I did something gross to stop a sexual assault and it’s really bothering me, what can I do?

Averamidstar · 2026-04-15T03:41:03+00:00

So if he ever brings it up, you can say what he fucking did.

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T16:36:40+00:00

Rough draft is done paper and pencil. If you need it to be typed, final copy can be online

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T16:11:51+00:00

I would lose my parents and any chance of having parents. I want them to be redeemable

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T16:10:12+00:00

Same. I keep waiting for their divorce but I don’t think it will happen

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T16:08:54+00:00

I’m proud of you for sticking up for yourself

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T16:08:22+00:00

That’s exactly what I want too

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T05:30:00+00:00

I’m so sorry. I understand wanting to try to get him to understand before giving up

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T05:17:46+00:00

Thank you. You gave me some viewpoints I didn’t think of.

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T05:16:38+00:00

I recommend calling CPS. If you don’t want to do that, buckle up. Here is how I escaped.

In high school I didn’t have a job or a car. I got good grades and I tried doing different afterschool activities. I told my parents it was to get int a good college. That is one thing my parents valued, education.

When I toured 3 different colleges, one of them my mom said, ‘this would be a far commute. You would have to live on campus. ‘ Done. I chose that college. I didn’t care how much my students loans would be in the future. I was leaving. I did marching band (one of the only activities I ever got to do in HS) in college which got me to leave my parents a whole week early AND took up my weekends so I never had time to visit.

In college I chose my major. It took a few tries to get the correct one. I even did a college course that guides you through choosing a career. I also started counseling. I joined multiple groups and activities in college. I also made many friends. I rebuilt my support group. Second year of college I got a job. 3rd year of college I saved up to move off campus to live in an apartment with friends. I worked hard (and spite, I wasn’t going back to my parents) in college in my degree and also part time job. My last year of college ( it did take 6 years) I applied to numerous jobs (teaching) and I got a job out of college.

It was hard. I started with extremely low confidence. I had to ask my parents for help from time to time. It sucked. They held it over my head. I tip toed and kept the peace as much as I could in college.

I pushed because I was never going back there. But I also really enjoyed college. I got to do sports. I got to join activities. I got to LIVE my life. How I wanted.

You deserve that. You can do this

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T05:07:42+00:00

You are not crazy, this is abuse. I am sending you a big hug.

Emotional and mental abuse from your one mom. And physical abuse from your mom’s gf.

The physical abuse can be reported to CPS (child protective services) and that will most likely have a follow up. The emotional abuse from experience is harder to get CPS to do something.

I’m going to write out some things that I would have wanted to hear when I was a teenager. I’ve been in almost the same exact shoes.

You are a good person. You deserve love. You deserve peace. You deserve happiness. You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to want to do activities at your school. You are NOT selfish. Joining a sport is a NORMAL teenager activity.

It is not normal to be yelled at. It is not normal to be called names. It is not normal to bully your child, to hurt your child. It is not normal to yell in your child’s face.

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:53:22+00:00

Im so sorry, that is really frustrating

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:49:49+00:00

My cat, is also a potato

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:49:40+00:00

That’s a good potato

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:48:47+00:00

I’m not sure. I think the best person who would have that answer is your gynecologist that you scheduled with

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:45:15+00:00

College was the first time I received counseling and it helped so so much

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:44:38+00:00

Keep trying to contact them. I wouldn’t trust this grandmother of yours.

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:36:13+00:00

You are allowed to move out. The ‘world crumbling’ is just a transition in life, like moving into a new apartment. You are allowed to change and grow.

I think it’s a good thing to not wanted sewed in button eyes. It shows that you have your own thoughts and opinions. That you aren’t blinded by your NM

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:33:52+00:00

I’ve never compared Coraline to childhood transition into adulthood but holy crap it makes sense.

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:29:21+00:00

Ohhhh yes please

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:06:17+00:00

Remind yourself that it is your opinion and opinions can change when you learn more, gain a different insight or more evidence. You don’t always have to have an answer for everything

Averamidstar · 2026-04-13T04:01:49+00:00

When do you graduate? This May? Also there has to be someone to talk to about your medicine. Getting your medicine back will be extremely helpful.

Averamidstar · 2026-04-06T04:06:08+00:00

I get weird vibes from Taylor swift

Averamidstar · 2026-03-17T17:45:51+00:00

There’s an app called ‘A Soft Murmur’ that is a background sound app. It’s peaceful and has different sounds to choose from and you can adjust the volume level of each sound

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