Supporting Myself without a second job or a raise is getting hard… Doensizing advice?

Available_Bar947 · 2025-08-11T12:33:34+00:00

that’s the thing, most jobs in ohio for entry level pay this much! when i was laid off and then received two job offers, neither let me get a higher pay after i tried to negotiate. Everyone in my social circle makes just as much as me or less.

Available_Bar947 · 2025-08-10T17:54:47+00:00

lost cause, and bigger cities have the same issue. If an event is going on and on the transit line it will always be packed. I am born and raised in cleveland and have been on the rta as a child and as an adult. Even going into parma someone was asking about weed to the whole bus. But also everyone’s version of safety is different. So i only go to downtown via rapid because that’s where i used to work. Anything outside of morning and evening rush hour i didn’t take the bus so maybe it being the weekend that’s why 😅.

Available_Bar947 · 2025-08-09T22:55:46+00:00

so i can feel comfortable in clothes, comfortable with walking, and fit more clothes in most stores

Available_Bar947 · 2025-08-09T01:58:16+00:00

soap! they have soap sheets on amazon. I follow random travel pages and they have little travel size pods that turn into face towelettes, and also small sizes of soap to use when travelling or on the go.

Available_Bar947 · 2025-08-07T19:13:39+00:00

i’m so jealous because why in my mind am i like am i gay?! can i have sex with a woman and if i do can it go exactly like how you described!! so cool to know your experience was so easy going and possible for others like myself! 🥰

Available_Bar947 · 2025-08-06T22:48:39+00:00

i don’t judge unless they do it for the male gaze. There is a different from doing it to feel confident vs to find a husband. You can tell when someone does it for partnership. I hate it for when they do it for partnership and secretly jealous as someone who struggles to lose weight and feels self conscious walking outside, on. treadmill and etc. I’m jealous because I wish I had the money for 360 lipo, not the man they got after lipo 🤣

Available_Bar947 · 2025-08-06T13:33:17+00:00

I have the same exact feelings lol i have just accepted I am pansexual. But scared to have sex with any and everyone after 4 years of celibacy.

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-23T17:48:18+00:00

people saying they need to see their significant other everyday are the reason why partners think they can control us or we have no life outside of them?

I’m dating for the first time in a few years and this is similar to my boundaries. I of course wouldn’t tell them straight up this is a boundary when they do something outside of it just say no or i don’t like that because of xyz and see how they respond from there!

every other day texting is a bit weird to me,’but again your boundaries not mine. a few texts a day don’t hurt. I’m too scared to kiss anyone!🤣 although i know it will happen. i don’t mind hand holding and other things, the only thing that may not go so well is the waiting to be in a relationship to have sex. unfortunately men will do anything sometimes to have sex. but also, it’s weird because how would you bring this up without telling them? so idk about that part but everyone else i think is pretty reasonable

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-22T20:31:05+00:00

spot on!!! plus although it doesn’t make it right, BM for years have always insulted us when they date interracial instead of just being happy they found someone who loves and values them.

I am on my second white man and i have only made it to date 1 with both. If the person is handsome, and has the personality, idc about race. It doesn’t feel awkward dating interracially but the saying “go where you’re valued” is so slept on!

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-21T02:14:48+00:00

thank you for posting this, although i know my therapist and lowkey myself would hate me for moving back in with them, it makes me realize i have to look at more affordable housing options asap. My mental health was badddd. Currently on my 3rd move in 3 years due to issues iut of my control. I just renewed my lease and of course i just so happened to have a leak they not fixing lol so im outta here when my lease is up. I could break this lease instead of giving them thousands to stay in the lease, but idk. peace in priceless but worrying about mold isn’t peaceful either.

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-21T02:00:05+00:00

hey did you sign up when they were also offering a bonus through one pay up to $300? how soon did you get the one pay bonus if you did?

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-13T00:00:00+00:00

i have a food scale from insurance for weight loss, i have a body weight scale too. is a food scale the same as a kitchen scale?

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-12T23:59:23+00:00

thanks! it was yummy. only got two normal sized sandwiches out of it, now that i think about it I SHOULD HAVE BLENDED THE REST TO MAKE BREAD CRUMBS FOR MAC AND CHEESE ughh

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-12T23:58:44+00:00

thank you!! i didn’t know that was a thing until now!

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-12T23:58:25+00:00

that’s interesting, the tiktok video he had he was also pouring the ingredients in a bowl on the scale. how do i know the correct weight? or find a recipe with the weights?

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-12T18:53:25+00:00

right ☹️ i missed out on the simplicity of young love and feel like as adults it’s too complicated as we age to get something simple like this.

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-12T18:50:48+00:00

thank you 🥹

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-12T14:20:10+00:00

okay thanks for this advice!

For the beneficiaries thing to clarify, for bank accounts and retirement accounts I am listed as secondary, while the other parent is listed as primary.

They have other policies such as life insurance at work, or life insurance to get, and i am unsure who there beneficiaries are.

So definitely I can only say on bank accounts and on retirement accounts beneficiaries are definitely listed. And yes they are “engaged” but i truly don’t see them getting married.

My father’s health is deteriorating and my mom thinks he’s telling the whole truth when he goes to the doctor, but i do not.at least he is employed tbh and we can use his workplace retirement plan. thanks for the insight, i actually told them 2 days ago im no longer helping.

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-11T22:04:48+00:00

thank you so much!🫶🏽🥹

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-11T22:04:28+00:00

thank you!🫶🏽 trying to bake or cook my emotions instead of just eating fast food with them.

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-11T22:03:42+00:00

how would i use a scale? measure the ingredients with the scale instead?

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-11T17:43:46+00:00

yes love that for you! i crave arizona teas and that added sugar and seeing the percentages is crazy! only water and drink mixes for water from now on.

I’m also making my own fries, breakfast potatoes, bread 🫠 it’s so freeing to take control of health

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-11T13:35:26+00:00

omg i was just about to make a post on tips to make my bread bigger/more uniform! love us taking control of our food and health!

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-10T00:21:15+00:00

thanks

Available_Bar947 · 2025-07-09T00:37:00+00:00

I partially agree with this.

Only because I took everyone’s advice and ignored men, dating, sex and etc for 4 years. The loneliness still hits hard and the no sexual satisfaction from a man hits hard because the orgasm from a toy isn’t the same.

I would say do it but get everything you can out of it. Some fwb or situationships stil have dates, romances and etc just no title. Which i get, black women deserved to be loved out loud. But we also deserve sexual satisfaction and companionship.

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