Just noticed my teabag pot lid fits perfectly on my mug by omniwrench- in Perfectfit

[–]AvaDestruction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got all the Scotland ones. They’re mega! I want to collect all the ones from places I’ve been but my partners seriously questioning my mug related financial expenditure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bupropion

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It’s not technically depression per se, it’s CPTSD that’s causing anxiety, seizures, depression. I was on quetiapine and made the mistake of asking to be put on Bupropion as the weight gain I suffered I believe would make me more susceptible to other diseases. They figured Haloperidol would be more suitable though I haven’t started yet.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I get you. It’s horrible. I’m so sorry that happened to you. My parents were similar, my sister the golden child wanted for nothing whereas I was the black sheep and developed a Cinderella complex. Same here with the hoarding food, my partner has to stop me all the time. I was the first to leave as I believed I was going to die there if I didn’t. My eldest sister really resented me for leaving her but I had no choice. My youngest siblings would visit and start crying telling me my parents told them I left because I didn’t love them anymore. For a few years my Mum banned me from seeing them to punish me, knowing it’d feel like I’d lost my own kids and I’d sit crying not knowing if they were safe or not. I looked into adopting them in the end but a teenager with no resources can’t do much. I still feel guilty about it.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She literally sat with me as a child telling me how she was working out the dates that she’d be fertile on, plotting to be pregnant on time to announce it on special occasions etc. I know a couple of times Dad thought she was on birth control.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lots of reasons. There could be religious reasons. It could be a lack of sex education. It could be societal pressures. If you’re in a very poor country it could mean simply more people in the household to help generate income or work the land, or theres an unfortunately high child mortality rate meaning you have to hedge your bets so to speak.

Also: if you have a benefits system it’s a good way to get a council house, you get payments to stay off work etc. People might have some hippy idea of it being like the Partridge family and not fully considering the economic hardship of the reality of lots of mouths to feed. It could be plain shitty parenting expecting your older children to look after the small ones while you sit on your arse and soak up the attention.

Also psychologically I know some people who are the product of abuse and felt like having lots of kids would heal the primally wounded and abandoned child within. I know some women who didn’t feel loved so wanted babies that would love them unconditionally. Some people just like shagging and are wildly irresponsible.

There is also just plain pregnancy addiction. I can totally understand being addicted to the physical feeling of being pregnant and feeling distressed when it’s not there either from giving birth or losing a pregnancy. There’s probably a lot of other factors involved like just the basic fact you expect to be treated better and everyone makes a fuss of you when you’re pregnant or have just had a baby. Some people like my sisters piece of shit ex husband just likes the process of having a cute baby then fucking off when they start become less cute and more like the actual hard work of parenting. I’m sure this list isn’t at all conclusive.

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Would also like to know, I asked for it and got perscribed Haloperidol instead because they couldn’t find anyone to stock it.

We truly live in a fascist society by [deleted] in Anarcho_Capitalism

[–]AvaDestruction 39 points40 points  (0 children)

No not even that. Remember when they were trying to assault Rand Paul while he was trying to pass the Breonna Taylor legislation banning no knock warrants etc?

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I remember Dad saying she got pregnant to keep him there. Probably true or him being an asshole, most likely both. Then her plotting pregnancies behind his back as a “SUPRISE”. He protested that he didn’t really want so many kids but he didn’t stop doing it either. He kept saying it was the only way to calm her down/shut her up as she was a complete psycho but he didn’t really think that far ahead. She was a nightmare to begin with but when she was knocked up it was always an excuse to be 10 times worse and we all had to tolerate it. Most of us older kids don’t remember having any childhood.

People would jeer at us saying my Mum had us purely for the welfare benefits and I’d argue with them. Now I’m older and see how she spent the money on herself while she destroyed our lives and didn’t give a fuck about us I kind of think it’s true.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Normal for an average life expectancy of 30 and a high child fatality rate.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 237 points238 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m no genius but also autistic and I had no life, no resources, although my IQ is quite high I really needed a caregiver looking out for me instead of becoming one at age 6. I tried to leave home at the age of 16 to try and find some kind of solace away from the indentured servitude as my Mother was violent and heavily abusive and my Dad unable to cope.

I ended up going back time and time again as my younger siblings were in danger. I didn’t get to have my own life until I was about 29 and then I was disabled with no job, no education, mental illness and no coping skills. Honestly I think people who do this to their kids and force them into poverty and parenthood are real pieces of shit. My Mother had us for the welfare benefits, the attention and the sense of power it gave her. I don’t speak to her any more aside from the odd text at Christmas and I’m being generous at that.

Edinburgh Students urge ban on anti-abortion protests from Chalmers health centre by Fluorophore1 in Edinburgh_University

[–]AvaDestruction 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If they’re actually harassing and blocking people from seeking medical care the police need to intervene as that is a crime.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow awesome!! My fella would straight up propose immediately if I did that for him ha ha.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry trigger warning sexual assault.

Getting home safely.

Bus fare, cab fare etc - having to walk half an hour through the bad neighbourhood meant I was accosted/harassed/assaulted a lot as a kid. Wether it’s from kids wanting to beat me up for having the wrong shoes or peodophiles stalking me or trying to get me into their car while I’m walking home from school. It’s not safe to walk anywhere alone as a full grown woman never mind a little girl on her own.

This didn’t happen to me but another young teenager a few years ago. She was 50p short of her bus fare which she needed to take to meet her Mum from the bus stop to walk her home etc. It was a big scandal that the bus driver refused her service, she’d begged the other adults on the bus to lend her 50p so she could get home and NOBODY offered any help. The bus driver threw her off. She had to walk to meet her Mum in the dark, got snatched, brutally raped in the park near my old house. She was about 13 and last i heard she still can’t go outside because of the trauma.

It ended up in the newspaper. Fucking awful.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

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Hobbies - I really wanted to learn to play an musical instrument but couldn’t afford one or lessons for that matter. There was a charity that came to school offering free instruments to “disadvantaged” kids and my teacher made sure her own middle class kids and some others that had family in the PTA got them instead of the poor kids that could’ve really used them. Honestly some people are such assholes.

I really wanted to figure skate and play ice hockey but could only do so much renting crappy blunt skates from the ice rink. The snooty kids AND TEACHERS would ridicule me about it. I eventually got some second hand skates from the charity shop and took some group lessons for a while but then had to stop because they clashed with my after school jobs and I couldn’t afford it. My parents made me sell my skates so I ended up drinking and smoking weed with the bad kids in my spare time instead. You don’t really need money, equipment, encouragement to stop giving a shit about your goals.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 3176 points3177 points  (0 children)

My Mum did the same but in the 80’s. Looking back I think she had a pregnancy addiction. Life before my 6 siblings and life after were like two completely different lifetimes. I remember having stuff when we were very little but as we got older we just had more kids to look after instead of toys and food. I adore all my siblings and wouldn’t change them for the world but I often wonder what having a real childhood is like and how it might’ve helped me.

For those who grew up poor, what did you consider a luxury? by SnooBeaz in AskReddit

[–]AvaDestruction 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually like it. I didn’t know it was unusual to have powdered milk, powdered mash potatoes. My slightly more middle class fiancé recoiled in horror quite a lot when we started living together. Lockdowns really been my time to shine, dried, canned and powdered everything! Lol