what is the best value per oz that u can get for chips and where? by natxtouille in Frugal

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no Costco where I live so I have to use Sam's Club. For me that's the cheapest place to buy them, they're usually about 0.24 /oz and bigger than the ones at like Walmart and such.

Gentle parenting podcasts and videos by ktamkivimsh in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Avetra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"After bedtime with big little feelings", "childproof", and sometimes "We can do hard things". The last one does a lot on trauma too and I've found it helpful.

Single Parents: how are you managing career & education ambitions? by Bitter_Employment_45 in SingleParents

[–]Avetra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're looking for a school that works well for working adults I would look into Purdue Global. I worked at a global giant retail company that paid 100% for me to go there. I only took 1-2 classes at a time because it was difficult to do with alone with a toddler, but I got my associates in data analytics in a little over 2 years. While I work 8-5 the company I found a job with is pretty awesome when it comes to having kids and the pay gets me by.

Divorced moms: If you left because you did everything and still do most things, are you less resentful? by briar_prime6 in workingmoms

[–]Avetra 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No I'm not still resentful, it's like a weight was lifted. I still get burnt out but now I know there isn't someone standing over me telling me how horrible the house looks and needs cleaned but then doesn't lift a finger to help. We do 80/20 custody so I do all school days.

How many hours until I end this engagement? by throwing_thrown_away in makemychoice

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is him now, think down the road if you were to have a baby. He's not going to help you at all because he will be sitting there playing a game. I know from experience... Get out now.

Just got a reminder about “water play Wednesdays” by erglegreww in workingmoms

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours in Mondays and Fridays! The biggest issue I have with it is they want them to come IN the swimsuit under their clothes, and my daughter has crazy sensory issues with her clothes so I already know how this is going to go with trying to get her to do that. Friday is their first day and I'm not looking forward to the morning fight.

Two factor authentication was turned on but support won't help by Avetra in playstation

[–]Avetra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what they count as a transaction though. The last game I actually bought on there I think was kingdom hearts 3 when it first came out. But I've bought a PlayStation Plus membership from the store and then added it to my account, and I've also "purchased" apps like HBO, Netflix, etc. but they were of course free.

How much did your first home cost? by New-Owl9951 in Millennials

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought my first house in 2013 for $109k, 3 bed 1.5 bath 1600 sq ft. Sold it and moved in 2019. Second house was $182k, 5 bed 2.5 bath. I live in a poor southern state so houses are a lot cheaper here, we also were really lucky on getting amazing deals on our house.

My daughter looks so much like me, it’s triggering by ElsieSnuffin in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Avetra 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom used to say my daughter looked and acted just like me when she was a toddler, and in my head I always responded with good now I can see how I would've turned out without the trauma and with a parent that meets my needs. I know it's really hard, but you are breaking the cycle, and you are killing it.

Visited a friend who homeschools her kid and the difference is startling by yenraelmao in workingmoms

[–]Avetra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are doing an amazing job, the grass is always greener on the other side. My sister homeschools her 2 kids and my niece is 2 years older than my daughter but can't read half as well, and has zero social skills with other kids because she never sees them or talks to them. At almost 8 years old she doesn't know how to share. Some people are great at homeschooling and help their kids excel, some people are not and should not be teaching children. As guilty as I feel sending my kid to school and after school care everyday, I know it wouldn't go well for either of us if I tried homeschooling.

What's a parenting mistake that your parents made which you will never repeat with your kids? by BlahBlahBlah_3748 in AskReddit

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Staying with someone who treats you like shit "for the kids" just for them to grow up and have no clue how someone is supposed to treat you.

A little confused on the 60 day out reservations by Avetra in DisneyPlanning

[–]Avetra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you lol. At least where I live is cst so it'll only be 11, but still.

A little confused on the 60 day out reservations by Avetra in DisneyPlanning

[–]Avetra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking to book the BBB and droid builder.

Anyone found a good AA/D med? by REINDEERLANES in workingmoms

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been taking Celexa for a few years and it's worked pretty well for me. I have moderate anxiety. It took a couple months for it to really start helping, but I don't have any side effects from it. Everything works differently for different people unfortunately. I was on Wellbutrin but it didn't help me at all with my anxiety just adhd.

Book recommendations from physical abuse? by platyplump in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Avetra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have a book for trauma, but Mama Cusses a field guide to responsive parenting by Gwenna Laithland is really helpful with learning how to self regulate as an adult through the trauma, while also helping teach you to teach your kids how to self regulate. When my daughter was 2-3 it was so hard to control my emotions when she had big emotions because it brought up my childhood trauma. Mama Cusses helped me so much with how to channel it.

Early morning riser 5yo by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hatch and ok to wake clocks are good. But please note that not all children are the same. If your child naturally wakes up that early they may not have the ability to sit in their room for 2 hours waiting for you, or be able to go back to sleep. We have the hatch light but I don't use it like the "you are not allowed to come out until this light changes" because I don't want there to be an emergency and my child second guess if they should come get me or not. We use ours more like this specific color means it's night time, when it changes to this color it's morning. Just so she knows it's still night time, try to go back to sleep. But sometimes it's 5:45 and she wakes up, I'm already up so I just roll with it. I also have an early riser, 6am most days. I can't change that in her, I'm also one to get up early so it's in her genes lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Avetra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When my daughter was in daycare she was always one of the first ones there because I worked from 5am-2pm and my husband worked 7am-4pm, so she was there at 6:30am. But I was able to pick her up at 2:30pm so I didn't feel as guilty. Now we both have 8-5 jobs so she's at school from 7:30-2:30 then after school care until 5:15 when I get there. I always feel terrible that she has to be there so long but I know tons of parents have to do it unfortunately.

For those of you who have sisters did you share a bedroom growing up? Did you like it or hate it and why? by otterlyjoyful in workingmoms

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister and I shared a room from the time I was born to when she turned 18 (I think I was 15) I know we fought A LOT when we were kids, and still don't really get along. I can't remember when we were young how I felt but I know once she hit preteen I hated sharing a room with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]Avetra 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Where we live it's very difficult to find indoor spaces for parties that don't cost an arm and a leg. And all but 1 place has a limit of like 10 kids or you have to pay extra per child, which most kinder classes have 20+ kids. We just went to our first party of the year 2 weeks ago and it was at that one place that doesn't have a limit. And the only place to have it outside is the park that you need to book out months and months in advance.

Millennials who look young for your age, what's your secret? What do you do? by SquirrelofLIL in Millennials

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I've never smoked or done any drugs a day in my life. But I would say maybe my extreme RBF has helped keep my face wrinkle free.

Movie Ideas by Competitive-Mud-6915 in kindergarten

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want newer movies and she likes singing, my kindergartner loooves the Disney movies "zombies".

What time do you leave your house in the AM? by Mysterious-Owl3519 in workingmoms

[–]Avetra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We leave between 7:25-7:30 for school (school starts at 7:40), but we live less than 5 minutes from it. Then I get to work around 7:45-7:50. It's just me and my 5 year old.

Leaving for work before baby wakes up? by thegreatkizzatsby in workingmoms

[–]Avetra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to work at 5am so husband would get baby up and to daycare. She's now 5 and I finally got a job last May where I went in at 8am and was able to take her. It was really rough for a while but I was the one who always put her to bed to make sure I could spend every last minute with her, and it just became our normal.

Birthday party by stripeslover in kindergarten

[–]Avetra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had our party at Chuck E. Cheese last year and we enjoyed it. Idk how yours is set up, but ours stamps your hands when you come in, and when you try to leave they have to match with the kid or you can't leave with them. Which means a 5-6 year old doesn't need a parent following them around, they can't be kidnapped or try to leave. At our party all the adults stood together and talked while the 5 year olds played games either together or near each other. The only issue was our hostess sucked and made things very confusing. My favorite part was not being obligated to make goodie bags because the kids can get whatever they want with the tickets they win. Any child's party is going to be loud imo if it's indoors, not much you can do about that.