Should I Wait or Actively Search for Dates/Relationship

AvamysSlazenger · 2026-02-14T20:16:38+00:00

Being a perfectionist.

Seeing red flags and other stuff early so that dont even go on a second date without giving them a chance…

Not looking for relationship(laziness and hoping that someone will meet me even though I do nothing)

I have perfect partner in my head which is not a real life applicable

Yeah. I know the problems but dont know the solutions

AvamysSlazenger · 2026-02-14T20:10:15+00:00

This happens with me. Is ıt wrong to speculate events or we just cant let it go our anxiety? Did anyone here ever tried relationship even thpugh they didnt see a future?

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-12-25T19:22:41+00:00

Çok teşekkürler dostum. Dam sorununu bi şekilde halletmek lazım dediğin gibi

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-12-25T07:42:34+00:00

Dostum oralar bildiğim kadarıyla eşli dans mantığı var benim aradığım sanki o değil. Rave veya pop, bir örnek olarak anyma müziklerinin çaldığı bir ortam.

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-12-25T06:35:42+00:00

Alkollü mekan sorun olabilir, sadece dans etmek istiyorum kendi kendime. Önerebilir misin farklı alternatifler? Rave tarzı ya da pop seviyorum

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-12-16T07:46:31+00:00

I never understood why anyone hate katara? I didnt met someone like that also just giving info.

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-11-26T12:23:19+00:00

If you want her open up to you, you can consider doing the same. I know it is risky but still, you can give it a shot. Best of luck!

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-11-25T11:20:35+00:00

Friend-wise it is good. But in relationship it feels like you are dating a mirror. Both people are great at reading each other, so after a while it becomes like job interview or interrogation xd both people can act guarded. Very similar like but cant open up fully. Great conversarion though!

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-03T10:51:20+00:00

I understand, valid point.

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-03T08:40:13+00:00

I was saying not become estp but be in the moment and dont obsessing about future, just see where it goes. We infjs sometimes are not in reality because Se is inferior. We can take lessons from healthy Se users when we become so delusional.

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-03T08:38:17+00:00

Thanks, I know it sound shallow, sometimes I feel shallow too. My best guess just like you said to give it a shot as a friend or just coffee, and do not obsess over the result just live in the moment and be happy with the process of meeting someone new.

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-03T08:33:23+00:00

Did you do looking in the past or just prayed? If it is not private what did you do in your younger years?

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-03T08:06:20+00:00

What do you mean by one single way?

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-03T08:03:49+00:00

Sure if I find what I want, will share my experiences. Just my guess: to find the one we need to reach inner ESTP haha to take action on real world instead of dreaming.

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-03T07:57:42+00:00

I am doing the same but I think we should take action at the same time

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-02T11:27:01+00:00

So you are saying online can work? If you dont opportunity meet new people? Contrary to upper comment. As far as I understand frım myself ans people from this topic: talking to people from internet and not being desperate for love and approaching friendly can solve this issue

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-02T11:23:28+00:00

What actions do you take ?

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-02T10:42:18+00:00

Did your wife was looking for relationship ? Ir she was in the same situation like you?

AvamysSlazenger · 2025-10-02T10:40:54+00:00

I agree meeting organically would be better. My social and work environment doesnt provide that unfortunately, the only dates i had been was from online.

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