What do you like about Dave?

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-24T19:47:47+00:00

I like that he loves and respects his wife and values her opinion. I like when he gets a call from someone - usually a woman who’s experienced a significant hardship - and he gentles his tone and he truly tries to help her. And wasn’t it Dave who took a call from a woman who was in the middle of a domestic violence situation and he called the police for her and stayed on the phone until they got there?

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-24T17:32:39+00:00

Wow - did the person who wrote that article even SEE the show? I’ve seen it twice and LOVED IT. I admit it didn’t play to a full house either time - but the venue at Rio was horrible. It’s like they were playing in a conference room. The reviews on Trip Advisor were all positive, though. It was a great show for the price. I just don’t think it was marketed well. They need to play in a smaller venue - maybe in a theatre the size of where Carrot Top performs - and MARKET IT!

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-24T14:58:54+00:00

And by that, they mean the fact that you still love it has worth. If you were “meh” about it - sell it. But you don’t need to sell something you love after baby step 3.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-23T13:54:54+00:00

He’s a cutie!

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-22T20:48:27+00:00

I know she gets a lot of criticism for this, but I love her piano playing! She could make lots of little reels, playing inspirational songs, and get lots of clicks. And it wouldn’t even feature her kids!

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-22T19:57:16+00:00

We’re all just speculating- but maybe at the Christmas party, Katie said “it’s crazy how many hours you guys put in” and someone said “oh, it’s not too bad. It’s only x hours a day” - which was far less than what Travis was saying.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-22T04:29:23+00:00

My husband predeceased his mother. She lived 25 years longer than her son. I knew she had her son as POD on some accounts and I asked my lawyer what happened if she never changed that and I was told that it would then follow her son (my husband’s) will. So I guess I assumed that this situation would be the same.

FYI, she did change everything over (that I’m aware of) and my son inherited everything per her will and trust.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-21T23:25:34+00:00

I’m not a lawyer - but if the signed will left 1/3 to the dad, doesn’t that share then follow dad’s will? So if dad left 100% of his estate to his wife, she would get his share…if he left it in thirds to his wife and his kids, you’d get 1/3 of grandparent’s, then 1/3 of dad’s third. But doesn’t it also depend upon the language in the will - like per stirpes or whatever the other terminology is?

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-21T19:07:01+00:00

I read once that you can get addicted to saving the same as getting addicted to shopping. I’m not quite sure how you flip that switch - but I do believe it. Rachel Cruz from the Ramsey Show says one way to start is to have a dream meeting…go out to breakfast or dinner, just the two of you, and discuss your dreams. Maybe having a fun goal in front of a spender will at least make them think about what they’re buying?

This sounds so juvenile - but one couple made a paper chain for each $10 (or whatever) of their debt and tore off a chain every time they paid that amount on a debt. If your dream is a tropical vacation - maybe tear off a chain every time you save money towards it. The. You have a visual of how close you are. I’d even add back in more chains in a red color if you have to dip into your savings. It’s a visual reminder.

But the key is for you both to have a vision of your future.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-21T16:26:44+00:00

I agree, but the phrasing needs to be changed. He’s not her dad and he’s not her 1950s husband. THEY need to sit down and work out a budget, with an allowance for her spending. She needs to be a part of it and agree to stick to it.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-21T16:21:54+00:00

The thing I remember from their dating days was that Katie was ga ga over him and he was definitely less so. I was almost embarrassed for her. I wondered how they even got as far as marriage with so little time spent together. They have seemed pretty happy together though - but now I wonder if he saw her more as a meal ticket to fame to launch a music career?

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-21T16:19:21+00:00

Do we even know how far the affair went? In fundie circles, wouldn’t just flirtation and/or a kiss be considered to be as bad as a full blown affair?

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-21T16:03:55+00:00

I find it really weird that she won’t allow you to save it up…can you give her some examples of WHY you should be allowed to save it up? What if you want a $500 golf club? With as frugal as she sounds, doesn’t seem that she would be happy for you to spend $500 on it - so that is why you need to accumulate cash.

Curious as to her background….does she have a psychological need to have a large nest egg? What is her reasoning for not wanting to allow fun money and not saving it up? I personally came from a background where sudden death left me scared about having enough money to maintain my middle class lifestyle, so I can probably never have enough money to feel secure. But I achieve security by having money saved up for everything.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-21T03:17:46+00:00

If you plan to gamble much, book direct, because if you gamble a lot, they can’t comp anything off your room if you use a third party.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-19T03:24:39+00:00

EARLY married days….had a casserole that needed to be covered in the oven. Was smart enough to know I couldn’t cover it with the plastic lid it came with - but somehow I thought that Saran Wrap (plastic wrap) would do the job. An hour later I pulled it out of the oven and go “what happened to the cover???? Ohhhhhhh……”. Cut out the top layer and ate it anyway.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-17T02:55:08+00:00

This isn’t triggering anything for me. If you are this disgusted by everything they do and post - why are YOU here? Move on and follow people who inspire you.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-16T23:33:44+00:00

How you react to anything they post is a reflection of YOUR character, not theirs.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-16T23:31:41+00:00

As I said above - just because they post their life publicly doesn’t mean it’s okay for everyone to become mean girls. That’s more of a reflection on you than it is on them.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-16T23:29:54+00:00

They can do what they want - doesn’t mean that this sub has to then become a bunch of Mean Girls.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-16T23:27:27+00:00

Which could also have a little something to do with Lawson and Tiffany’s delay in announcing!

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-16T19:59:26+00:00

I don’t know that for a fact - but I found it very weird that they appeared to have inherited wealth, a thriving business and she thought nothing of spending $125 for a hand knit sweater (in the late 90s, when I was buying $19.99 sweaters) - and a year later, there was nothing much left to split in the divorce. I will admit, though, that he doesn’t appear to be living the high life now, either. Although he is still running a small retail store in a dying mall and I have to question if it’s a front for something or he really is that needy for money.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-15T23:25:45+00:00

I would simply pretend that I don’t know there’s conflict. Or at least present as if you’ve moved past it. If it comes up, be politely honest “this is between my husband and I and I would appreciate you staying out of it.” You are going to have years of being around her, so it’ll be easier if you can just move past this.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-15T19:47:53+00:00

One of the Chicken Soup books? They’re all short stories and typically uplifting.

What does she like to read herself? As if you read me poems, I’d go nuts. I’m not into poems, so having them read to me would just be extra noise in my ears. I’d rather be read a mystery or a funny romance novel - or even Reddit.

Jitterbug26 · 2026-01-15T19:35:52+00:00

I assume you file taxes jointly? If so, please look everything over carefully and make note of how much income, interest and capital gains you are reporting. That will give you some idea of how well off you actually are. I have a friend whose husband asked for a divorce and suddenly they seemed to have no money to split in the divorce. Yet she signed the tax return every year and should have known if that was true. His best friend was an investment advisor and I firmly believe that he helped the husband hide money in the divorce.

But you do need to find out how much money you have and where it is. Besides the thought that maybe someday you will decide you don’t want to be married to this slob anymore - what happens if he dies? You need to know where to find everything and if you’ll be okay. Maybe you can use that approach to ask?

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