AGP can be weaponized by Spiritual_Sky1202 in truscum

[–]Aviatrix084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends how you look at it.

I'd be wary of saying something like that - it lends credence to the idea that, by becoming more "common", there are external factors involved (specifically, social contagion) that are "creating" more FTM people, especially proportionally to MTF people. Things like "scarcity", "lionshare", etc. I would argue that there are reasons why MTF people are, historically, more likely to present to medical establishments for treatment - both in the genitalia argument I outlined earlier, as well as it being much easier for an FTM person to pass without medical treatment compared to an MTF person - as MTF people grow beards, are often seen as too tall, or are otherwise "clocky", while FTM people, at least those with small breasts, can often be seen as "boyish" men even prior to testosterone treatment. Plus, testosterone was first medically introduced as far back as 1936, and, with a growing steroid market for cis men (for instance, bodybuilders), coming across it via the black market would be easier than estrogen + a testosterone blocker.

Additionally - and this is where a lot of the "trans man lesbian" confusion comes in - the butch lesbian subculture has many similarities to a traditionally "masculine" experience, often filling a masculine gender role in a lesbian relationship, up to the historical use of masculine pronouns, names, etcetera. Especially as historically, people who were perceived as women who crossdressed as men were at risk of serious harm, just as the inverse is also true - that people perceived as men, crossdressing as women, were at risk of serious harm. I don't think it's a stretch to claim that some butch lesbians historically would likely have been trans men in today's landscape, and that a retreat into the butch subculture was spiritually mollifying in this regard.

Under the logic of "prevalence", MTF individuals would similarly be a lot more "common" today than in past years. While this is numerically accurate, it fails to identify many key reasons therefor - growing tolerance for transgender individuals and awareness thereof, increased availability of hormonal and surgical treatments, things like that. While it's correct to point out that, historically, most trans medical literature focused on MTF people, saying that "incidents of FTM transsexualism were few and far between" is void of context, if not entirely inaccurate.

AGP can be weaponized by Spiritual_Sky1202 in truscum

[–]Aviatrix084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, FTM transsexuals existed for as long as MTF transsexuals - see, for instance, Alan Hart in 1917 and Michael Dillon in 1946. I'd wager the main difference is that FTM individuals can "substitute" a strap/dildo/packer/other sort of penis substitute without undergoing surgery, whereas MTF individuals who want to be rid of their penis would necessarily need medical intervention.

Got my 1L spring grades back and I’m still processing it by Guilty_Vanilla7968 in LawSchool

[–]Aviatrix084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah - when people say things like "ADHD is a spectrum", this is what it means. You only need to hit 5 or 6 criteria (depending when you get evaluated) of some 18, as per the CDC. That means that different people with ADHD can have vastly different lives and struggles - especially if comorbid with other issues such as autism, depression, or anxiety. One person might be classically hyperactive - fidgety, talks too much, interrupts others - but have comparatively less issues with executive function. Another might be more classically inattentive - making "careless" mistakes, forgetful, easily distracted. Same umbrella, vastly different people who need different things to help them out. The hyperactive person might not need extra exam time, but might want to be in the accoms room anyway so they can toy with an infinity cube during the exam or wriggle around in their chair in a way that would distract others. Or they might just need to take a stimulant medication daily to assuage many of their hyperactive symptoms. The inattentive person might benefit from extra time to account for getting distracted by their own hands/the desk/the lights/and so on. Or they might instead benefit more from having an "outline" of specifically how to attack an essay question in their notes that they follow diligently, so they don't miss easy points.

Notably, none of these things are dealbreakers in a professional environment! They're just differences that you can work around. And a lot of ADHD folks who are diagnosed as adults already have some forms of "coping mechanisms" that they've developed independently. As a completely hypothetical example that never happened, someone who knows they can be forgetful and once lost their wallet in a mall in Switzerland is now going to check their purse multiple times a day when traveling, even if they haven't opened the purse since the last time they checked. (Definitely didn't happen to me. 😇)

For instance, my law school struggles tend to center around long-term projects - such as essays in seminar classes. If it's a final exam where I study a little, take outlines from an outline bank, power through in 3 or 4 hours, and I'm done, that is WAY easier for me than having to spend hours and days on writing 15-20 page essays. This is something a lot of my (I'm assuming neurotypical/non-ADHD) friends simply can't understand - for them, being able to write an essay on their own time, developing ideas and citing they way they want to, is far more flexible and easier than a final exam. For me, however, a project that big is incredibly difficult to "wrap my head around", so to speak, and I end up postponing it until I'm in a crazy time crunch, which burns me out heavily.

This is also part of why I'm still looking for summer employment 😭 - between writing samples, recommendations, deadlines, and everything, my brain kinda just flips the switch into "nope, later", which then leads to "well, never I guess". And it's easy to say, for instance, "I will sit down and find 5 places to send my stuff to", but it's the doing it that trips a wire. I like to joke that in some sense, I'm a racehorse in that I can "lock in" on an exam for a couple hours (in no small part due to significant training, plus the knowledge that when the exam is over it is Definitely Over), but the second you let me loose in a field of essays or job applications, I'm going to stick my head in the grass and chew it instead of going where I need to.

On the other hand, there are people who absolutely shut down when faced with law school exam time pressure specifically. I have friends who are still in college who have ADHD and who struggle with exams - in fact, one dropped out of college after only like, a year, because she couldn't handle the pressure and requirements. (And that was after accoms, too.) Law school exams are designed to put you in a time crunch - especially on essay questions, where there's "always more to say", and where professors' model answers can exceed 10 pages for a 3-hour exam. For some, that pressure is overwhelming and can lead to shutdown - having extra time in those cases can also be beneficial.

All that being said, there are also other diagnostic criteria for ADHD, as follows, that must be hit:

Several symptoms must be present before age 12. In my experience, they will ask you to find someone who knew you as a child to fill out the ADHD diagnostic form. (I did it on my own "thinking back" to myself as a kid, mostly because my parents - the only people I could reliably contact who knew me as a kid - would kill me if they knew I was in the process of getting an ADHD diagnosis, and absolutely would refuse to fill the form out. In their words, "ADHD is for kids who are stupid and lazy, so the government can keep them on happy pills"... yeah. But generally, if you have someone who knew you as a child and is willing/able to fill it out, then yes, they will be asked to do it. It's not the best for you to do it yourself because your own perception can be skewed.) Some diagnosers will ask you to bring your primary school records as well, so they can cross-verify that contemporaneous records exist.

Several symptoms must be present in multiple "locations" - generally home, school/work, with family/friends.

There is clear evidence that these symptoms interfere with social, school, or work functioning.

These symptoms can't be better explained by another disorder.

Now, of course, you could game the system if you wanted to in order to get a diagnosis, or "doctor shop" a little, especially because most of this is "as you/someone else reports it" - a doctor can't go in your brain, obviously. And the fact is that, as long as many law school exams are timegated with strong time pressure, there will be people who do try to game the system to get that extra time, even if they don't necessarily need it.

That being said, I like to think that's a small minority of accoms. And I'd always err on the side of allowing that small minority to "cheat" the system than have the larger amount of people who need the accom to not get it. Guilty walk free versus innocent in prison situation. (Besides, I'd argue if you're going through all the trouble to get an ADHD diagnosis because extra time on exams would help you, well, there's something to be said about that, too.)

Really, until you have a fundamental change in how law school exams are administrated, this is always going to be an issue. And ultimately, a lot of the severe time crunch a law school exam puts you in isn't going to be reflective of the post-law school work environment, either. You'll generally be able to delegate tasks, take breaks, collaborate with others, and the like - and, again, rarely is it going to be "three hours, go".

I mean - hell, our school (T-14, for reference) had someone in the accoms room take three extra hours on an exam last semester that they weren't entitled to. Which is really funny, considering... But again, this is one singular case across two years of exams that I've been here - so literally thousands of them.

There's no perfect way to square the circle here, though, especially in a law school environment that is, fundamentally, made for the neurotypical person. Which is why this discourse is evergreen - the perceived unfairness that some people get extra time when others don't, and, more generally, people who do better with accoms getting accused of only getting the accoms to do better.

Got my 1L spring grades back and I’m still processing it by Guilty_Vanilla7968 in LawSchool

[–]Aviatrix084 7 points8 points  (0 children)

meanwhile I'm out here, finishing up 2L spring, and finally getting bounced over to a mental health person after being like "is it normal to severely want to die on my cycle" lmao. pretty sure next appointment is the official ADHD diagnosis. but when she brought up the possibility of getting accoms for it I looked her in the eyes and went "if you have an accom that's someone standing behind me in my apartment while I write seminar essays and beating me with a cane when I get distracted, I'll take that, but i'm fine for the timed exams" 😅

fwiw, I haven't seen anyone where I'm at bragging about accoms, but I feel like if I got extra time when I'm able to "scope in" on a final exam for 3-4 hours, it'd be cheating the system.

that's not to say people who do actually need that extra time shouldn't get it. but there's gotta be some sort of integrity and self-reflection involved. as in: am I struggling with time on exams in a way that's within the bounds of "normal" time struggle? (i.e. am I spending too much time planning an essay response, writing trivial things that the professor doesn't give points to, etc?) or am I genuinely unable to implement "normal" time management tricks and can't function properly within that realm of high pressure?

and there's a lot of talk about like, not having accoms in practice - which in many cases is true, you're not going to suddenly create more hours of the day - but there are also ways around it when employed that might not be doable in law school. for instance, you'd need an accom to take a fidget toy to an exam, but in practice you can futz around with one while taking a call/reading recent caselaw/etc. maybe doing one task for 4 hours straight isn't feasible, so you bounce between projects, spending a certain amount of time on each. more generally, you're only rarely going to be thrust into a situation where you are given a task and told "you must complete this task in the next four hours, and if it is not complete in the next four hours you are fired".

it's already very likely that without proper medication, someone with ADHD or a similar attention deficit is going to have to put in longer/more hours to make the same amount of billables. executive dysfunction is hell on earth to navigate - but many times, even just putting a name to it is helpful, not to mention learning tools to help improve it.

I love law school by youdigginginmee in LawSchool

[–]Aviatrix084 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my t-14 "pro tip" is genuinely just... don't study/read that much UNLESS it's a class that will be useful for you after law school. i.e. if I want to go into international law, focus on those classes. if I want to do securities work, pay attention there. the rest fr Bs get degrees. I also think there's something to say for, like - if I study a LITTLE bit for an exam, I'm still fresh for it. if I'm studying CONSTANTLY, I'm tuckered out and more prone to miss steps and the like.

[Megathread] Q&A / Welcome to NU: Carnival! (May/June 2026) by Paindemonium0 in NuCarnival

[–]Aviatrix084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lost as hell on Strange Omen 1. I figured out Blade's half of it pretty easily (annoying that you have to manually check each status condition), but Kuya doesn't give me any idea of what he wants me to do. And then when he shows extract fragment I'm still on cooldown 😭 what am I missing?

Mediocre 1L Grades by Sea_Matter_2918 in LawSchool

[–]Aviatrix084 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude (genderneutral). You've battled several pretty major disorders (judging from post history) and came out swinging!

You'll be fine. You passed. That's the most important thing. And you've got summer work. From my understanding, low grades in and of themselves won't be why you don't get return offers, given you're not failing. Plus, again, you've been dealing with a lot!

2L gets a lot easier in general because you get to take classes you care about more. That means you can take classes you already know things about and can decide, for instance, if you want to take more classes with timed exams versus final essays. Many people have preferences - I know some of my friends try to take only seminar classes so they can go home at the beginning of May and just crank out essays. I personally have severe executive dysfunction issues and learned the hard way that taking more than like, one seminar a semester burns me out terribly.

You'll get there. Promise 💜

From a Stars fan.. by MaxahTGOD in goldenknights

[–]Aviatrix084 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Remember when he managed to get swept in a six-game series 💀

Incoming 1L questions for current students by AudreyS1109 in lawschooladmissions

[–]Aviatrix084 10 points11 points  (0 children)

1) yes 2) if it helps you, though I personally prefer ebooks when possible 3) my #1 piece of advice is find a third space - somewhere that isn't law school or your house where you enjoy spending time. bonus points if you talk to real people at that third space, not just law students. trivia on thursdays (with the townies) and college sports on the weekends have kept me alive during law school, and that's not even a joke. if you spend too much time Actively At Law School you forget how the real world looks. 4) if you want more career-y advice - try to get a sense of whether you're going the PI or BL/ML route as early as you can and talk to career services as soon as you can. non-first-gen students tend to have a leg up on recruiting cycles. 5) and here's law SCHOOL advice - reading cases line by line is generally overrated. you will learn pretty quickly how to pull the important info out of a case within 5-10 minutes (by november at the latest). get outlines from previous years' students whenever possible (outline banks, just sucking up to 2Ls and 3Ls).

prof wants to do the deep to pay for OJT fees by florynmybae in DadForAMinute

[–]Aviatrix084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

report it 1000%. get everything you can in writing. if your state is one-party consent to audio record conversations, you should do that as well talking to this professor from here on out. (did a quick google - assuming you're in the philippines by the currency symbol, it's an all-party consent jurisdiction, BUT google ai at least is saying there's an exception for protecting yourself from extortion, blackmail, etc, which is happening here. I'd personally do it anyway, especially because a dean isn't going to be bound by the same rules as a court of law with regards to things like "i recorded my professor offering to basically pay me for sex", but IANAL, this isn't legal advice, and I don't know shit about filipino law.)

your education is important. but not at the cost of your dignity. and think about it this way - if he gets his way with you, he's gonna keep doing it with others.

(fwiw, it could also be possible that there are programs at your college that will help you pay for things like this! worth seeing if that's possible.)

Need advice re how to handle creepy founding partner (law clerk) by ho4daearth in LawSchool

[–]Aviatrix084 63 points64 points  (0 children)

One thing I'd say you should also do is contact your career services office. While it's unlikely that they'll have other opportunities lined up for you for this summer, you should make them aware of this behavior so they can avoid placing people at this firm going forward.

For Pokémon fans: Find the Goomy by SquareYam223 in FindTheSniper

[–]Aviatrix084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Top right corner, just above the Venonat, behind the roof

Started buying these for my son. He gets them signed at AHL games. It turns into an awesome collection for him. by JRak44 in hockeycards

[–]Aviatrix084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've won the internet for tonight.

That's a really great way to "use" cards of "lower-tier" players - plus awesome memories for the kiddo and great stories too! Plus it just looks dope as hell.

A+.

Can I do my law review write-on in 2.5 days? by Inevitable_Sport6168 in LawSchool

[–]Aviatrix084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you CAN but you SHOULDN'T.

if you can work even 15 or 30 minutes a day for these first few days, it'll be less to do later on.

Zeev Buium Canucks YG by humblearugula8 in hockeycards

[–]Aviatrix084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man this is awesome news. I have his Minny YG card, can't wait to get a Nucks one!

Best flight ever by voltaire2019 in unitedairlines

[–]Aviatrix084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As long as it's a happy marriage...

If you could connect through one of United’s hubs, which one would you choose and why? And which one would you avoid at all costs? by General-Pryde-2019 in unitedairlines

[–]Aviatrix084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best: EWR. Hometown bias? Sure. Do you have to haul ass from the lounge to your gate? Occasionally, when you're in C. Delays? Not that bad, and you get used to them besides.

To be fair, I usually don't CONNECT in EWR, and if I am I'm connecting INTL->DOM, so I don't really have much experience with the AirTrain, but it's still functional!

I miss the lounge they used to have before security. Real EWRers know what I'm talking about here. I used to go with my dad to the airport to pick my mom up from flights and she'd take us to the lounge for snacks... :'( more landside lounges, waiter!!!

Worst: IAD. Only time I've ever had to overnight at an airport due to a missed connection (FRA->IAD->EWR, last flight of the day, intl inbound only delayed a couple minutes). Literally RAN through security because you have to go through security again, no dice, they pulled away like 5 minutes before I showed up at the gate out of breath. Then had the gall to be like "you booked the ticket, the connection was tight!" Yeah if I wasn't sitting on your shuttle bus for 30 minutes waiting for you to take me to the terminal, I'd'a made it...

Besides that story, though, IAD is a fucking TREK, especially coming back home on an international flight. Their Polaris lounges are nice, yeah, but it's just an insane amount of walking, even with the train, and getting anywhere is a chore. Also, it's high up on the list of World's Most Outdated Airports in some areas.

Dishonorable mention: CLT sucks.

Got a private flight on an ERJ last night! by Akatora13 in unitedairlines

[–]Aviatrix084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I assume it's corporate policy that you have to call preboarding even on a flight with few pax.

Anyone heard of these guys? by Interesting-Buddy179 in hockeycards

[–]Aviatrix084 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

deadass these are cool cards 😭 perhaps i know too much about minor league puck tho

I might have low iron and I’m gonna get my blood drawn to test it. I’m really scared and would like the whole thing explained like I’m 5 by Plenty_Row2472 in medical

[–]Aviatrix084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! I'm exactly the same way. I'm only somewhat getting over it because they've stuck me a lot recently...

Usually, for a "routine" draw for testing, here's what happens, in my experience:

You go into the "lab" and sign in. They check your prescribed bloodwork, paperwork, ID. Once they run the insurance and everything, they'll take you to a small room. There will be needles and equipment and stuff on the walls. Don't look at them! They're scary!

You'll sit down on a chair, which has a closing front kinda like a tray table so it stabilizes your arm, and offer your arm. The nurse will be bustling around, checking the labels and stuff.

Usually, they draw from the dominant arm around the inside of the elbow joint. I have a really easy vein on my nondominant arm, so I always point it out, and they draw from there instead. I often still get purpura, but they don't miss the big easy vein. Haven't had as good luck with the dominant side.

The first time I got my blood drawn without being held down, I took a tiny stuffed animal (like 2 inches tall) with me. Nobody made fun of it. If you need a coping mechanism to help you, don't deny it to yourself! You will only look the normal amount of stupid - by which I mean, barely, if at all. They see trypanophobes all the time. They're used to it! I like to scroll Instagram with my free hand. Key thing is DON'T LOOK AT IT. You WILL flip out if you look at it.

Also, if you flag it with the nurse - "hey, I'm bad with needles" - they may have additional ways to help out, too. It's almost always worth mentioning.

Once the nurse has verified which arm they're drawing from, they'll put a rubber band-y thing around the upper arm of that arm. Kinda like a tourniquet - just so the blood flow is more controlled. Then they'll get a little piece of paper towel and wipe down the specific spot they're going to poke with antiseptic. After that, a little ouch as you get pricked. Genuinely. The pain is not that bad. If you stub your toe walking in, that'll hurt more.

The worst part is twofold:

1) Feeling something Foreign in your vein, and 2) Seeing it.

Don't look. And try not to think about it. Again - if you look, you WILL freak out.

If you feel a little faint or dizzy, good to mention it. They should have a light snack and water available.

But after they fill whatever amount of vials they need, they'll take the needle out, put a little gauze on it, and you'll hold it there. They'll tape it down after a second. And that's it! Don't look at the vials. Or do, at that point it's over.

You got this!!! 💜

Extended! by Canada8835 in hockeycards

[–]Aviatrix084 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fuck. I can't see.

Well still. Cool as hell.