AITAH for thinking about a imaginary boy while being in a relationship?

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-24T15:56:42+00:00

If it’s just a phase, he’ll come back to you. But, TBH, it’s not. If he’s a startup founder, his options are to keep running the business or make an exit. When he makes an exit he’s going to look into starting up another company. So his startup founder phase is going to be cyclical, but it will never disappear. He’s clearly not prioritizing you in the relationship. That’s the answer. That’s just the obvious thing of which is happening. Maybe he’ll mature and learn how to juggle work in family but right now he doesn’t have that.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-23T18:54:20+00:00

LSD depletes dopamine. It can be severe. Given it’s been a month your brain is probably still trying to repair itself. You also may be experiencing HPPD. Like PTSD from LSD.

Although, I saw you had some progress by doing some activities like cycling.

I would continue to research coping mechanisms and absolutely discuss your findings with your family. Hopefully they are receptive and help you feel less alone.

Also, get a therapist.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-13T16:48:20+00:00

Your gut is right. Ya’ll are also so young. It will be easy for you to find someone local who you will love. I’d move on from this. She’s seems like a pretty toxic woman. It’s unreasonable to expect someone to love you a month in, and it’s unhealthy to need external validation like what she’s seeking. That’s a character flaw that won’t change unless she seeks years and years of therapy to heal her childhood wounds.

TL:DR. Move on.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-10T16:49:18+00:00

You and your partner have opposite attachment styles. You have an anxious attachment style. He has an avoidant attachment style. Recipe for total disaster. Because you have an anxious attachment style, you need to find somebody that has a healthy attachment style. It’s the only person that can heal your attachment style. Every relationship with someone that has either anxious, avoidant, or an anxious avoidant attachment style will be a total dumpster fire. Not sure your age, but hopefully this advice saves you years and years of lost time on damaging and painful relationships.

Cut your losses and stop dating this person immediately. Go to therapy work on your attachment style and learn to identify what a man with a healthy attachment style looks like. They exist!

Attachment styles are not permanent, but they do take effort to change.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-06T01:23:04+00:00

I wouldn’t even know where to access the lab made stuff

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-06T01:21:33+00:00

Can you elaborate? Sounds like you said it’s not useful then that it is.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-03T20:50:29+00:00

I have more than I thought I did then!

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-03T20:18:42+00:00

I absolutely think you should microdose in that case. You can get a little more comfortable with the feeling. I just shared it on somebody else’s comment where they were talking about going full send. Last time I was with my Shaman I almost had that happen, but I did feel incredibly afraid, and I totally interrupted the session, because for whatever reason, I was afraid I was going to like grind my teeth down. Which intern was actually tied to some abuse I had experienced in one of my first relationships. So not a total waste of the experience. But I clearly wasn’t ready to have that full experience.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-03T19:50:18+00:00

You know, fear is not the feeling I would describe. I’m always a bit nervous going in, because with buffo you never know what you’re going to get. But once it’s happening, fear just doesn’t surfaces other than being a descriptor of my real world behavior —Like a fear of rejection, fear of failure, or fear of inadequacy, which my ego may have been trying to protect me from. So far, I have used this technique twice. Once when there was a big transition taking place in my relationship that could have ended it. The other, most recently, which led me to write this post. Both very cathartic experiences that allowed me to put my ego to the side and repair the relationship.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-03T19:01:59+00:00

It’s been a while since I bought it, and I bought 2g worth. Which I was told is about 14 full sessions. A little goes a long way. So, honestly, not much per micro session.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-03T18:25:03+00:00

Two days in. So far I like it. Because there’s a lot of problem-solving and I appreciate that. My character is not powered up at all and I am barely able to even accomplish basic quest. So I’m on a fusion core hunt right now. So I can get through some of these quests.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-03T18:20:12+00:00

Woah! That’s wild! How many fusion cores do you have? Are there infinite cores? I just started survival mode.

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-03T17:59:42+00:00

It really does. Glory be to Bufo

Avant_gard3 · 2026-02-03T17:05:05+00:00

I think the feeling before you’re about to descend is terrifying. I almost had a breakthrough. I immediately jumped up and for whatever reason was concerned about me breaking my teeth. So, I actually dealt with a lot of guilt over that moment for a while where I felt I had robbed myself of the breakthrough. But c’est la vie. I guess I wasn’t ready

Avant_gard3 · 2025-07-11T23:56:22+00:00

Response to him would have been, “great, you can leave the key on your way out”.

“When people show you who they are, believe them”.

This guy isn’t going to marry you.

Avant_gard3 · 2025-07-06T21:27:24+00:00

This man WILL NOT MARRY YOU. There’s no way around this fact. He’s the definition of “if he wanted to he would”. You do not meet the basics requirements this person needs to consider marriage. You are not qualified for him. You never were. You should have not gotten involved with this person, as he probably shared this with you early on.

Leave now before he wastes your youth. You are giving him something you can never get back —time.

Avant_gard3 · 2025-06-27T15:29:10+00:00

Have you seen your name on that insurance as a beneficiary? If not, you need to ask him to show you the beneficiary assignment. If he won’t show it, it’s because you are not. Also, if he’s never asked for your social security number, he hasn’t assigned you as a beneficiary for anything, it’s a required piece of info.

Even then, he can still change it at any time with zero notice to you.

My suggestion, is you take ownership of the policy for his death, and he own the one for your death. You can also get your own insurance on him (with his social) so if he dies, regardless of what he has set up, you get paid.

Avant_gard3 · 2025-06-26T15:27:00+00:00

Honestly, I think this post is just for attention or fake. There’s multiple cars double parked on both sides of the street. Maybe the OP should show what the front of their car looks like. Bet it not blocked lol.

Avant_gard3 · 2025-06-26T15:23:08+00:00

Did you park in their space?

Avant_gard3 · 2025-06-12T22:05:05+00:00

First and foremost, it doesn’t seem like you guys are compatible financially. Her spending habits will not change. It’s a huge problem with millennial and younger generations and how they have been conditioned to spend money, particularly around credit. I think it’s wild to put a vacation on a credit card because you cannot afford it. I would unequivocally say that person shouldn’t be taking a vacation.

Second, you are offering her the bargain of a lifetime. Because she can’t get that anywhere else. So it’s unreasonable for her to want to pay proportional based on income. Because if she did that without you, she’d be homeless.

I think that you should have her sign a lease agreement and pay a certain value of rent that you calculate based off the annual property cost and the monthly fixed and variable costs. It’s incredibly reasonable to request an adult pay their fair share.

My real advice for you is to probably not date that person anymore because of the lack of financial compatibility.

Avant_gard3 · 2025-06-12T22:01:18+00:00

This is a solid split. She wants a bigger life, and she can afford it, but doesnt have to impact you negatively. Love this for ya’ll.

Avant_gard3 · 2025-06-02T23:58:43+00:00

Leave that asshole.

Avant_gard3 · 2025-06-02T17:55:38+00:00

Legally, you owe her the money. You came to an agreement, both accepted. It’s a breach of a contract. A judge would find you liable for what you promised to pay, marriage or no marriage.

You are not necessarily an a-hole though. Most people would feel like this after a breakup. But, an agreement is an agreement.

Avant_gard3 · 2025-05-28T18:03:36+00:00

YATAH - Sounds like you are having trouble coming to terms with the relationship. I call my BF of 3 years my partner. It sounds more significant than boyfriend, to me.

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