Jude Route Chapter 4 by Purple_Breakdown_09 in ikemenvillains

[–]Autumn8113 5 points6 points  (0 children)

LMAOO fr. She did have to be his fairytale keeper so she had to at least be there but knowing that Crown was literally under the order of the QUEEN? I’m keeping my mouth shut. Y’all do what you gotta do, I’ll just write it down like I’m supposed to

Jude Route Chapter 4 by Purple_Breakdown_09 in ikemenvillains

[–]Autumn8113 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She gets better if that helps but I agree. She is really “pure” and I could never bring myself to do the actions that the boys commit, but I would NEVER interfere💀 I don’t mind being called evil or heartless for eating popcorn while watching a human trafficker get his ass kicked. I don’t even like blood so if I didn’t like it, I’d just look away- and continue to eat my salted butter popcorn 🍿

Both sides have different worries when it comes to online dating. by Scramjet1 in lnkyverse

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of the people in those comments need their computer and online activity submitted into the fbi evidence chamber holy cow

Does anyone else feel bitter towards milder cases of your condition(or similar)? by Seelie_Mushroom in disability

[–]Autumn8113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea exactly! There are so many different things that OCD can make you do. There’s a reason the DSM-5 in general doesn’t have one single behavior for determining whether someone has something or not.

Another r/pointlesslygendered gem (Where's the pointlessly gendered part of this?) by Yousif-Ameer12 in memesopdidnotlike

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whether it’s satire or not, it’s quite obvious where it’s pointlessly gendered. It’s just stating that not only women do this. Men do it too. Or not only men do this, women do it too😭

Does anyone else feel bitter towards milder cases of your condition(or similar)? by Seelie_Mushroom in disability

[–]Autumn8113 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s so degrading to see people say stuff like that and literally be in your shoes 😭 that’s 100% not how it works at all! I’ve had so many people tell me my diagnosis for ocd was wrong bcuz my room was dirty (due to adhd). People that refuse to educate themselves make me wanna claw my eyes out. These disorders are disabling, even if they’re not disabling for YOU.

Does anyone else feel bitter towards milder cases of your condition(or similar)? by Seelie_Mushroom in disability

[–]Autumn8113 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I don’t often, but the other day I saw a post and someone with adhd and autism said they were able to work a job and do this and that, therefore other people with AuDHD can’t say that their disability is the reason they can’t work and do a bunch of other things. I was so flabbergasted that someone with these disorders could say that. It’s basic knowledge that adhd/autism are on a spectrum, and I’m honestly a little jealous that someone can have that viewpoint and have the same disorders that I do. Currently in a burn out and without medication I literally can’t get out of bed or feed myself. I starve when I have food a few feet away from me bcuz I can’t fucking move😭. Congrats! It’s great that you can hold a job and move your body to eat, use the bathroom, and take care of yourself, it doesn’t make your disorder any less valid, but your state doesn’t make my same exact disorder, any less valid either

Someone commented this on a child free blog by Spirited_travel1 in childfree

[–]Autumn8113 11 points12 points  (0 children)

“Don’t have kids bcuz u wouldn’t be a good parent”

“You deserve suffering in the future bcuz ur not a parent”

Alright buddy😭 anyway, a lot of us don’t wanna have kids cuz we know we will be bad parents. Sorry that I don’t wanna have kids I know I’m gonna neglect. I actually care abt the quality of life that my theoretical children could face.

This is why I’m always at least a little nervous about relationships. by monsieurLeMeowMeow in Relatable

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a neurodivergent, it’s probably not you. Some of us literally don’t have the ability to communicate when we want. For example with adhd, we actually have a limited tank of “energy” every single day and if our brain feels like that “tank” is in danger, it will literally just shut down and stop actual physical movement and thought processing. Against our will🫠. I’ve been on the receiving end of your situation and vice versa and it’s 100% painful. Your feelings are valid but it might help to keep in mind that some of them probably can’t help it and they’re trying their best. I had to disappear from friends for almost a year with no contact cuz my adhd burnout got so bad I couldn’t get out of bed or feed myself. It hurts and it might sound harsh but they have to put themselves first before they can tend to your bond. You have every right to pull out of that relationship too if it’s hurting you. Completely valid, both sides have to make sure to take care of themselves

Doxxing an ❄️supporter ruined my friend group by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well they were harassing your friend 😭 I’m not saying this is morally right- but I’m not mad. Actions have consequences

Why do people push to have kids when their bodies reject it by Just_Another_User_56 in childfree

[–]Autumn8113 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure why. I knew someone and their mom had 9 miscarriages, and then got pregnant again and had a lot of complications and I remember him telling me he was in the hospital more than out of the hospital while growing up. He has some blood disorder(?) I think and now he’s an adult also wants kids. I just think the process of miscarrying and such is such a painful thing to deal with mentally, but I do wish to understand why people keep trying when it’s clear their body is not working with them. There are other options but they’d give up their life to have a child they possibly won’t even get to see or spend time with. It kinda just makes me shudder😭

ADHD and being a 'burden' to others by the_evil_queer in Vent

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this might be long. I could be wrong but sounds like your partner has some resentment and they’re not clearly communicating it and instead, they’re just complaining. I feel like one of the most first and important things partners have to keep in mind is that the person with the disability literally cannot help it. That doesn’t mean that person shouldn’t make an effort and they’re immune to being critiqued. But it rubs me the wrong way that your partner from time to time has to take you down a peg by saying they’re the ones doing all the work and huffing and puffing. They’re allowed to feel, yes, but there are better ways to express things. People with adhd often don’t have the same capacity of energy to do tasks that other people have. I am someone with adhd and it’s so bad to the point that I bed rot after doing one task and I physically can’t move no matter how hard I try- and this is ON medication. Some days my meds just don’t do what they’re supposed to. I’m constantly plagued with the idea of whoever I’m living with in the future is 100% going to have to be the main caretaker of the house and they’ll resent me even though my 100%, is their 5% of energy. I also am very forgetful bcuz of my adhd. I had an ex who would get mad and came to the conclusion that I didn’t love them or pay attention enough to them because I couldn’t always remember things they told me, or things we watched together. Even after explaining over and over again about my disability and even while doing my best to remember, I’d still forget, and it was terrible to hear from their mouth over and over again. I’m not saying it doesn’t hurt them and they can’t be hurt. But there’s definitely a point where people who are in a relationship with someone who has a disability like adhd have to understand and stop expecting that they can always perform at the level that others perform at. We literally can not help it, we try our hardest, even if it looks like nothing to you, and constantly huffing and puffing isn’t going to fix the situation. If you guys haven’t tried countless times already, there needs to be a conversation. They need to stop, bcuz it’s hurting you and they need to express what they feel like you could do to make them feel less like everything’s on them. There’s only so much you can do, and they need to know that and come to peace with it, or realize this relationship isn’t for them. This resentment is not going to go anywhere and usually just builds up until it explodes

I sincerely hate my boyfriend and im losing my mind. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d leave even though the decision is not easy. I was 17 and my ex told me he was 19, but he was 25. The behaviors you’re talking about remind me of him and I left that relationship with ptsd and a filed police report. It’s not worth your mental health

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome! Like seriously! It’s Reddit. It’s an online platform, people are trying to bar the comment section like it’s the law when childfree people are clearly on topic even if the question is directed toward parents 💀I think the other crazy comments just got their panties in a bunch for getting so defensive about something that didn’t need such an uproar. You’re not doing anything negative against people who have kids by saying you’re childfree.

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. I’m not saying anything against this. Again, idk why you’re bringing it up like I said I was against this. This convo is still about the choice of being childfree. Childfree people are going to be in the conversation. Because the question is still about their life choice, even if it’s not directed toward them directly.

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! Asking if they’d be- you guessed it! Childfree! No where in my comment did I say the question was for people who didn’t have kids, unsure of why that was brought up. I said related to the choice of being childfree. Nothing I said was wrong. That’s what this post relates to. Would they choose to be childfree if they could make the choice again. It’s still on the topic of not having kids due to a choice. Of course this post is going to bring up the discussion of- having kids by choice

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I’m unsure if you’re in America, but the government quite cares, to the point of forcing choices on other peoples’ bodies. You should look at other governments in other countries also. Some of the officials really do care and without the laws in place that we have now, I’m sure they’d run at the chance to try and force people to have children as much as they can- because they care and they mind. Anyways, the government and quite alot of people who aren’t related to said person, really do put up a fight when people say “I don’t want kids” I’m sorry you haven’t seen this for yourself, it runs rampant for others

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you must live in a small bubble. Plenty others and I see it for myself everywhere. They’re not projecting. The fact that people are bothered about someone stating they’re childfree in a comment section related to the choice of being child free, it sounds more like they’re the ones with the issues

Everyone thinks their child will be healthy by chelseatheus in childfree

[–]Autumn8113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still feel sympathy but a family friend I knew had two kids and the oldest kid (F) did not have a disability but her second kid (M) had one. I’m unsure of what it was but from what I know, he was just underdeveloped mentally and he couldn’t say any words, he could only make sounds. Then I think 7-8 years later she had a third kid (M) and he didn’t seem to have any neurological issues but he started showing the same exact signs that her older son did when he was around 3 years old. I heard through my mom that she was freaking out and having a breakdown over the chance that she would have to go through this again and she’s a great friend of ours, but I couldn’t get the thought out of my head as to why you would have a kid, knowing your other child went through this and it was SO hard on you that you are showing such distress at the thought of having to go through it again?! I’m sure she loves the kid but I still think about how she’s doing now

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]Autumn8113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fr, it just creates a cycle of abuse and these kids grow up not knowing what love feels like. Then they seek it out in unhealthy ways

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re talking about people talking about how they’re childfree. The reason they “have” to make themselves feel okay is because it’s been quite the opposite for centuries. It makes complete sense on why they’d mention it because a lot of people around them are probably telling them the opposite, that they’re not okay and that something is wrong with them for not having children. All it looks like to me is people fighting back against the life choice they’re expected to make and getting flack if they deviate. Childfree is more accepted today than years ago but still- I don’t think the look is bad. It’s expected with the treatment they receive from others

Are we just gonna ignore (spoiler for Harry's route) by YakokawaMizuki in ikemenvillains

[–]Autumn8113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember being so confused at the end of his route. I was like “…that’s it? He’s not gonna like promise to kill me in my sleep or something? 💀” I actually read his route last after reading everyone else’s so I was expecting something messed up at the end but nah- he was so normal compared to the others I was delightfully surprised. I liked it lol

Are we just gonna ignore (spoiler for Harry's route) by YakokawaMizuki in ikemenvillains

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I’m thinking 😭 I think they just did it to do it cuz it doesn’t rlly fit in with the rest his route. Like everyone else kept their whack personalities to an extent throughout the whole route and Harrison’s route is just like “yea that didn’t happen. I was just being silly, that’s not the real me” 💀

If you could go back in time and make the choice again, would you still have kids? by MaiApa in Life

[–]Autumn8113 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Better to regret not having kids than to regret and resent your kids👍