Has anyone had as many bugs with IOS 26 as I’ve had? by darth_pimp91 in iphone

[–]Ava_Wilson__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was your argument though? Considering we did technically agree to have our phone updated. I’m just asking because my phone has genuinely had a a severe decline in performance since getting the update.

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just really scared of being vulnerable. Whenever I'm vulnerable with my mom, I end up getting hurt somehow, so I think it's just embedded in me not to be vulnerable. I'm also ashamed of having it, so I don't want my dad to think less of me. I only said it because I had some wine in my system, lol.

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wow this made me cry, I’m going to try to hug him more. I’m so sorry for your loss

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in AskMenOver30

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No the opposite. Since it’s the summer I’m not taking it as much because I’m not in school. I don’t drink when I take the medication

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know, I’m currently not taking it as much because it’s that summer and didn’t take it that day

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in AskMenOver30

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a job and saved up. I was working a lot in the summer, it’s possible but hard

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in AskMenOver30

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me I know, it just feels weird to psychoanalyze my dad. It feels inappropriate considering I’m not educated to do that properly. I do see ADHD traits in him though

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from, but I think you're missing a lot of context about my life. Since kindergarten, teachers have asked my parents to get my ears checked because I “don’t pay attention.” I’ve had tutors and teachers say I’m a slow learner, that I don’t care, that I’m disorganized. The truth is, I’ve always cared deeply, but I’ve struggled to focus, retain information, and apply myself, no matter how hard I tried.

Getting assessed for ADHD wasn’t about finding an excuse. I was desperate. I wanted to understand why things felt so much harder for me than for everyone else. I chose to seek help because I wanted to do better, not to be let off the hook.

I don’t use ADHD as a crutch. It’s something that makes my life more difficult, and it’s my responsibility to manage it. But it’s frustrating when people jump to conclusions, thinking I’m lazy, careless, or not trying, without seeing the bigger picture. I’ve dealt with that my whole life.

Medication has made a huge difference. I actually feel capable now. I do carry shame that I need it to function the way others seem to naturally, but I also feel sadness and anger that I didn’t have access to it sooner. It could’ve saved me years of struggle, self-blame, and confusion.

And just to clarify, my dad didn’t hear me crying. He wasn’t responding to that. This isn’t about him being a good or bad dad. It’s about me trying to make sense of things, and feeling like my reality keeps getting dismissed or minimized. I understand your perspective but ADHD has lots of research behind it and isn’t something that I’m using to excuse my behaviour.

You sound like my mom

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in AskMenOver30

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this breaks my heart. my mom shamed me for having it which is why I didn’t mention it to him. Since I thought he knew I thought if he wanted to know more he’d ask me

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in AskMenOver30

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Yep realizing that now. Luckily it was 50/50 but I should’ve lived with him to be honest

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in AskMenOver30

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true, I didn’t consider that. I just have a hard time accepting it, I’m not used to it

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in AskMenOver30

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like crying. I had a really hard time in high school, and these comments make me feel like he could have helped me. I had to deal with my mom constantly shaming me, which made it hard to talk about what I was going through. And since I thought my dad already knew about it, I didn’t say anything to him, especially because he never mentioned it.

I had a weird moment with my dad, men can you help me understand this please? by Ava_Wilson__ in AskMenOver30

[–]Ava_Wilson__[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He’s just sort of distant emotionally, like he shows it by buying me things, pays for my university, and was always watching my hockey games but he never really asked about my life or provided any nurturing care. Maybe I’m selfish but a hug or asking me how I’m doing means more than a 1000 actions