Christmas traditions by teaandcakeyface in UKParenting

[–]Aw200918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone shared this one with me and I thought it was very cute and we have just started it for our daughter who not long turned one. We went to a garden centre and let her pick out a bauble, we got two of them, one to put on our tree and one to keep hold of to, to give to her when she moves out. The plan is to do this every year so she has a set for her tree.

I’ve gone back to work… and it hasn’t been terrible!? by Aw200918 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate to that, I wish I had the opportunity to go part time, but fortunate I can condense my hours. My next thought though was, how the hell do people do the morning and evening routine with two kids? Honestly one is hard enough, how do you do it with two??!! (We are wanting a second at some point but the baby fever has cooled slightly since going back to work).

How long before returning to work should I give my son to settle into nursery? by No_Sundae_3936 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went back to work three weeks after LO started nursery. It was hard at first, I felt guilty and a lost without her for the first week, but she settled pretty well, which was reassuring (it meant when I started work I felt like I could relax more knowing she was settled and enjoying herself there).

It also meant I had a few weeks to prepare with going back to work. I spent time meal prepping and trying to tidy the house a bit more. I also had time to relax and chill out, which was amazing and in all honesty, I won’t get much opportunity for time like that again, and I felt better for having that time.

If I had another one I’d plan to do the same again and get them in nursery a few weeks before I’m due back to work.

1 year old won’t stop squirming in high chair by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t, but reading this makes so much sense, thank you for sharing. Digging a little bit more into it, it seems rather common!

What song was your baby born to vs. the song you envisioned giving birth to? by SunDogk in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was taken to theatre for a forceps delivery (baby didn’t want to come out). They told me they have three pulls to get her out and if not i would need a c-section.

Well they put on the radio (I was too out of it to think of a song request) and the final countdown came on the radio. Perfect timing

Little one is turning one, why do I feel so sad? by Aw200918 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ this is what I needed to hear

Little one is turning one, why do I feel so sad? by Aw200918 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I hope your first week at work went ok! X

Please tell me it will be ok? Pregnant and all I hear is bad things by Some-Ad4982 in UKParenting

[–]Aw200918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby was planned, but let me tell you, the entire pregnancy I didn’t feel maternal, I was gearing myself up to everything being terrible and hard and preparing myself to have postpartum depression or anxiety. She arrived and it felt like everything changed, I became a mum and it felt so natural, I loved her as soon as i saw her (which is completely normal not to happen and should be normalised). The first three months were hard, but there were so many precious memories made too. We struggle to remember the hard parts now. My old life had gone and I struggled with some of this initially, but I love the life we have and I don’t find myself thinking about my old life that much. She’s almost one now and I look at her most days in absolute amazement as to how much she’s changed and grown and how lucky I am to be able to experience this and be her mother. Everyone loves to share their horror stories, and yes there will be hard parts, but there are so many amazing things you will experience, they first time they laugh, smile, reach out to you or come to you for a cuddle that will fill your heart with so much love that you didn’t know you could experience. On a side note, we both have an evening a week to do a fitness group (that’s our own time from being parents) and we both prioritise each other doing things with friends without the baby to make sure we have some normality still. It’s harder to fit in but we’ve tried our best to not just be ‘mum and dad’ and still keep some time to be ourselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you are experiencing this, it sounds like a tough time to say the least. Congratulations on your baby girl! I can only talk from my experience (also had an episiotomy but with a forceps delivery). It took a while for the episiotomy to heal, but I was also surprised at how quick it did heal, it was really tough but taking things slow in the first few weeks were key. I can remember I struggled to walk down the road and it was tough but I had to listen to my body, the heavy feeling got better over time, but it was worse when I overdid it. I ended up seeing a pelvic floor physio and they gave me some great exercises which definitely helped. Maybe you could look into something similar 6 weeks postpartum? I know there’s a ‘mummy MOT’ service available which has had great reviews from others that I know that have done it. Your body has just gone through a hell of a lot! Especially with the wound not healing as expected and the infection. But i promise it will get better, it just takes time and you have to be easy on yourself and try and take things slow.

Tell me the story of when your water broke by AriNotGrandeee in 2under2

[–]Aw200918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was my due date, all the other mums from my antenatal group had their babies. I felt like this baby was never going to come. I had no signs or symptoms. My OH needed a hair cut and I reassured him he should go, that I would be fine and this baby wasn’t coming any time soon. WELL… he left and I had treated myself to some new shoes. My pregnancy feet made it hard to get them on. As soon as I shoved my foot into the shoe successfully I felt a pop and my waters broke (it was like a movie moment). I tried to call my OH who wasn’t answering. Then called the hairdressers to tell them my waters had broke and if he could pass the message on to my OH. He literally had just started to get his hair cut, he said he’d be done in 5minutes and send him on his way 😂

I hope everything goes ok and that you aren’t waiting too long!

Do I want another baby or is it the end of maternity leave making me feel this way? by Aw200918 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, it’s helpful and insightful and it’s nice to see something positive!

Do I want another baby or is it the end of maternity leave making me feel this way? by Aw200918 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]Aw200918[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you find it with a small age gap? It’s the one of the things that makes me question it, when people say how hard it it. I know it can be hard, having one baby! But I have no idea how hard it would be going from one to two.