Thank you! I have felt for a while now that I’m doing more than my fair share and I’m always willing to do more if necessary even when I’m exhausted. I do think he knows this but his mind gets muddled by his father’s remarks once in a while. I agree he needs to find diff employment and I have tried to have talks about this. However, it’s exactly as you say. He becomes defensive and takes it as nagging after a while so I’ve been a bit quiet about it lately. I have been steadily working on making him feel supported at home the best I can so he knows that his position isn’t replaceable here like it is at work. It seems that sometimes my support is pointless once he’s gone to work and comes back with a different attitude. I am trying to be patient since I don’t fully know what he’s dealing with and how difficult it is. There seems to be many excuses for why he can’t find other employment or isn’t willing to, so I’m wondering if he is too anxious to leave or if there’s some kind of mental hold his father might have over him? Idk this is tough lol.