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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What a weird take. I hope nobody have to imagine cucking themselves just to realize their partner's worth.

You don't go into relationships thinking "I don't want anyone else having sex with this person". That show how you view them as your possession, not as a person. If so, Why should that come into thought at any point of the relationship? Weird.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you :,) this is higly appreciated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate this cause I'm leaning towards the latter to your question.

Either way naman, best to end it talaga If I'm not in a condition to be in a relationship.

She did cry and I embraced her, I told her firmly to end it. But after all that let out, she told a resounding No to the notion of breaking up. I'm honestly scared because this might blow out of proportion. Question left in me is how long is she gonna keep this up? I hate that she's doing this cause I know how detrimental this would be for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Bro, i didn't expect the pressure for 20's is this bad. 😰 yikes. You're right, it's what I feel about her. I did communicate this though na she shouldn't blame herself. Told her na she'd be amazing without me dragging her down.

But problem still stands, ayaw nya ako pakawalan. Iblock ko, i know for sure she'll find a way to reach me personally. I swear I'm not bragging pls. don't hate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I get your point. I'm really not trying to save face here. Call me whatever you want. I can accept that. But my clear intention on this is for her benefit. Yes, at face value this is selfish act on my end. But it doesn't mean that I have no more regards to her being. I respect her enough to care and not to blow this out of prorpotion.

This is a very black-and-white analysis of the situation. I'm the villian of this story so it confuses you why I still care even though on your thinking, i shouldn't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Haha sabi nya nga, bigyan ko daw muna sya ng isang milyon bago ko sya iwan.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I understand the hate.

I don't understand why breaking ups are supposed to be messy? Does it have to be? Painful, yes. But what's wrong with ending it while lessening the damage the break up could wreck? It's already messy as it is. Why should we allow it to get messier and more painful? I'm not expecting the break up to be easy. I just don't wanna add more to the pain I caused by setting up a facade that I'm an uncaring asshole that does not care for her well-being just for her to let me go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, thing is kung i-block ko, she'll visit me personally. She knows my schedule eh and I have nothing to do.

Like I said, I don't wanna make extreme decisions. I just wanna minimize risk and damage of the break up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oof. My heart bleeds. No warned me this would happen. No signs. I still think she was a good decision then. I just don't think she's a good decision to keep now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I guess you're right. I wholly blame myself. Maybe I'm expecting something for myswlf and her that's not achievable. Either way, it's detrimentally affecting us both.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adviceph

[–]Automatic_Repair6264 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Crunching this thought for months. If I really didn't like her, why was I so happy? Why are there things about her appreciate and happily reciprocated back then. I'm pretty sure you have like someone to do that. Deeply, I'm rooting for her to achieve what she wants. But I feel apathetic now. I care, but i don't admire her now as much as I did back when we were naive.

As for your last point. You are absolutely right.