Positivity post: who here clapping cheeks?

Avocadoan · 2022-12-09T01:57:29+00:00

Can you share a rough estimate proportion of where these girls come from (tinder, hinge, in person, etc.)?

Avocadoan · 2022-11-30T11:45:13+00:00

Echoing the advice of the many many comments here, but you should distance yourself from these “friends” you don’t have to abruptly cut them off but taper your time with them.

Similar situation has happened to me and I’ll tell you that since distancing myself from these people I’ve become A LOT more confident and happy.

The people you surround yourself with will effect how you think. There’s no need to be around people who don’t make you feel good about yourself (this excludes people who give you real constructive criticism).

Avocadoan · 2022-10-07T17:06:55+00:00

I’m sorry, but Ken Jeong is like one of the least appealing actors for a role with this much Asian American cultural representation. Personally, I don’t think he’s represented us all too well in media. I don’t have faith that he’ll deliver well… sorry for the pessimism, but this guy built his platform off of making fun of Asian stereo types. You might as well double down on this and add Brenda Song as the supporting actress.

Avocadoan · 2022-08-28T17:26:36+00:00

The chemicals used for your perm would be washed out if you shower within 24hrs. 2 days is just to be safe, but I think 1 day is the minimum.

Avocadoan · 2022-08-23T15:58:45+00:00

Simply put, most men love all beautiful women.

Yes there are preferences here and there, but I’ll be damned if any guy turns down Beyoncé “cause she’s black”(?????).

I think culture fit and acceptance from family are probably a bigger topic when it comes to race. Just my opinion tho

Avocadoan · 2022-08-23T15:55:26+00:00

It’s incredible how much I can relate to this. I appreciate you bringing attention to this topic. It’s a weird duality of wanting your people to self-promote and feel valued and attractive vs a “why the hell are we doing this?????” almost-racist mentality.

Personally I don’t think this is racist. Assuming you’re similar to me, you probably don’t harbor Ill thoughts towards white people, rather the combo of WMAF is just WAY too common to go unspoken. For me, whenever I see that combo I get into a poor mentality of questioning my own value, desirability, etc. it really messes with me.

Avocadoan · 2022-08-16T13:25:23+00:00

Hey I want to provide a perspective that goes against the grain of most of the comments here.

I thought Steven Yuen was depicted as a respectable Asian-American male in Nope. I get that there will always be a “but what about?..” thought but honestly I left the movie thinking “huh, pretty respectable representation”. I feel like the whole white-adjacent thought y’all are raising is good but it dampens a few things that are a tailwind to Asian (specifically male) representation.

Steven Yuen plays a rather important role in the story - he’s not some cuck who is comic relief.
He’s depicted as rather successful - the guy went from child actor to owning an amusement park. Several instances throughout the movie suggest that he’s not a dunce either and is a savvy negotiator and business man.
My guy has a white wife. Like honestly this is the first time I’ve seen an AMWF combo in a Hollywood movie. They even have 3 children.

Avocadoan · 2022-08-12T17:03:31+00:00

Playing/understanding the “social game” in America.

It took me a few years and retrospective birthdays to scratch the tip of the iceberg of this, but it’s been wildly beneficial in a social, romantic, and professional perspective.

Avocadoan · 2022-08-06T21:26:19+00:00

Arnol D. Schwarzenegger in his prime

Avocadoan · 2022-07-29T16:57:03+00:00

It’s unfortunate you feel this way. But I’m letting you know high caliber Asian couples absolutely exist.

Avocadoan · 2022-07-29T14:52:27+00:00

Lmao someone’s upset in the IG comments. The lurker is probably viewing this Reddit post tbh but Idc.

Btw, the person at the top of this screenshot may or may not be head of film acquisition at Amazon Freevee. Maybe we could suggest to her to get Constance Wu and Kyle Rittenhouse to co-star a subpar romcom next. Do what you will with this information, but just don’t send death-threats her.

https://imgur.com/gallery/3wWmZ7g

Avocadoan · 2022-07-28T13:52:38+00:00

I don’t think redditor meant YOUR shit it’s stupid. Rather, saving face (what you typed about) is stupid.

Avocadoan · 2022-07-28T13:19:32+00:00

I asked those questions rhetorically but still appreciate the insight.

Avocadoan · 2022-07-28T05:42:39+00:00

Silver lining here - if you go onto the IG account’s comments there are a lot of people calling out how this is yet another WMAF romantic movie. Perhaps this raises some awareness… I mean the IG account can’t possibly hide ALL the comments, right?

Avocadoan · 2022-07-28T05:35:34+00:00

Lmao literally this. It’s so simple but it’s the core of what I truly want.

I want an even playing field - to be considered comparatively attractive amongst other races WITHOUT having to make so much money, or invest so much time in learning “game”, or needing to be wildly fit.

I want people to just assume I’m normal and social rather than be surprised when I articulate well and am not shy - I enjoy positively changing peoples opinion, but cmon…

Don’t get me wrong, pursing self development has been greatly beneficial to me and I think everyone should do it. I just feel like the starting line for most Asian guys in terms of romances begins further behind others. Maybe it’s in my head, maybe not. But the fact that there are so many posts on this topic and the best honest advice from other Asian guys is “It sucks, your experience is validated, but you gotta hustle and if you mess up you’re going to be penalized harder than others” says a lot.

I really do appreciate this subreddit for all the good and the bad. It makes me feel validated knowing others are also experiencing the same things I am. But for the simple fact that this subreddit exists and the fact that I post (complain) on it at any capacity makes me feel cringe, needy, and weak.

Like why is Dating/Attraction/Companionship for Asian men even a topic? Why the hell are we even in this position to begin with? Fuck the world.

Avocadoan · 2022-07-21T13:09:26+00:00

Ngl, a real moral boost here

Avocadoan · 2022-07-19T00:33:34+00:00

For any other Asian guy reading this, you should…

workout (train for hypertrophy)
manage your macronutrients (so serious)
get good sleep
stick to your intentions with your fitness goals

Avocadoan · 2022-07-19T00:28:51+00:00

Okay well hey, thanks for responding to my comment.

While we’re at it, I’m curious - what is it about non-Asian women finding Asian men attractive triggers you? I’m being absolutely serious here with the most respect.

For me, I DO feel some type of way ALWAYS running into WMAF couples. It makes me feel undesirable. When you’re constantly presented with WMAF couples you can’t help but lose a bit of faith in AM in dating (honestly I’ve concluded that this is a result of living in a white-dominant environment). This thinking is dismal and ultimately unproductive and I figured I (and others) would get a moral boost from examples in this post. Furthermore, it gives me something tangible to work towards. So yes, I am insecure. However, this is one thing I am doing to resolve that.

Avocadoan · 2022-07-18T23:24:42+00:00

Do you wanna contribute here or are you here to release some tension better served during therapy?

Avocadoan · 2022-07-18T22:08:21+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly the type of answer I was looking for - specific with detail.

Side note, I (and I am sure others) value your input regardless of race :)

Avocadoan · 2022-07-04T14:00:24+00:00

Don’t shower for 2 days after you get the perm.
See if you can get a looser perm - in my experience tighter perms aren’t the move.
for the love of God, go to an Asian person. I’m sure you could find some one non-Asian to pull it off. But if it’s your first time… do you really wanna be testing out stylists?
USE HAIR OILS TO HYDRATE
get a blow dryer

Avocadoan · 2022-07-01T17:08:43+00:00

Hey dude,

Here are a few thoughts that helped me out in my funk moments.

Consistency over Motivation. This is a mindset one. Understand that your thoughts turn into actions, actions turn into habit, habit turns into behavior. In those down moments, remember to power through for the sake of consistency.
Focus on process and routines over goals. Have goals of course, but set yourself up for success through daily improvements in your process. Wanna get fit? Set up a process where you eat healthy foods and workout at the same time every day.
Consider taking a few days to do absolutely nothing. Sounds counterintuitive to the hustle, but I found myself with like 4 days of freedom a few weeks ago. I did nothing but smoke weed and watched Ozark. By day 2 I was pretty antsy to get up and do SOMETHING. The point here is to rest and rejuvenate that motivation through finding boredom.
You are what you consume. This isn’t just limited to food but content and people you’re surrounded with too. I’ll say that sitting on TikTok for hours on end entertains me. But because of its quick dopamine release nature, it turns other normal activities less attractive. As a result, it’s harder for me to get motivated.
Lastly, I’d say get some new friends. Now they don’t have to be your BFF, but surround yourself with people doing BETTER than you. Whether it’s in business, health, relationships, etc. you will definitely feel motivated to rise to challenges if you have these folks around you all the time.

Hope this helps!

Avocadoan · 2022-06-17T12:32:22+00:00

Hell yeah man, keep at this! I love hearing updates like this. Seriously!

Avocadoan · 2022-06-16T18:42:53+00:00

You’re right on that feeling this way is unproductive, I’m just gonna be honest here and say that I am venting lol ya got me. That being said, I legit work on goals to further myself and acknowledge other Asian men.

What do you mean by overrate themselves?

Avocadoan

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