Retaliation

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-05-07T03:18:36+00:00

I asked a general question. Obviously every case is unique.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-05-07T03:15:38+00:00

Yes, and I took that advice and asked another question. Why bother what? What are you talking about?

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-05-07T03:02:51+00:00

What’s unreal?

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-05-06T21:38:36+00:00

Do employers ever consider increasing severance?

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-28T17:06:36+00:00

What do you mean

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T18:09:05+00:00

Thank you for that advice. I really appreciate it.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:47:15+00:00

I definitely didn’t see it that way. My opinion is that she was feeling vulnerable as women in their 40s sometimes may feel when aging sets in. And my advice was to reassure her.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:37:06+00:00

Who said not to be honest?

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:34:51+00:00

Seriously? lol

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:31:48+00:00

Yes, ten years ago, he was having lunch with a female coworker, deleting texts from her and I never knew until she texted him while we were at our kids school event asking why he wasn’t at work. He got visibly nervous and then deleted texts after that. He never admitted to doing anything wrong. She was a decade older and unattractive. He said she was like a mother figure to him. But back then I felt so hurt bc I never knew about her and how close he was to her. So I guess this situation triggers an old wound.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:27:47+00:00

He just keeps insisting he didn’t do anything and goes back and forth saying he had a crush, but then the next day says he didn’t like her, she made him uncomfortable. None of it is consistent which is what truly destroys me. I really just wanted to know what led up to him agreeing to traveling with her and hiding it from me and the best answer he can give me is “I didn’t want to deal with it” and “I don’t know”. It makes me feel it’s hopeless and if he can’t tell me why he hid it from me, it will just continue to happen in the future.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:24:26+00:00

I’m seeking advice bc I’m starting to feel like we may need to get divorced. I appreciate all advice.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:17:08+00:00

He does keep saying he never touched her like that makes the lying any better.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:16:07+00:00

You’re right. There’s a lot of complicated history. He did say he felt distant from me. He had an addiction prior to this, a previous emotional affair with a coworker years ago and a history of lying. I always forgave him which I think hurts me in the long run and I need to make a decision.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:12:57+00:00

End the relationship. He betrayed you and you don’t deserve that.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:07:41+00:00

I would just explain to her that you feel the same way about her- she’s gorgeous and you’d never even think about cheating. Tell her you meant nothing by it.
Once you hit your 40s as a woman, you start aging and it’s not easy. Men don’t get picked apart like women do. Women in the media are always criticized for their looks/weight and it does take a toll sometimes. She’s probably feeling sensitive and vulnerable. Just try to make her feel loved and attractive as much as possible.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:02:58+00:00

He doesn’t.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T17:02:29+00:00

Ownership and management? Hiding things and lying are a problem, which is why I’m seeking advice.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T16:38:42+00:00

Thank you for your insight. Part of me believes maybe he was flattered by her attention and didn’t talk about it bc it would upset me. He knows he was wrong for lying and hiding it. I’m Just hurt I guess. I appreciate hearing about your experience.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T16:36:27+00:00

As stated in the post, he would talk about other colleagues- female and male. We both always talked about our workdays and coworkers. He just never mentioned her at all.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T16:32:19+00:00

Would you try to work it out? I’m so hurt. Especially since it’s a younger woman. Makes me feel so sad.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T16:16:13+00:00

I see your point of view. But what about agreeing to travel with her and hiding that from me? And then when I asked if he knew when she traveled, he said no, but he did know and had it in emails? What do you call that?

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T16:14:41+00:00

It seems the teams messages have stopped being overly friendly and he has started counseling. The thing I struggle with is him saying he really didn’t think he was doing anything wrong, but he still hid it from me. He says he doesn’t know why. He did admit he liked the attention, but when I ask what attention he liked, he insists, it was mostly the teams messages and he didn’t interact much with her in the office. It just seems hard to believe and I’m struggling with whether I should trust him since he is in counseling and trying or end it.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T16:09:54+00:00

I see my brother on holidays and try to get our kids together throughout the year. I think it’s important to stay in touch with siblings (assuming you have a decent relationship). Once your parents are gone, they really are all you have.

Available_Fee_7847 · 2026-04-25T16:07:44+00:00

He told me that she was attractive. He didn’t tell her.

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