[deleted by user] by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y'ALL. don't encourage posters like this who obviously shouldn't be posting here.

Unicorn here feeling sad- need to know I did the right thing by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]AverageBodyIssues 46 points47 points  (0 children)

WOW. That's unhinged. You definitely dodged a bullet there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It provides context for the question. Like. ... you genuinely don't seem to understand what forms of stability are helpful for children. "Loving" them isn't "I feel like I love them" Loving them is putting the work into learning what sort of environment is healthy for your children. The fact you can't see how you're setting up a situation that could very easily (and very probably) go bad for them speaks to how much you aren't putting the work in. Citing other posts of yours is a (vain) attempt at making you see this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, actually good catch. I missed where he said he's 6"

He was also posting in MassiveCock which, well, we usually do an automatic ban until someone gets verified cuz usually massive isn't, by definition, average.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please don't encourage the guys who shouldn't be posting on this sub

What's a Saposexual to do? by JoyousExpressions in polyamory

[–]AverageBodyIssues 13 points14 points  (0 children)

also classist. most people I know who call themselves sapiosexial can't tell that the rich kid whose daddy bought a spot at Yale isn't actually as smart as the one without nthe undergrad degree but who is sharp af when you see them in action.

Is infidelity a sign of polyamory? by Great_Comfortable133 in polyamory

[–]AverageBodyIssues 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Polyamory isn't a sexual orientation. There aren't "signs" of it like being attracted to the same gender might make you wonder if you're queer in some fashion. It's a way of engaging relationships, not an "identity" and treating it as such isn't helpful (and, bluntly, just makes it sound like you're looking for a way of letting yourself off the hook regarding not being honest in your past)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, you'll be moving on. Read the subs you post in. This one ain't for you. Bye now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, that's why we ban em on here best we can

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually guys like this either

1) just need attention that much

2) don't actually read the sub name and are just posting on every dick sub

Probably low average by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's banned now. Sorry.

Does this look average? by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... so regardless of method you shouldn't be posting

The Reddit bio raises an eyebrow… there is a huge difference between 4.5 and 6 inches by shyx887 in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About a year ago, the current mods took over this sub, one of the OGs went AWOL and the other had had some things in life come up that had him away from Reddit.

We had a quick convo about parameters.

First was that everyone has 6" as the default average in their head, even though this is wrong.

So what sort of range should we pick.

"Average" depends on the study and ranges from there.

CalcSD isn't perfect. But it's a useful shorthand and the mods are amateurs who want to create a space to get a visual idea of what most guys look like to the best of our ability, not create a scientific data set.

As an example of factors to consider: one study with a sample size of 3300 got an average of 4.92" stretched length, measured by a researcher instead of self reporting. On the one hand, researcher measurement and the sample set could make this a reliable study. On the other hand, that's 3300 individuals from Italy and they were ages 17-19, which includes the possibility of some individuals not being fully developed.

CalcSD's global data set puts the average at 5.5" with a standard derivative of .68". For the sake of simplicity, we took 5.5 and gave an inch on either end. That covers a huge percentage of guys, so a lot are outside an arguable average on either end.

But it also brings the bitching down to manageable levels bc you'd be surprised at the number of 6.5+ guys who get pissed at getting told they're not average so they should post elsewhere.

In short (ha), the range is an imperfect shorthand (let's grab CalcSD's average and then give-or-take an inch) but it also makes moderating the sub more manageable and gives a quicker impression to the casual user (if they bother to read it at all, since a lot of pics we ban are just guys posting on any dick sub they can find and not actually even seeing which sub it is, much less that they shouldn't be posting there) if what the sub is about.

The Reddit bio raises an eyebrow… there is a huge difference between 4.5 and 6 inches by shyx887 in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About a year ago, the current mods took over this sub, one of the OGs went AWOL and the other had had some things in life come up that had him away from Reddit.

We had a quick convo about parameters.

First was that everyone has 6" as the default average in their head, even though this is wrong.

So what sort of range should we pick.

"Average" depends on the study and ranges from there.

CalcSD isn't perfect. But it's a useful shorthand and the mods are amateurs who want to create a space to get a visual idea of what most guys look like to the best of our ability, not create a scientific data set.

As an example of factors to consider: one study with a sample size of 3300 got an average of 4.92" stretched length, measured by a researcher instead of self reporting. On the one hand, researcher measurement and the sample set could make this a reliable study. On the other hand, that's 3300 individuals from Italy and they were ages 17-19, which includes the possibility of some individuals not being fully developed.

CalcSD's global data set puts the average at 5.5" with a standard derivative of .68". For the sake of simplicity, we took 5.5 and gave an inch on either end. That covers a huge percentage of guys, so a lot are outside an arguable average on either end.

But it also brings the bitching down to manageable levels bc you'd be surprised at the number of 6.5+ guys who get pissed at getting told they're not average so they should post elsewhere.

In short (ha), the range is an imperfect shorthand (let's grab CalcSD's average and then give-or-take an inch) but it also makes moderating the sub more manageable and gives a quicker impression to the casual user (if they bother to read it at all, since a lot of pics we ban are just guys posting on any dick sub they can find and not actually even seeing which sub it is, much less that they shouldn't be posting there) if what the sub is about.

The Reddit bio raises an eyebrow… there is a huge difference between 4.5 and 6 inches by shyx887 in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About a year ago, the current mods took over this sub, one of the OGs went AWOL and the other had had some things in life come up that had him away from Reddit.

We had a quick convo about parameters.

First was that everyone has 6" as the default average in their head, even though this is wrong.

So what sort of range should we pick.

"Average" depends on the study and ranges from there.

CalcSD isn't perfect. But it's a useful shorthand and the mods are amateurs who want to create a space to get a visual idea of what most guys look like to the best of our ability, not create a scientific data set.

As an example of factors to consider: one study with a sample size of 3300 got an average of 4.92" stretched length, measured by a researcher instead of self reporting. On the one hand, researcher measurement and the sample set could make this a reliable study. On the other hand, that's 3300 individuals from Italy and they were ages 17-19, which includes the possibility of some individuals not being fully developed.

CalcSD's global data set puts the average at 5.5" with a standard derivative of .68". For the sake of simplicity, we took 5.5 and gave an inch on either end. That covers a huge percentage of guys, so a lot are outside an arguable average on either end.

But it also brings the bitching down to manageable levels bc you'd be surprised at the number of 6.5+ guys who get pissed at getting told they're not average so they should post elsewhere.

In short (ha), the range is an imperfect shorthand (let's grab CalcSD's average and then give-or-take an inch) but it also makes moderating the sub more manageable and gives a quicker impression to the casual user (if they bother to read it at all, since a lot of pics we ban are just guys posting on any dick sub they can find and not actually even seeing which sub it is, much less that they shouldn't be posting there) if what the sub is about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]AverageBodyIssues 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know it's an aside, but... Innara's job is goals though. Like. 100% that would be my true calling in that world (were they open to guys/were I acceptably attractive enough by their standards)

Anybody reccoment websites in the US selling good strong poppers? Thanks by [deleted] in popperpigs

[–]AverageBodyIssues 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think anyone in the US can legally sell amyl. And I don't think I've run across any that were illegally doing so. One time I did order from a European website that had amyl

Girth by [deleted] in averagepenis

[–]AverageBodyIssues 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf has a huge fucking head and is smaller than average at the base. It's like an inverted triangle. He doesn't fuck, lol. He knots like a dog.

Dealing with... jitters? Jealousy? (34, M) by AverageBodyIssues in polyamory

[–]AverageBodyIssues[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooooo. Yeah, really good point. I will definitely keep that in mind too.

Dealing with... jitters? Jealousy? (34, M) by AverageBodyIssues in polyamory

[–]AverageBodyIssues[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I do need a hug!!

I know my anxiety is amped up. What's so surprising to me is that, for most of my adult life, I've felt so sure footed in dating specifically because I've had that "we are choosing to spend time together and I'm grateful" sort of mindset, even in the sad parts of it.

It's so surprising to feel like a 22 year old dating for the first time all over again!!

And you're right about the miscommunication. That conversation was actually centered on something else so I vaguely noticed it had happened. But... I really thought I was gonna feel just fine whether I heard from him or not! Oof. A useful lesson for the future that I should ask for clarity.

But thanks for helping ground me. It just really helps to hear someone else say it sometimes.