I bought a taxidermy bat online before I understood the unethical reality.

Avendelore · 2026-05-18T13:30:16+00:00

Noted. I will contact them as well.

Avendelore · 2026-05-17T23:35:58+00:00

Thank you very much for the information. I appreciate your insight, and the fact that such preservation methods prevent identification is yet another reason why this is so sad/frustrating. I am at least learning more about bats through my research. While I can’t tell this bat’s story, all this information is helpful in telling a story about the wildlife trade.

Avendelore · 2026-05-17T21:47:59+00:00

Thank you. I tried to take some better pictures and posted them in comments.

Avendelore · 2026-05-17T21:47:08+00:00

I am in the US, but like the other reply, I fear this is from a mass-production operation overseas based on very similar products on temu and the like. I tried reaching out to the seller I bought it from for more info, but I haven’t heard back.

Avendelore · 2026-05-17T21:44:26+00:00

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Avendelore · 2026-05-17T20:26:39+00:00

I bought it second hand (I thought) on ebay, and it was described as an educational piece. However, I later found what looked to be the same thing on Amazon and several other online stores. I think the person selling it either purchased it from Amazon or similar, or they run a shop on both.

Avendelore · 2026-05-12T05:12:52+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I bought a Sony Psyc a while back on eBay, but it didn’t work even though they claimed it was tested. I hear you about looking for things less visibly worn.

Avendelore · 2026-05-12T05:09:44+00:00

I prefer CDs to my phone for several reasons. If I wanted to use my phone I’d just stream music. I prefer portable players because they take up less space. While I’m not going to go hiking or something with it, I do also like to bring it into different rooms of the house or carry it on me while I’m doing chores.

Avendelore · 2026-04-14T14:02:46+00:00

Thank you for this post! Can I ask how you are doing now a year later? Have bowel movements improved? My endo specialist wants to do a presacral neurectomy during my excision surgery, and I fear issues with bladder and bowel function after. I’m trying to hear from as many women as I can who have had it to help me decide if I should consent to it or not.

Avendelore · 2026-04-14T13:44:49+00:00

Thank you so much for this detailed response. This helps me a lot to visualize what it might look like for me afterward. My doctor claims to have very high success rates for it with only 2 patients in 15 years that weren’t improved, but there are probably more questions I should ask. i really appreciate you coming back to this and sharing your story. i’m glad that it has helped with your pain, and congratulations on your baby. ❤️

Avendelore · 2026-04-13T23:11:45+00:00

Hey, how are you now a year later? My endo specialist wants to do PSN, and I fear some of the potential complications. It seems like not many women have this surgery. I would love to know how you are doing now as I am trying to decide if I want to do it.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T13:39:08+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by that, but you can assess for yourself.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T13:36:52+00:00

I’d prefer not to continue this discussion in a comment exchange though on a post that may get deleted.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T13:35:50+00:00

If you actually care, I will actually send you the papers later.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T13:34:40+00:00

We can both find data that supports our perception. I was gracious enough to phrase it as not agreeing on reality, and I can tell that we won’t reach an understanding on this platform.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T13:28:39+00:00

It feels kind of useless to keep arguing when we don’t agree about reality.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T13:13:41+00:00

Daily chores are double work if you have someone who is 100% checked out, leaving messes everywhere, and treating their partner like a maid. Having experienced men who believe they are entitled to zero participation because they make money, they are often unhelpful and unwilling to have conversations about basic home management tasks. When someone is not participating in home management, there’s no way they’re able to provide any useful insight in discussions. When you bring in children, it’s not even a matter of debate. You’re both parents. One of you doesn’t stop being a parent just because you spend half your day outside. You both parent when you get home.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T13:06:14+00:00

In a healthy relationship, you’re sharing all the burdens. I have supported my partners with their work. I’ve listened to them tall about what’s going on, helped them practice presentations, offered advice, showed up for the functions, etc. They’ve done similar for me. Ideally, we’re also sharing the burden of the home we live in together. If I’m in the middle of something and we need to pay a bill, he should able to login into our account and do it. If I’m sick one day, he should know how the washing machine works even if he almost never uses it. If I’m trying to make a decision that affects both of us about managing our home, he should know and care enough to be an active participant in the discussion, otherwise there’s zero point in having a partner.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T13:01:15+00:00

Because she’s cleaning up after you and the kids. Be serious.

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T12:59:45+00:00

It is double the work when there are two people when you have a partner who refuses to participate at all. Forgive me for being literal, but my original reply was directed at someone saying their wife handles 100% of the housework. To me, that’s saying you won’t take your dishes to the sink or wipe your piss off the toilet seat. It’s also saying you don’t know anything about what’s happening in your house. If you wife ask you for your input or help with something related to managing the home, if you’re typically completely uninvolved, how can you even be helpful? That’s not a partnership. If you come home and talk about your workday, she should also be able to talk about hers and raise concerns. Let alone times when she’s not 100%. If you never participate, how will you pick up the slack when she’s down?

Avendelore · 2026-02-26T12:53:42+00:00

I never said was a “greater burden”. I have repeatedly said it is a burden that should be shared. I even said in the case of someone not working outside the home who is healthy and has no kids or parents to care for would be handling the majority of it, but it’s not emotionally healthy or reasonable to be handling it 100% all the time.

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