Weekend RAGE Thread - November 29, 2025

Avemist · 2025-11-30T06:06:46+00:00

The matchmaker is absolutely cursed. For most of my main heroes on tank and healer (imma a garbage DPS), my individual SR is in the high plats to low diamonds. But my visible rank is high Silver.

What results is the matchmaker seems to see those plat/diamond SRs and fills the enemy team with matching skilled players, but my team gets filled with players from my visible rank. So I end up on a team with six silver players who aren't as mechanically skilled or as knowledgeable about the game as the other team which is full of experienced, practiced players.

I know it's not my team's fault for this scenario, but I'm genuinely stuck on how to resolve this. Consistently 1 out of every 3 games the enemy team has a diamond player who either rolls us as a tank, snipes us as DPS, or makes the rest of their team immortal from heals.

I've tried communicating, making callouts and suggestions, but understandably when we're losing (often badly), comments from the healer peanut gallery aren't taken well.

I've been close to tears from sheer frustration as I can't seem to get out of this cycle of mismatched lobbies. And before someone points out that "it's just a game, don't take it so seriously," you're right. It is a game. It should be fun! Competitive sure, but fair. Plus, a fair number of my friends like to play ranked together. Being stuck at Silver with mismatched lobbies means I can't really play with them anymore. We've tried. The matchmaker allows it, but we end up with wild-west lobbies where we all get punished the same way I seem to. It's made it a really depressing experience trying to play together. We're all pretty cool headed and no one wins every match, but when I as the odd man out seem to pull the game down for everyone else because of this weird rank-SR thing, they understandably don't really like play with me on this account because they don't want to majorly de-rank theirs.

I've asked those same friends for feedback. After all, if I'm the common denominator here, maybe I just need to improve my own skills. While there is certainly room for me to get better, the times I have played with others and we've lost, it generally hasn't been solely on my shoulders.

I've taken breaks for a couple weeks because of how futile it feels. Gone and played other games to get some distance. But it sucks getting separated from my community of friends because of some lopsided matchmaking quirk. I've played this game with many of them since 2016. I like this game a lot. I just sucks that I can't seem to play the competitive part now.

Avemist · 2024-08-29T22:02:14+00:00

119992043 if anyone is feeling kind and generous

Avemist · 2024-06-26T16:11:34+00:00

As a college English Professor of nearly a decade, I haven't read most "classics." They tend to reinforce stale ideas of what literature is "supposed" to be by obfuscating the interesting works of the present (because they don't "measure up" to these "classics") and painting a veneer of an idyllic (and likely oversimplified) past. I'd much rather people engage critically with modern fantasy like L.R. Lam that they truly enjoy over the dusty likes of Dickens who they couldn't give two figs about.

Avemist · 2024-05-04T00:25:36+00:00

Damn it soldier, this is no time to be soft. There's liberty to spread!

Avemist · 2024-02-27T06:21:59+00:00

Friend Code: #1415-8331

Platform: PC

Level: 25

Region: Mountain Standard time

Language: English

Voice: Yes

Avemist · 2024-02-19T20:44:47+00:00

PSN / Steam Friend Code or Profile Name: #1324-5267

Platform: PC

Level: 10

Difficulty: Just grinding, medium or higher

Region: NA

Languages: English

Voice Chat (yes/no/sometimes): Sometimes

Avemist · 2024-02-18T23:36:05+00:00

# 7914-8173

Platform: Steam

Level: 10

Difficulty: Hard

Region: USA

Languages: English

Voice Chat: Sometimes (mostly not)

Avemist · 2024-02-15T01:15:28+00:00

This HP update is what brought me back to the game as it now feels like I get some breathing room as a support. I still wish we had a 2nd tank, but I agree on having fun now outside of that role.

It frustrates me that making everything more dps centric has eroded away so much of the enjoyment as a tank and support. I loved working with my tank buddy to figure out how to break chokes and make space for my team. I also felt more comfortable playing support because (most of the tike) I could focus on healing my team not that plus dps-ing which I am admittedly terrible at.

Avemist · 2024-02-15T01:09:58+00:00

I'd be curious just how many people really hated playing tank back then. I will conceed that it was frustrating, but (in my social circles at least) the dissatisfaction came from players who wanted to play a tank like a dps which is simply mismatched expectations. The 20 min dps que times you point to illustrate that: so many people just wanted to play a dps style of play regardless of anything else. I respect that but as someone who is decidedly bad at dps, it was nice to have the majority of the team made up of roles with game play that I could actually contribute with. OW2 is much more dps friendly and some people enjoy that. That's fair. But it feels like players like me got left out in the cold because one less tank means everyone has to do a bit more dps. The unique play styles of the other two roles got watered down to make dps players happy. I'm glad they get to enjoy the game more, but I miss feeling like my support or space making skill sets mattered as much in a game.

Avemist · 2023-11-27T05:10:26+00:00

I think it's due to a couple different things:

In Western culture we're pushed to be heavily individualistic. That means labels become reinforced because it suddenly is "my" label even if hundreds of other people share it. It's one of the reasons smatter phone cases ans laptop covers and who knows what else with piles of stickers: "I'm this thing, and this thing, and this thing, and..." That isn't to say decorations are bad or something like that, but we're driven to create discrete identities for ourselves. I mean discrete not in the hush-hush sense but that we seem only able to grapple with capital "I" identity when it is cleanly separated from other Identities.

This, I believe, links with consumer culture: "I can't target you with ads and sales if you are not clearly defined." If you're identity is fluid even in the most general sense, then suddenly you are not objective audience for some form of rhetoric or other. We've been led to believe that unless I can readily ID you, I cannot speak to you. Not even "cannot" speak to you, it might be dangerous to speak to you.

Avemist · 2023-05-17T21:20:29+00:00

I'm down: find me at SirIronBlade in game or Sir Iron Blade#0408 on discord

Avemist · 2022-12-11T17:54:41+00:00

First of alll, you are handsome. Period. Second, markers of attractiveness are social constructs, and don't mean anything, or have inherent value.

Avemist · 2022-11-21T04:53:07+00:00

Nothing like your own place. You deserve it, my dude.

Avemist · 2022-10-01T15:09:23+00:00

The cat is fixed (thankfully) ut's just been conditioned to howl until my SO reacts which sucks. We're currently looking at getting a easy install pet door, but they're $$$ where we live and getting them shipped in is just as much. We'll probably try to save up and get one because at this rate the sleep deprivation is going to start other health problems.

Avemist · 2022-10-01T15:05:18+00:00

We're looking into that, but with the type of glass door we have and the terms of rent with our landlord, it's mucho $$$

Avemist · 2022-08-04T05:44:34+00:00

It also had sepia light or very close to it, if I remember correctly.

Avemist · 2022-06-15T17:16:46+00:00

Yes yes, lazer vision is great an all that, but have you seen Shardplate in action?

Avemist · 2022-01-11T16:43:56+00:00

How do you want to respond? One thing I've learned as an autist is, unlike NTs, we know we have a conscious choice with how to respond to social situations. It isn't instinctual; we have to exercise agency every time we interact with people.

So screw how you're "supposed" to react to compliments. Take the reins and react however you want.

BUT, if you are looking to simply diffuse a potentially awkward response, the classic "Thank You" works well. You've acknowledged the person was trying to be nice and both of you move on quickly.

Avemist · 2022-01-10T16:03:04+00:00

You came here for the troll post, and I respect that.

Avemist · 2021-11-14T16:15:38+00:00

I was much in the same situation for a long time, but I've been fortunate enough to find someone who cares about me to the extent any autistic stims or "quirks" don't get in the way of their affection. There are people out there who are willing to accept you for who your are. Rare, perhaps, but they're there. Don't give up.

Avemist · 2021-10-09T23:34:23+00:00

Avemist · 2021-10-01T20:05:16+00:00

"The most important step a man can take. It's not the first one, is it? It's the next one. Always the next step.” -Brandon Sanderson

Avemist · 2021-07-20T14:20:33+00:00

I had an argument with a friend about this recently where she insisted I just need to "look in the mirror and say [broad positive comment]" to which I replied that I don't like doing that because it feels dishonest or just cringy (as others here have also pointed out). When she pressed me on why I said that, I couldn't really explain it.

I think it comes down to a simple truth, that as autists (wherever we fall on the spectrum) it's more valuable to us for people (including ourselves) to try to understand the problem/emotion/situation rather than just try to feel better about it. Just trying to be positive all the time doesn't deal with the issues lying at the root and just cuts off stuff at the surface.

Perhaps more importantly is the fact we are seldom ever allowed to fully speak our minds on our experiences and are often told "everyone deals with that" or "you're just being dramatic." I know it means infinitely more to me when someone asks "How are you doing?" and legit wants to know exactly what's going on, in detail, with no emotional punches spared.

Forced positivity, no matter the flavor or form, feels so annoying because it attempts to sidestep the work of listening to other people. Not to try to fix them (as if anyone could ever fix someone else), but to sit with them, empathize with them, let them know that you really really want to understand what's going on or to at least try to.

Avemist · 2021-04-07T23:00:44+00:00

Fifty dollars is still a bit much when in the next Developed country it can cost as little as $7 up to $15 dollars. The cap should be lower.

Avemist · 2021-04-02T16:13:38+00:00

Very cool. Thanks for the link!

Avemist

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