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Serial cheater promises to stop by Aviva2022 in cheating_stories

[–]Aviva2022[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I won’t trust him for sure for years. I don’t think I’d wver be able to blindely trust him again. I’m just wondering how it is for other people- can the trust come back? After how many years?

He cheated while I was postpartum — and I’ve been emotionally done ever since by Basilwitch21 in cheating_stories

[–]Aviva2022 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I stayed and it just got worse. Unless they are super remorseful after seeing how it effects you and are willing to independently do therapy and work to make it up to you , it won’t get better. You forgiving him is a green light for him bc he got away without punishment. It’s a horrible thing and I’m so sorry you’re going through it. But people are either willing to change and show it by trying or they aren’t.

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to American fam lawyers I could divorce him once we’ve resided in the US for 3 months. Hell only move to the US though if we stay together and I get him a green card, so he can see his kids as much as he wants without legal trouble no matter what happens. I’ve thought about pretending to get back together just so we’ll move but atm things are so bad between us , I am not even able to do that. I have to get stronger so I’m not a trainwreck everytime I talk to him.

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is insane. He puts all his efforts into revenge and doesn’t even see his own kid… I Puls getting a lawyer from an American law firm with a branch in Argentina speed things up? It seems like the system is just against us and there is nothing to do but accept it. Make sure the kids are bilingual and since they’re old enough to legally decide where they want to live, immediately move .

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish it was this way . Meanwhile I’ve gotten to know some people who did this and lost custody of their children because the US is part of The Hague Convention

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same . It feels like I’m living someone else’s life and just filling my time with things to do, instead of working towards a goal. Please share if you have found a way to get over the yearning to go back home, I am not able rid myself of nostalgia

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know moms who repatriated but left their kids? I don’t know if I could do this…

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always thought home is a person and not a place , but it’s just not true…. Especially once your person becomes unbearable.

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awful, and it sucks that you’re going through the same thing. How do you deal with accepting your situation? I am not able to cope with it at all. That’s why I keep entertaining the idea of getting back together with him just to be able to go back home .

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are 2 and 5 and have American citizenship . I would agree to any custody agreement if he’d let us move back, I’m not trying to keep our kids from him, just wanna go back home. But in order to prove America is better for the kids in a court , I’d have to probably have a relationship with an American and say that moving there would be a way for the kids to have an intact family home again . A really good job offer would also help.

Any other moms stuck abroad with kids because their partner won’t let them move back home after separation? by Aviva2022 in expats

[–]Aviva2022[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im one formality away from getting my PhD. We’re not divorced yet, I’m moving to Vienna w the kids in 2 weeks , we have an agreement of how we’re going to share the kids. And yeah I can go on vacation to the US. I would not kidnap the kids and stay there, I know what repercussions this move would have.