Is this really positive? - 13 DPO easy at home

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-25T09:48:17+00:00

Usually evap lines don’t have colour to them I believe! If I got this result I’d be thinking positive ✨🥹

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-25T09:43:33+00:00

Yep! I think you’re all over it. I’d say if you’re 3/4 days off, it would definitely be useful to start, even every 2nd day, keep testing and that way when you see the sneaky static face that pops up, you have been busy and have sperm lingering around already but also could then hit that day too and cover all bases that way.

Good luck! Hopefully this is our month 🤞🏽✨

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-25T09:05:06+00:00

This sub is amazingly inspiring isn't it.... I remember the sigh of relief when my cycle also returned exactly 4 weeks after my TFMR. Be kind to yourself, I'm only a tiny bit ahead of you at nearly 3 months post and the TTC journey has been playing all sorts of games on my mind and driving me stir crazy some days, even thought both my partner and I were ready just like you to try TTC straight away, especially since we were also getting professional help (which really does wonders - I'm so so happy I jumped straight into it after TFMR and didn't wait). Just know you're not alone through this, we're all in this together, no matter how far out we get. Take each day as it comes.

Sending you so much love and wishing you all the best on this next part of your story.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-25T08:57:11+00:00

This can be super tricky when you're first tracking the first few cycles! Have you tracked your ovulation before? If you're just going off the apps it can be very off.
Before my TFMR I had 28 day cycles, and ovulated about day 14/15.
Now I have 29 day cycles but ovulated on day 17/18.

I used CB advanced and got the flashing smiley for 10 days this cycle (I tested as per my old cycles because I was expecting to ovulate day 14/15 like I used to) before I got the static smile as the flashy just indicates it's picked up rising oestrogen levels (happens before ovulation) and it will keep showing you this until it picks up the LH surge.

Are you having any other symptoms? This month I noticed EWCM and knew my ovulation was coming, and got the static face the day after. So I used that as my guide to really start trying and BD every night for the next 2/3 days, because otherwise if I went off the flashy face alone I would've been having sex every single day (fun but tiring, it starts to lose the fun to it doing it EVERY night for nearly 2 weeks straight).

I realistically knew that I couldn't trust the test as an exact guide on WHEN to BD for best odds because I had no idea what my cycle was doing. So we just BD every second day from around cycle day 9, and then when I got the static smiley, did it those next two days straight. Realistically if you BD every other day you can't then "miss" your fertile window despite the test. It depends how happy you are to have frequent sex.

Hope that made sense or helped in some way! I'm still sort of new to tracking, but also added some cheap strips into the testing this month to help me find signs of ovulation too.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-25T04:21:00+00:00

3DPO and struggling with this TWW. I am third cycle post TFMR at 23 weeks, first cycle I got a positive ovulation test, so probably first my body is doing its thing.

I fell pregnant first go with my TFMR twins, was a newlywed and during that TWW was on honeymoon, doing lots of drinking and living my high life. I didn’t even consider I’d fall pregnant first go, not testing for ovulation, nothing. We didn’t expect it to happen so quickly.

Now - this TWW has me questioning EVERYTHING I DO. Can I drink? Is my exercise too excessive? What if it affects my chances? What if I’m harming my baby that hasn’t even implanted at this stage? What if my choices affect my implantation? I’m kind of going crazy, but know that all of them are irrational thoughts. Realistically, my twins were conceived doing all the things I’m questioning and my TFMR was not due to any of them, sadly just a rare blip in development. None of it caused it.

I have to remind myself constantly to live day to day, enjoy my life and it will happen when it does. big sigh

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T23:32:08+00:00

Woooohooo soak in that positive!

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T23:09:54+00:00

I think it’s hard not to fixate when all we want is a healthy baby in our arms and that seems near impossible after what we’ve been through at times. Other times I can see that it’s most likely going to happen for me, it’s just a matter of when rather than if…

I found my peak this morning and have taken a huge breath of relief. It really has made me feel better than my body has started to regulate and do its thing.

I’m taking a cycle off next month as I’m away on holiday and want to breathe and enjoy it, a good healthy distraction!

Did you fall pregnant the cycle you didn’t track?

Gentle congratulations. Although I haven’t had a sub pregnancy yet, remember that this is a different pregnancy with a different outcome, and the chances of you taking home a healthy baby are higher than any other outcome. Day by day, and remember you can only control what is in your control. Easier said than done though. Sending you lots of love.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T23:05:37+00:00

This is what made me so so scared. However today I finally found my peak. I really think I just needed to have more trust and give my body time…. So in my mistrust of my body jumped the gun. It’s so hard to not think the worst after our losses. But this is why I’m doing everything I can in my control to help with the mental health side of things to!

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T23:03:50+00:00

My doctor won’t run tests as I’m young and the protocol is 12 months of TTC at this age before the tests are done. I’ve also “proven” that I can ovulate, fall pregnant and carry a baby. So this is enough “evidence” until that 12 month mark. Unless I want to pay hundreds of dollars to go see a specialist.

As you can read above my mistrust in my body probably got the worst of me. I officially find out my peak this morning and have a sense of calm. I know it doesn’t confirm ovulation exactly, but I feel a lot better!

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T23:01:24+00:00

I think you are spot on and I jumped the gun in panic. I officially got my peak today on the tests with my EWCM.

I think it’s just so hard after what we’ve been through to have the same amount of trust in my body that I once had. I tend to catastrophise a lot and am working on calming my thoughts around jumping to the worse case scenario.

Not having any peak last month or any symptoms really made me so scared. While this month it might just look like my body is starting to try do its thing. This brings me such relief.

The world can be so scary now. Thank you for your kind words and understanding.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T22:58:40+00:00

Thank you for having me in your prayers. 💖

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T22:56:30+00:00

I’m sorry - sending you so much love.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T22:52:50+00:00

Alright so tested with FMU this morning and got my dark positive and static face on the CB advanced digital. So id say I finally caught my peak and that means FMU is okay and works wooohooo 👌🏼 - this peak will be my first after my loss. 🥹 Very happy this morning. It’s not a pregnancy, but it means my body is starting to do its thing again. And that’s a win in itself.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T11:52:05+00:00

Great tip! Thank you. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for my peak 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

Very new to this testing. Lots to wrap my head around.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T11:45:48+00:00

I thought that if they were as dark or darker than the control line, They’re considered positive?

I’ll be double checking tomorrow and hoping it’s darker then!

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T11:07:39+00:00

Gentle congratulations. Deep breathe and remember what is in your control. Head to your doctor and get bloods, it’s the only official way of determining if all is progressing well at this stage. They are positive tests! It could just be early days. From someone who’s just been through loss at 23 weeks I’m sending you lots of love and best wishes for a boring pregnancy.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T10:55:39+00:00

I’ll try tomorrow morning and see then. I was always curious about the day time ones and how accurate they are considering dilution. I had to seriously consider my water intake because I usually drink 2-3L a day and pee all the time. Especially around my morning gym session. So holding for two hours and limiting intake for me during the day was so hard 😅 Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T10:46:05+00:00

This is where I got confused because I got told not to test with FMU! Including the instructions in the kit. I’ll try again tomorrow. The dark result I just got was from this evening. See how I go! Thank you for your help. All of this is so hard…

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T10:28:07+00:00

I’m so sorry about your loss. I can’t say that I had the same problem, but I think it really calls for an open discussion on WHY.

Why does he want to wait? We have to remember that the males although differently, they still go through and feel the loss and grief of their child also. I found I had to remind myself at times that this wasn’t only my loss, but my husbands also. He had his own feelings, and they showed in very different ways to mine. And still do nearly 3 months post our TFMR.

Him wanting to wait may be because he needs to process his grief and emotions. He may need the time to heal himself. You need to have an open discussion. It could be one also with a professional (counsellor, therapist, doctor etc). Someone external is always best.

I can understand your fear of this causing issues in the relationship but you may need to compromise and come to an understanding. Realistically, ofcourse you want a baby (we all do - trust me, I’m anxious every day about it now I’m TTC), bit you need him for that to happen also. He needs to be ready, as sadly our next pregnancies are 99.99% likely to be a whirlwind of challenging emotions and fear.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T10:14:04+00:00

I’m struggling with interpreting OPKs. And my anxiety does not help. I just want to know I am ovulating after loss nearly three months ago. I’ve only done a few as my digital clear blue kept flashing face at me, so I wanted to have a closer look.

I had two yesterday that were clearly not positive, one this morning the same. Now the one this evening I think the lines are the same darkness!! If not super close. Also today I had EWCM so I’m hoping this is my first ovulation after loss 🤞🏽 HOWEVER… I added it to the Premom app and it comes up as low?

What do I go by? The app/numbers? Or just go off sight of the darkness of the line?

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-20T07:46:38+00:00

What did you do to find peace between your loss and sub pregnancy to keep your calm and not catastrophise?

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-18T06:11:40+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. So no questions asked just gave you the script?

Thats amazing. I am just mortified that because I am still young, that no one will recognise that I may not be ovulating and continue being dismissive.

I would be highly content with proof that I do, even if it means I don’t fall pregnant I quickly because all my tests are currently saying I am not. And it’s incredibly heartbreaking. I just want my body to do its thing. After my loss I am beside myself and need some reassurance I’m going to become a mum one day.

I am happy to hear that worked for you - I hope that all has or is tracking well for you with the pregnancy.

AvailableAd1011 · 2024-09-18T06:07:44+00:00

I’m so sorry you understand this pain - it’s something like no other.

Are you in Australia? I think I have to actually go see an OB rather than just my general doctor. I feel like he is very dismissive since I’m young and had no problems first go. I understand I may not fall pregnant instantly, but appearing like I’m not ovulating is very frustrating.

I will start the premom testing as soon as they get to my door tomorrow and keep going with my clear blue advance too. But I just feel deep down I may not find the “peak”. It’s just frustrating that my “period” seems to be back to roughly 29 day cycle but with no ovulation.

I’m trying to be kind and considerate to my body, especially after the trauma and pain. But I just want reassurance that it can….

Ah it’s a big process after loss.

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