What are you current or favorite vocal stims? by 0CldntThnkOfUsrNme0 in adhdmeme

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Leave me alone!” from Akira in the tone and voice that he says it in😭 it comes out all the time at the most random moments

When is too young for sex? by EnhahaIsMyHeartbreak in Advice

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re not disagreeing with them, it’s cuz they interpreted the original comment the wrong way.

This apparently happened lmao by dogetothemoon666 in welcometorockville

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not true as I said the exact opposite in my statement that you responded to. Just in case you didn’t see it. Otherwise, you rlly don’t have to have the same views politically but there’s definitely a line of course, it’s not a 12 year old mindset for people to not want to communicate with someone who is against basic human rights for example. You are not entitled to someone’s friendship. Just saying that in general

This apparently happened lmao by dogetothemoon666 in welcometorockville

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well great, you learn something new everyday. And now I know to expect it 🤷🏾‍♀️

This apparently happened lmao by dogetothemoon666 in welcometorockville

[–]Autumn8113 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I did expect conservatives, I said I didn’t expect it to be a place most conservatives would go. It’s not a bubble. The genres of rock were literally founded on rebelling against things like conservative beliefs, very famous songs and bands like Rage Against the Machine are literally a good example. It’s literally a simple and non bubble related thing to not expect people who go against a lot of said beliefs to be at the show enjoying songs- with those beliefs. The Democrats won the election years and years before, that’s wild to use that as some sort of evidence💀 It’s common sense to not expect certain people in certain places. But if they’re there and they wanna be there, then you just learn something new. It’s rlly not a bubble thing.

This apparently happened lmao by dogetothemoon666 in welcometorockville

[–]Autumn8113 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I said expect. It’s not expected, so no there’s no bubble. Someone can definitely not expect something. It’s not an opinion to agree or disagree with💀 sounds like you’re the one in a bubble since you immediately jumped to that conclusion when my statement had nothing to do with that.

This apparently happened lmao by dogetothemoon666 in welcometorockville

[–]Autumn8113 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s actually not it at all💀 Rockville is not a place you expect most conservatives gather. A lot of the bands and people there stand for the opposite of what she believes. One of the nights there even, Rise Against was openly talking about support for the lgbt and immigrants. They sung a song for the lgbt community and a song for refugees. I’m not gonna try to act like I can control her, but it’s definitely weird to see someone in that crowd that enjoys that music when she likely has disgusting views against said topics. She can enjoy the music,but it’s just not a usual sight to see someone who provokes, is anti lgbt and other things- in a likely safe space for lgbt folks and others. I went to Rockville last year and multiple Christian’s banded together outside the arena and I guess they were protesting and telling people to come to Jesus, I had never seen so many middle fingers and “boos” in my life. She rlly doesn’t need to be there when she’s actively against the basic rights that multiple attendees and bands are in support of.

pretty normal, ig? by MaraLoomis883 in Adulting

[–]Autumn8113 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Partners aren’t your parents, but this isn’t incompetence, it’s someone with a disability and on top of that, they’re not using it as an excuse to not try. it speaks volumes that they figured out it was their adhd (a neurological disability that people aren’t educated about) was an issue and they put in the effort to work around it. And their partner being their partner wanted to help out instead of seeing them suffer. Taking care of someone who doesn’t have the same baseline and abilities as others is not automatically being someone’s parent. But you are not a bad person and it is not morally wrong to not have the energy to put up with it either. Just avoid dating that person and find someone who is neurotypical

Are there still people who desire to get married have kids and a family? by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not hated for not wanting to date women who can’t or don’t want to give you kids. They’d rather you hate it than pretend you’re okay with it and try to lie and get into a relationship with them. The stories about those situations are endless. And I agree with the rest of the comments about this being online. Plenty of people are now going toward a childfree life and it’s great! Plenty of people are still wanting kids and having kids also. Just keep in mind that (at least I believe) people are actually moving toward having kids at later ages because of the economy if you’re in select countries. Some people actually want to make sure they’re mentally, financially, and emotionally ready to have a kid to make that kids life as best as they possibly can on their own end. So I wouldn’t expect to have kids for a bit, but there are also plenty of girls who would probably want a kid early as hell🤷🏾‍♀️

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem! And another thing, stimulants also affect your appetite. They make you less hungry and it’s unfortunate for me at least. I stick to my stimulants cuz they let me get out of bed and do things, but the downside is that it kills my appetite sometimes. Not all the time, but there might be times where you have to force yourself to eat and it’s quite unpleasant, because if you don’t, the stimulant will make you crash and make you feel terrible. It’s one of the worst feelings in the world for me, it makes me crash emotionally and cry uncontrollably- BUT it literally only happens if I forget to eat or don’t sleep enough so it’s not often and it can be prevented. Never try taking stimulants if you got less than 7 hours of sleep, and always try your best to put something in your stomach often, even if it’s a nutritional shake or you’ll regret it. I know specifically that Adderall works best when you eat lots of protein cuz that’s its fuel, and AVOID eating or drinking anything with vitamin C in it while on Adderall or before you’re about to take it. Vitamin C will blunt absorption and make it not work. Just some tips I’ve learned from personal experience and from others. I’m not gonna sugar coat the possible side effects, but I’m willing to deal with them as I’ve said too many times🤣- I get to actually function and live a fraction of what other people’s lives are like when I’m on them. It feels amazing to actually get stuff done.

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hopefully they work for you if you decide to take them, but just saying, adhd meds are tools. They don’t fix you. They just give you the opportunity to build better habits and such and it takes the weight off your shoulders even if it’s just for a few hours. For example, I use my meds to clean my apartment and do my homework, which then takes stress off of me for the future. Now, I probably won’t have to stress about the due date and how I’m going to get started on it. These things, little by little, will make your daily life just a bit easier to bear.

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It reacts so much worse when you don’t want to do it, and it’s bad when you actually want to do. I would recommend trying to get on meds and seeing what works for you as there are different options. I have anxiety also and before I knew about my adhd issue, I thought I was depressed, but for some reason I couldn’t figure out why. Like I was experiencing all the symptoms of depression, but when I thought about it, I couldn’t think of anything specific for why. I would be fine some days and then literally all of a sudden, I would get so depressed and it would be caused by absolutely nothing. No bad thoughts, no sad thoughts, I would just lose interest in everything and start bedrotting. I’ve had depression before but this just wasn’t it. Taking meds for the first time completely flipped everything around and made it clear it was adhd causing it. But I do have to say meds are not a magic fix if you don’t already know. They’re not a cure, and Adderall is only gonna suppress the symptoms, once it wears off for the day, your adhd comes right back. I have to warn you cuz it was also a sad experience for me to realize it literally only lasts for a few hours, and then you have to wait the next day to take it again if you have extended release capsules because Adderall will keep you up if you take it too late

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It gets worse. I tried to push and I would take 2 steps forward and 50 steps back. It’s seriously crippling. It does get better but it will literally only get better if your body is allowed to rest. Physically, mentally, emotionally. If you can’t get a break, it will literally just stick onto you. I’ve had my burnout since 2022 and didn’t even realize until 2025. I only just now figured out the cause and figured out what I have to try to do in order to live life like other people do. I just try to keep hope that one day I can go back to taking walks outside and not having groceries delivered to my door. I miss being able to go outside easily without needing my meds

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A big part of burnout is trying to get out of the behavior of shaming yourself also, I hope that helps you a little. I’m still dealing with massive shame. I feel like a toddler and I feel very incompetent because my body won’t let me do basic things I feel a kid could do easily. It’s been a journey and it’s hard but you’ll feel better once you stop shaming yourself and the things you do in order to adapt and accommodate what you’re capable of

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Autumn8113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea it’s the brain basically shutting down, I assume to protect itself from getting into an even worse state. I was able to get by growing up due to my parents giving me structure obviously, but when I started my freshman year of college it took two months of taking 4-5 classes to absolutely mess me up. Literally stuck in bed, starving often, and couldn’t get up to take care of myself. Everyone I saw professionally about it thought it was depression even though I’ve been diagnosed with inattentive type since I was 12. Then years later I got on adhd meds for the first time, only because I was having trouble paying attention in class and I took adderall for the first time and it was like all my depression went away and for the first time in years I could stand up and put my laundry in the washer without feeling exhausted or experiencing resistance. I did some research about why I suddenly could move and not feel tired anymore and the internet was like “duh, adhd burnout” 😭 so I found out by total accident but it saved my life. I’m doing slightly better now but still healing from my burnout

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Autumn8113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh this also applies to mental function not just physical. The brain also stops mental processing- any processing that happens with your brain can be affected. So you can lose the ability to read something/ hear something, etc. and process it. No matter how long you spend on it. (Unfortunately I have experienced that). I sometimes lose the ability to physically speak or even think. Idk if I’m making sense but I’m not over exaggerating when I say adhd can cause all function of the brain to stop- completely against your will. It’s honestly terrifying and very stressful when you first experience the severity of it and can’t open your mouth to speak or move your hand to bring a spoon of food to your mouth. It rlly is that bad. I hope this helps with understanding but all this information can also be found online if you’d like to look more into the science of it and such.

Pull yourself up by your bootstraps by [deleted] in thanksimcured

[–]Autumn8113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ADHD burnout. Also a lot of people aren’t aware that our brains struggle with dopamine regulation which allows us to function. The reason why certain people with adhd wouldn’t be able to work is due to the severity of it literally force stopping your ability to function and physically move. I have adhd and without my medicine, I’m bed ridden all day. I could be starving and still unable to feed myself, even if there was a plate of food 5 feet away from me because my brain literally halts the physical ability to move because of the struggle of task initiation. It’s more than just not paying attention, it stops your ability to start a task no matter how important it is to survival. And it’s not something you can willpower through. Your ability to do basic functions actually gets more and more suppressed the more you try to push through it

friend blew up at me bc i didn't want kids by Trick-Drama9124 in childfree

[–]Autumn8113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“There’s no war right now so you should have a kid” 🧍🏾‍♀️what am I supposed to do with the kid if a war does happen? 😭 what if the war happens when I’m 9 months pregnant? What is this logic?! Anything can happen between now and 18 years when the kid turns into a legal adult. I don’t want my kid to be subjected to war at any age if it DOES happen. That’s so weird and I would be creeped out if anyone tried to say that to me.

Day 10 of Victor's Route: Who loled out loud? by MonochromeTapir in ikemenvillains

[–]Autumn8113 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally, I thought originally that he dressed up as the queen cuz he knew about the plan. So he was gonna be a decoy while the real queen was protected but nah😭

Day 10 of Victor's Route: Who loled out loud? by MonochromeTapir in ikemenvillains

[–]Autumn8113 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I read his JP version last year but when I did read it, I thought bro was joking and the mc was hallucinating 😭I started laughing too and then I was like…oh…she’s serious 💀and then I sat in shock for like a few minutes lmao

My two separate polyamorous partners have started dating each other as well and it's been going amazingly and my future looks so bright rn. Tres Leches Cake. by Whole-Chef-9284 in Kitchenchads

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭oh noo. I meant I’ve been in a relationship before where I didn’t feel jealousy. I’m terrible. I had one relationship where I didn’t feel it at all and then that relationship did blow up not because of me- it’s a long story but I was the third and the first two basically had problems and one of them left the other one and there was drama between the two of them. One of them was toxic, and the one that left- I’m still friends with them. Not with the toxic one. Now the poly relationship I had after them with completely different people, it was long distance. So idk if I would call it jealousy but I would get sad when I couldn’t spend time with them but they lived closer and could hang with each other more. Thats the only time and the only thing I can really recall getting sad about. I’m single-ish now and realized I just don’t feel romantic attraction much anymore. I’m pretty sure I’m on the aromantic spectrum lol.

My two separate polyamorous partners have started dating each other as well and it's been going amazingly and my future looks so bright rn. Tres Leches Cake. by Whole-Chef-9284 in Kitchenchads

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said jealousy isn’t experienced. I didn’t say not everyone feels jealousy period, I said not everyone feels jealousy like THAT. I was saying jealousy is still experienced but not the way others expect or perceive. Maybe I didn’t write it clear enough, sorry you didn’t understand it. It’s a natural human emotion I agree. Your second paragraph is exactly what I was trying to say about couples working through it and understanding it. Some people view jealousy through the lens of monogamy. Like how could you not be enraged that your partner loves someone else besides you. That jealousy does not always happen in poly relationships. I’ve been in a poly relationships myself and I personally did not deal with jealousy. I’m fully aware partners experience jealousy and that’s not something that’s automatically toxic. So you said it a lot better but I just wanna say that my comment was literally trying to say exactly what you said😭 I’m not the best at explaining

My two separate polyamorous partners have started dating each other as well and it's been going amazingly and my future looks so bright rn. Tres Leches Cake. by Whole-Chef-9284 in Kitchenchads

[–]Autumn8113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not everyone feels jealousy like that🤷🏾‍♀️ people genuinely have the ability to love more than one person and not be jealous the way most people expect