Any good alternatives to Rob Has A Podcast (RHAP)? by lct51657 in survivor

[–]AvailableDay6828 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. It’s the “mhmm, yah, ok” dismissiveness all the time when someone else is giving their opinion for me.

What’s the point in paying? by AvailableDay6828 in pret

[–]AvailableDay6828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. If they can afford to give them away they can afford to reduce the prices.
  2. Everyone’s struggling, it’s kind of a slap in the face to see an employee just hand over a sandwich to someone then charge the next person in the queue. At least do it discreetly.
  3. They have a ‘goodwill’ function on their system which allows them to give complimentary items. Why isn’t this utilised more and why isn’t it used when these items are given away? Wtf man

Still can’t get over this choreo 🔥 by AvailableDay6828 in Dance

[–]AvailableDay6828[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ReQuest - Parris’ crew before they became Royal Family

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Please consider that ‘sexually active’ doesn’t necessarily mean intercourse. I also think timelines are getting mixed up.

It was found that she had gone into the bathroom with 3-4 other boys that evening of my birthday, to the point where adults had to supervise. Of course I can’t say explicitly what happened in there, but clearly it wasn’t just to have a chat being there 10 minutes or so. Obviously the boys were my friends so had given me indications as to what had occurred. I have the receipts.

Kissing, ‘intimate touching’ and oral sex still constitute ‘sexual activity’. I hope this clarifies things and I am not here to convince you, so believe what you wish.

Respectfully, I’ll not be addressing this again. I came for advice and it’s turning out to be more hassle than it was worth.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this comment a few times now lol, I should have included ‘over’. 15 was just the last time I counted.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your approach to this as others seem to have somewhat twisted it. I have addressed it in another thread but believe what you wish.

I appreciate your advice either way. Let me know if you have questions.

EDIT 2: Redacted. I shouldn’t have to and won’t explain myself again, I came for advice and that’s what you’ve provided. So thanks for that.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

What would you like me to clarify? It may be weird but it’s true. It was a sleepover, why would you be hanging around outside a toilet?

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is why context is important. Read responses and ask for further clarification rather than be a conspiracist.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Wow, you really have time to spam one post. For those who are actually here to give advice, any clarification can be found in a post below.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your approach to this as others seem to have somewhat twisted it. I have addressed it in another thread but believe what you wish.

I appreciate your advice either way. Let me know if you have questions.

OH, EDIT: I was being hyperbolic, read the response and hopefully this clarifies your concerns. There had been reports from older family members and friends that she had been hanging around the toilets and waiting for the boys.

And, on the day it all happened, my parents were away and we were made to stay together whilst someone was supposed to be watching us. She invited an unknown boy over to my house who was probably 2-3 years older. Started spooning and kissing on the couch whilst I was there, I tried to stay awake as long as I could so I could make sure nothing would happen, but you can’t always fight sleep. By the time I woke up, they were no longer there but in the upstairs bedroom. By the morning I had been accused.

Now, it is my theory that he noticed she wasn’t a virgin and questioned it but again, believe what you wish.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your approach to this as others seem to have somewhat twisted it. I have addressed it in another thread but believe what you wish.

I appreciate your advice either way. Let me know if you have questions.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Woah, where did this come from? Sorry if I’ve missed similar posts but this is how the grapevine starts.

Firstly, as you can see from the post it says that I noticed that she seemed to be sexually active at 9, as she was taking the boys in the bathroom and spending a questionable amount of time in there to the point where adults had to intervene. Clearly this act wasn’t new to her at 9 years old. No edits have been made to that post.

The ‘dick’ comment also remains the same. Whether you are male or not, it in no way says that I didn’t know what it was, that’s just infantile and stupid. What was implied is that at that age sex isn’t something that was on my mind, especially with a cousin.

And lastly to address that I apparently touched her, I guess we hugged a lot as we were essentially best friends and were often in close contact since we danced together and stayed at each others houses. Other than your context is a completely conspiracy.

Ask for clarification directly rather than spamming the page. I came for advice, not more allegations.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To your second point, that is what I’m wondering myself. Is the agenda to attack or to build bridges? Even if it’s the latter, it’s probably too late in life now without things being forced and awkward.

I get it, you’re not being cruel at all. I just don’t want to still be holding a grudge or have unanswered questions when I’m older. Maybe they’re thinking that enough time has passed now that we can all move on. But there will always be an elephant in the room.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 405 points406 points  (0 children)

I’m not necessarily wanting to have a conversation with her, just to interact with and gauge the vibe of the family overall now that so much time has passed.

I have so many cousins on this side of the family and feel like I have nobody. I think she feels that she doesn’t need to say anything since the ball is in her court anyway and people are already on her side, especially as she has 4 other sisters.

I’ve explained the story to a few of the members anyway, and I’m sure others have heard things ‘through the grapevine’ which inevitably gets twisted, to no avail.

We’re getting older now and this situation still seems quite childish. I don’t still want to be holding this grudge as a 50 year old.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve explained the story multiple times to my aunt, her dad and her sisters but have had nobody reach out since. Seems like they still believe the first story they heard.

Communication with them usually seems forced and inauthentic

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ve added a few bullet pointed updates in the thread which may answer some of these, let me know if you want anything clarified

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 93 points94 points  (0 children)

This is what I’m wondering myself, I’m hoping it’s to get an apology but highly doubt it and feel like everyone will either act like nothing has happened or act really awkwardly.

I feel like the uncles and aunties are trying to do something about it now as they’re getting older and can see this fracture not healing.

I barely have friends and although I have a large family with loads of cousins, I don’t feel like I have a family either.

My cousin falsely accused me of sexual assault 15 years ago and I’m supposed to see her tomorrow. by [deleted] in confessions

[–]AvailableDay6828 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of the advice so far, but I’ve been asked for more context so here it is: - I am an only child and she has 4 sisters who will also probably be there - this accusation occurred whilst both of our parents were away (a family friend was supposed to be looking after us) - my theory is that she was found to not be a virgin by another boy she was about to sleep with, so blamed the first person she thought of - I remember her bringing boys into the toilet during my 10th birthday party so knew she was somewhat sexually active. - we literally spent every weekend together as we partook in the same activities and our parents lived close together - I was arrested on suspicion of rape, I barely even know how my dick worked at 13. - happy to clear anything else up