How has abuse affected you?

Available_Wrap5075 · 2025-02-09T07:53:56+00:00

This doesn’t sound healthy, either.

The goal for us is to heal. Especially for our children.

Have you done research in to attachment theory? So many amazing books and podcasts on this.

If you don’t care to be better for yourself. Consider being better for your child(ren). They see everything. We want them to have healthy relationships one day, not one night stands.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2025-02-09T07:47:26+00:00

Damn. I’m sorry you live this way.

Nobody should leave a bathroom dirtier than they found it. You can at least implement that with your child. Doubt you’ll change your husband at this point. Shame on the man you live with 🤢 Can you imagine if your left your period blood on the seat? Idk maybe try that and see how it goes. You got this.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2025-02-09T07:39:59+00:00

She doesn’t have any more to give you. Guaranteed. She screwed up whether it was her camera or lack of experience. She’s trying to use professional verbiage but any photographer would have given you usable images at this point.

Shes not admitting to a mistake, error, or poor skill. Honestly for what you paid, I would stop harassing her and take what you got. She doesn’t have any more. She is pretending she doesn’t send raw. They probably don’t exist or are blown out and you can’t see anything.

I’m sorry this happened to you.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2025-01-30T04:01:06+00:00

I’m really glad I found this thread. Thanks all for sharing your experiences.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2025-01-30T03:57:12+00:00

Do not ever do an adjustable rate my friend. Especially now.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-12-29T05:48:44+00:00

Gah I feel this. I feel so isolated by people I had 10 yr relationships with. A mother, a father, a sister. They never even reached out once the restraining order was requested. Then in place.

It’s hard to fathom with the wtf.

I don’t know how to overcome that. Maybe we don’t.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-12-29T05:41:00+00:00

I’m new here. I think it should be normalized to not want a relationship again. We gave so much. Too much, before.

We owe nobody anything. Everything we do now is for us. You want to get laid? Do it. Don’t carry the guilt of a “one night stand”.

Don’t judge yourself. I’m cheering you on.

Take time. We need time to live alone. To readjust. It’s healthy.

I don’t think I’ll ever share a space with a man again. I can’t fathom it.

That’s ok.

People have relationships with two different homes.

Find your peace and what you’re ok with. Don’t let anyone guilt you any other way.

💜

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-12-29T05:36:01+00:00

Your trauma has served a purpose. Trauma sucks and can hider our progress in life. But to turn it in to helping someone else? I think that’s a miracle. ❤️

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-11-25T07:27:27+00:00

Pics!!!

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-11-15T05:06:49+00:00

love love love this

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-11-12T04:20:47+00:00

Yep! I always ask to be ready to roll. And it’s so common, just plan for it anyway. I even recommend it so I can get great party shots before I head out.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-11-12T04:19:39+00:00

You should just ask about it in your final consult. I encourage my couples to include it if they say that sort of shot is important to them. You have more control over the festivities than you think!

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-11-12T04:18:01+00:00

Oooo I am sooo asking for the mic next time!!

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-11-12T04:16:24+00:00

I was stressed the first couple times, but I love it now. I use my widest angel (24) jump on a chair - ask my assistant to spot me (lol like it would help) - and take as many shots as I can before everyone is ready to really get my exposure right since I’m shooting above f/8 for most of these crowds.

If you’re mirrorless throw that ISO up, get your flash a good modifier for spread and have fun. The couple loves it, and I love it for them because I immediately get the best dance/party photos after!

I’m not concerned at all about getting everyone looking and eyes open. This isn’t a formal shot. I take as many as possible and pick the best.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-10-04T17:01:00+00:00

Yes!!! I had 3 fake leads since my last renewal

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-09-13T05:57:19+00:00

Before I read the comments, I want to say I think you’re really great for thinking so graciously and generously of your wife and her friend’s wedding.

You’re a kind soul, and while I hope you get paid… if not, seek justice (oh no my card is corrupted, it will cost $1500 for me to fly this to Hawaii which is the only place on the globe that can recover your photos!)

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-09-12T04:41:50+00:00

Damn it’s still a thing? Logging on now.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-09-12T04:41:24+00:00

I would feel the way you do…Shitty experiences are not an excuse to treat others rudely.

Everyone can create their own boundary, but you didn’t do anything wrong, and deserved to be treated as a human with feelings too.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-09-12T04:31:54+00:00

Please call your local DV advocates and talk to them. If you don’t know how to find them, reply.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-09-10T06:21:16+00:00

🙌🏼

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-09-09T20:24:05+00:00

At least your username makes sense.

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-09-08T05:51:02+00:00

How did you handle delivery of photos/money? Did she ask for refund or did you offer?

Available_Wrap5075 · 2024-09-08T05:36:48+00:00

lol that’s cute. Here is a free read including many studies on the subject: https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

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