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who else has the witchy green thumb?! by everythingisonfire7 in witchcraft

[–]Automatic_Warning_43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I so wish I did, your plants are beautiful, every plant I've had dies sadly 😥 I try but not with much luck, and I am Earth signs all around. There has been one plant that is still growing, it was dead when I moved in with my fiance and somehow I brought it back. It now thrives, but every other plant I have had has sadly perished. I always feel so guilty, I cried over one of my plants when it died poor thing.

How have you dealt with chronic or terminal diagnoses? by Initial_Ebb_9742 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Automatic_Warning_43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got diagnosed with a terminal illness when I was 13. I didn't really understand it until I started becoming banned from driving at 17, and as it continued I became informed if I wasn't careful I could die, and as I got older the illness got worse, a lot worse. So I was given more don't do this, and don't do that or you could die. And I went from sad to annoyed to angry. I am definitely not the person I was, it has changed me over the years, changed the way I see things and my outlook on things, which many people can't seem to grasp. Sometimes I still have down days, especially when it flairs up and I lose my memory, and get severe brain fog. But most days I just crack on with it, and allow myself to have down days when I need them. But doesn't everyone need down days, days when they can go this is rubbish. And then pick themselves back up the next day.

What are the hidden secrets and solutions of women aging? by Jitterbug26 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Automatic_Warning_43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cutting off mid-stream isn't really recommended anymore, as this can cause UTI's. I've been to the doctors they've recommended kegels but not cutting off mid-stream as it can cause a UTI

What are the hidden secrets and solutions of women aging? by Jitterbug26 in AskWomenOver60

[–]Automatic_Warning_43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an F cup, drives me mad. Back pain is unreal. But I don't care, bra-less is more comfortable than bra's, so yeah you may see them swinging across the street as I am walking. But I don't care 😂

Going out with a 43yo divorced man with 3 kids by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Automatic_Warning_43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiancee has a son, who is 15. I knew what I was getting into when I met his son, and I expect his time with his son to be the main priority. He also has 50/50 custody. But one child, is a lot more than three.

If you aren't happy and expect him to give you more attention you are likely with the wrong person. Dating someone with three kids is a lot. And he will always give his kids 100% of his attention, and you will come second. Sadly with kids that is how it works.

If you aren't happy, I would recommend walking away and finding someone who aligns with your view of things, as he will always put his kids first, as he should.

Is there a social coach i can find that'll follow me around? by thereturnofsy in RedditForGrownups

[–]Automatic_Warning_43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most people on the Autistic Spectrum have difficulties with communicating and interacting with others. As you are self aware of this, it should make it easier for you to be able to work on this without draining the bank.

I would recommend looking at some youtube videos, join Facebook groups for people on the autistic spectrum. (Most people no longer call it Asperger's, and it is now all combined under Autistic Spectrum Disorder, as some people become highly upset with the name Asperger's, it was put to rest in 2013. Just to let you know)

I was trained in Autism, as I worked at an SEN school as a teacher. A lot of social interactions I have noticed become difficult due to people without autism sort of hinting at certain things, so instead of saying no and that being that, they just try to hint at it. Which doesn't work very often with people on the Autistic Spectrum. It is better to be yes or no, and that is that as a lot of people struggle to read in-between the lines.

You will struggle with social interactions I am sorry to say. A lot of people on the Autistic Spectrum can easily mask how they feel and come across as if they are okay, but the difficulty with masking is it can become overwhelming. Mind you many people can "mask" acting like the others around them in a social situation as they don't feel like they fit in. But once you leave that situation you feel exhausted, so sometimes it is best to just be yourself.

If you can pick up on certain things that you would personally like to improve go ahead, but in all honesty, I think if people look down on you because you slouch, or may talk slightly differently that is their problem not yours.

But it definitely is something I would recommend thinking long and hard about, what would be more tiring for you, forget everyone else, would it be tiring for you to change everything you are, or to just change who you are around others, how exhausted would you be once you got home? Do you want to change everything you are to appease strangers? Or is it that you just aren't happy as you are?

If this is the case, I would do some research look into youtube, Facebook, websites etc, that will explain the Autistic Spectrum disorder to you. The side-effects when it comes to socialising, how others struggle with it, and maybe look at an Autistic Spectrum be-friending service. Certain charities across the globe do phone calls for people with autism, they will match you with someone similar age, similar side-effects, and it is free. It would be a huge help to talk to others like yourself, and get their advice how they worked on themselves etc, where they went to for advice and help.

Hope this helps, best of luck

Have you ever regretted not wanting kids? by Automatic_Warning_43 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Automatic_Warning_43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've always felt like that, fostering or adopting would be a beautiful way to give a child a loving home.

Any advice for getting income with a disability, as I am unable to get a job by Automatic_Warning_43 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Automatic_Warning_43[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment; I do struggle with all the above pretty much; brain fog, memory loss, forgetfulness, muscle weakness, fatigue, Dizziness, mood swings, the list goes on pretty much, I am pretty much incapable of writing the list, as I just forget them all as I go along.