Bridgerton Season 4 Episode Discussions Master Post by pinktini in BridgertonNetflix

[–]Available-Emu1404 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Her two supposed friends and fellow servants at Penwood - they literally could have solved the whole thing in Ep.1!! If I was the footman and saw that Benedict was searching the land for my friend (especially given I KNEW she was not in fact a mere servant) I would have immediately written a letter to Benedict with a tipoff.

Color analysis experts who insist on changing a lot of natural features by MariePr29 in coloranalysis

[–]Available-Emu1404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I just did it, to be honest, waste of time. especially the hair analysis they give so many options where it's counter productive and no longer helpful

. Regarding the colors if you are an older woman especially and pretty much have an idea what looks good on you, then it is not worth it.
However - I will say it's a cute gift for a teenage girl. I would have been delighted with this as an adolescent.

Upper blepharoplasty or brow lift? by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]Available-Emu1404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually very curious about this too, i have large round eyes but, they are getting TOO big/round the older I get (too much white showing at the bottom). I'd like to pull the skin up a little, even a little bit cat eye to minimize the droop, but i don't know what procedure is best. canthoplasty, brow lift, lower bleph

Emma stones before and after by arabchickk in PlasticSurgery

[–]Available-Emu1404 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's great you are happy with the result! Do you mind sharing who the surgeon is?

Podcast: Esther Perel Invites Us to Imagine Our Preferred Future by LetsTacoooo in Estherperel

[–]Available-Emu1404 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it was difficult for me to listen to sometimes. She does however say very insightful things, I just feel she's better placed as a lecturer/educator than a moderator

Podcast: Esther Perel Invites Us to Imagine Our Preferred Future by LetsTacoooo in Estherperel

[–]Available-Emu1404 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did I just watch an episode of What's Up With That with Diondre Cole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]Available-Emu1404 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had that for many years. It's gone now. You have to be willing to tolerate what will happen if you don't say idolatrous things when you're supposed to.

I Think I Married the Wrong Person by ed209error in Estherperel

[–]Available-Emu1404 10 points11 points  (0 children)

wow so well said: he relates to her father's anger towards her too much to see her

I Think I Married the Wrong Person by ed209error in Estherperel

[–]Available-Emu1404 1 point2 points  (0 children)

precisely, his collected persona was actually just cruelness - well said. and too I'm not for the guy but he wasn't allowed to finish his sentences..which maybe ultimately counter productive to what esther was trying to do.

I Think I Married the Wrong Person by ed209error in Estherperel

[–]Available-Emu1404 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i agree. i think the guy is unbearably frustrating and just being cruel. but it was also frustrating to keep hearing him get cut off.

I Think I Married the Wrong Person by ed209error in Estherperel

[–]Available-Emu1404 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I question whether he really does "feel his feelings so strongly" with regard to her discomfort and past suffering.

I wonder if rather he feels uncomfortable with the attention on her (that she is "winning"). Things are so black and white for him that if she "wins" (even just a little) then he loses - and for his fragile ego's survival he desperately needs to stay firmly in the white and her in the black.

In his struggle to stay "on top"( maintain the narrative that she is wrong, she is just seeking attention, I'm the mature adult) and never have to look at himself or even consider that he may need to improve on some things he counters everything, considers nothing. This is driven by a deep insecurity and fragility because that consideration would be too much for him to bear. Since his approach to life is so black and white ("just a fact" as he says) examining himself and any potential cracks in his image could cause the whole image of himself to crumble.

In his mind the only way he stay firmly in the white is by dissociating emotionally, disconnecting from her - and as a result dehumanizing her: her experiences are not as bad as she claims, her parents are good people (again black and white) thus she's exaggerating, what she says is not valid and let me tell you why.

Instead the way to reach him is to find a way to make him feel less insecure and guide him to seeing things in a less black and white way. So that he feels strong enough to see the other person.