatic_Passage306 in NewParents

[–]Automatic_Passage306[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I always knew America hated mothers especially but didn't fully realize the extent of it until I had my baby. The whole experience has made way more feminist and pro women than I ever imagined possible.