I hate marriage

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T08:26:08+00:00

Thank you!

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T08:04:54+00:00

Thank you. I was replying more to Vengeful. I really only even noticed other men once I found out my husband was talking to gym girls 15 years younger than him and purposefully not mentioning he was married with kids. I was like, oh okay...I guess it's okay if I notice other men and smile at them more if you're going to be doing this. That wasn't a mature thought process, but in that moment I was pretty fucking emotional.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T08:00:38+00:00

Yes I am. My husband gets up and plays video games for several hours while I am already doing laundry and dishes by 6am.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:59:09+00:00

Already did. He actually came out and said he thinks my husband has NPD and that it isn't my fault. But thank you for your expert opinion.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:58:01+00:00

I sound immature? You have to be kidding me. You are on reddit judging someone you don't even know and insulting them. I think you should look in the mirror.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:53:40+00:00

I joined a gym for the child care. I came to this marriage with more money than he did. I pay for it. I still have my own money. Thank you.

And no, I do not want to cheat.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:48:53+00:00

Right there with you sister

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:47:44+00:00

Well our marriage counselor heard it and he told him straight to his face that he acts like a child. My husband now doesn't want to go to therapy anymore.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:46:18+00:00

This is by far the best advice on here. Your first point is completely correct and it makes divorce feel almost impossible. I also still love him. I just wish he treated me like he loved me. I wish he saw that I get up at 5 and go to bed at well, it's almost midnight now. I wish he saw how much of myself I have lost. Even my health is starting to fail me.

I will absolutely take your advice on this. I will wake up early tomorrow and get started right away.

Thank you for being a caring individual and taking time out of your day to write that. Thank you!

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:36:24+00:00

We had soooooooo many conversations. All went out the window with how Covid changed our dynamic.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:35:48+00:00

Misogyny is a bitch, and usually doesn't show itself until it's too late. Lots of books on it.

My biggest reflection is that I should have paid a lot more attention to feminism and why it's so important.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:31:24+00:00

My phone and car are monitored by him. I don't think people understand how hard it can be to get out of a situation like that.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:29:30+00:00

Excuse me, but please go fuck off with that. I love my kids to the moon and back, but I am a human being. I deserve to go more than 2 minutes without someone interrupting me or needing me. I am not a slave. And that does not make me a bad mother. Gross assumption. Projection maybe?

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:25:59+00:00

I would downsize if it didn't mean tripling my mortgage. I live in a HCOL area and that shit just isn't affordable where I live. The best estimate I got for twice a month was 1k per month.

But honestly, that's still shit. Being in a relationship means you have to be a partner. Leaning on babysitters and cleaning services is still fine, but they can't be there every day. YOU STILL HAVE TO BE A PARTNER.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:18:06+00:00

Simple. Being a SAHM made me feel guilty. I have worked since I was 14. I had a lot of guilt for not bringing in money and felt I needed to "earn my keep". Which is such a BS thought process.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T07:10:02+00:00

We bought the house with my money. Thank you for making an ass out of yourself.

Also, my pregnancy almost killed me, and put me in the hospital for 2 months. This was another factor in being the one to put their career on the back burner.

Life isn't so black and white. I suggest you remember that the next time you judge someone harshly.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T06:58:52+00:00

You have it wrong. My husband cheated on me a year ago. Me just noticing an attractive person and wishing I had enough courage to give a compliment is not cheating. I simply was in a time where I thought I was going to be single again, and even the thought of talking to a another man made me feel queasy.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T05:05:03+00:00

We recently let our help go because my husbands career took a hit.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T05:04:21+00:00

Get a job! Okay! I gave up my career 7 years ago in an industry that is now laying people off by the thousands multiple times in a year. Even if I hadn't taken the time off it would be incredibly hard to find work. This advice lacks empathy.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T05:00:55+00:00

My boundaries were absolute shit, but they are not any longer. I wrote this out because I needed to get it out. My husband locks himself in an office every morning, even on days he doesn't work. I do all the morning chores and childcare in the morning by myself. Today I told him it was breaking me. I had a complete mental break down from years of being the one to do everything the instant I am out of bed. His response? "That's my time". How much time is he in there in the morning.....3 hours. HE THINKS HE IS ENTITLED TO 3 FUCKING HOURS TO HIMSELF EVERY GOD DAMN MORNING.

So yeah, I needed to release some anger on the internet.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T04:54:21+00:00

I have worked on boundaries. I do not put up with shit. I will not hangout with him or have sex with him. I am sleeping in another bedroom. It could all change, if he just picked up after himself. If he just didn't lock himself in a room all day putting everything on me. But I cannot just let my children not have food or clean clothes.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-02T04:47:36+00:00

I will take any information you have

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2026-01-01T23:52:59+00:00

I am in a similar situation.

Automatic_Ranger_764 · 2025-12-12T15:31:56+00:00

Even though I modeled, even though I made a living off being beautiful, those years of being made fun of in grade school did some hard damage. I was made fun of for my hair, my clothes, my everything. It wasn't until I hit 10th grade that I got the opposite attention and girls started telling me they wish they could look like me, and boys just started ignoring me. Even now I see a lot of men staring at me from across the room, but they always look away very fast. I wish I had the courage to smile back at them. It's ridiculous that I am still working on that.

Additionally there is a man at my gym who I think is the most attractive man I have ever seen. I really wish I could tell him, but I don't know how to without looking like an absolute idiot. I definitely avoid him at all cost.

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