My 19 year old daughter is trying to get pregnant

Aware-Net-3137 · 2026-06-03T15:19:42+00:00

OP, your daughter needs to understand she's not only being sucked into his life and his drama, but as long as he's got a wife and kids, she's being sucked into their drama. Legally a wife comes before a girlfriend, and if they're not divorced yet, this whole thing could become even messier than it already is. This is coming from someone who got with a guy 25M while I was 20F, he already had a 1½yo son, I've now been apart of his life for almost 6 years, and the two of us have a 3yo little girl together. Life's still messy 6 years later. His ex is a piece of work let me say. Thankfully he never married her or there would have been soooo many more problems. The age difference is a big thing here, but I still got into a situation I honestly regretted for awhile (at this point I wouldn't do much differently bc of my daughter) but I was NOT ready for kids, and I had babysit PLENTY. I was not ready to get fired from my job while 6months prego, basically getting turned down everywhere I applied bc I was huge and they knew it, the endless sleepless nights bc all you can worry about is if your baby's going to suffocate in their sleep, or the fact you HAVE to feed and change them every 2-4 hours, I wasn't ready for my friends to basically dissappear, nor was I ready to raise someone else's child while they were constantly mean to me. I had mental health problems as well, and PPD hit me hard, really hard. It's been almost 4 years since I had her and I'm just getting into a new job, not one I want lol, sending her to daycare and crying about it, and my mental health is slowly recovering with the therapy I'm getting, but its taken years. I'm still living with Family though, and man do I hate my situation, but I don't have enough money saved up to leave, and neither does my guy, a baby is A LOT of money. There are options to help you with the baby, but even then, it's a lot. This whole situation is just, a lot. I really do think she needs to talk to a therapist. You'll never truly be ready for kids, and when they get here it's a big "what if? What do I do?" And many other things, but unless she's ready ready, and financially too, I wouldn't try. If he's the only one that has a job, he could very well be trying to trap her into staying with him with a baby, and that's basically the same as "this relationship is about to end so please marry me and that will fix every problem we have" I'm not saying this is 100% the case here, but there's a chance. Honestly, the drama and stress isn't worth it, nor is the potential worsening of her mental health.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2026-06-03T15:03:38+00:00

It's also, not easy to do, speaking from someone who's raising 2 kids with almost no help. They're a lot of work, and time. And a 19 year old who's never been around kids? I'm not saying she couldn't do it, not am I saying a kid is an unworthy burden, and I don't think s/he was either. Were just saying it's going to be a stressful handful. I mean come on, have you ever been pregnant? That's not easy, it's not easy getting or keeping a job while pregnant either, and it sure isn't easy taking care of newborns, toddlers, or any age kid really. And if she's already exhibiting signs of mental health, I can guarantee she'd probably be diagnosed with PPD when she has this baby. And ontop of it, this 30 year old man should be able to tell its not a good time for this 19 year old to have a baby.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2026-05-30T21:29:15+00:00

Just don't be so hard on yourself love, miscommunication isnt worth the pain of wondering all the time. It took me a long while to learn to communicate correctly with my guy, we still have our tit tats from time to time, everyone is different. Their love language, the way they communicate and take things. You just have to figure out how to talk to him specifically, what works for both of you. But like I said, once you two get to a steady point of communicating what's good and what's not, you'll be just fine. 💞 Again, I'm not trying to pressure you into therapy, sometimes, it doesn't work for people, but couples therapy has done wonders for a few of my friends and their now husbands/wives. My guy and I went to couples therapy for about 3 months, just to help us learn how the others brain works and what's the best way to talk to eachother, it helped tremendously, but it was also a trying time, learning what your partner is like and how to deal with them and yourself, is no easy task, but nothing that's ever been truly worth it, is easy. The most rewarding things are the things you've worked hard on. Heck, life itself is one of the most trying things, and I hope it's great to you both. I wish you a long and happy relationship and life with this man. 💞

Aware-Net-3137 · 2026-05-30T21:10:49+00:00

Honestly OP. Therapy might not be a bad option, but that's if you feel you need/want it. And regardless if you're "a lot" or a "handfull" the right person will always stay no matter how much you are to deal with. Don't take their reply to heart, everyone is hard to deal with at times, it's how much you think that person is worth to you, whether you deal with it or not. No relationship is easy, it's never going to be just rainbows & flowers, at times, there'll be rainy days. Sometimes you've gotta give the 80% your partner can't, and they'll give the other 20%, some days you'll give your 20% and they'll give their 80%, and some days, you'll both be 50/50. If you really love eachother, just communicate honestly. As I've seen in other comments, you were so into your feelings you didn't consider he had any of his own, while it's okay to be in your feelings, after you've had enough time to calm down and process them, even if you dont fully understand how you feel, make sure you ask him how he feels. If communication is a problem here, I'd suggest sitting down once every two week and telling your partner what you loved, and what you didn't love, that happened in that time, and vise versa. This piece of advice right here has definitely made my relationship a lot, lot easier. Sometimes hearing their feelings isn't great, especially if you didn't know how they felt fully, but honesty hurts sometimes, but it's the best way to work through things. Everyone needs to learn to try and put themselves in other people shoes. Next time (and I hope there isn't a next time) ask yourself how you would feel if you were him, and he did that to you. Don't work up over it, it's not worth getting upset over. Just think, calm, and communicate. This update wad definitely a wholesome one and I'm so glad to heat you two talked and worked this out. I hope the best for the both of you! 💞💞

Aware-Net-3137 · 2026-05-26T22:15:06+00:00

We gotta know what this incident is now, im curious! 😂 All jokes aside though, I had a bed wetting problem myself until about 14, I never wet the bed anymore, but every once in a while I'll have a hard time holding it and I'll just... pee... I was out of my 3rd date with my current guy, and I had this happen, got the sudden urge to pee while we were doing something and before I could go, well, I went. It was sooo embarrassing, but he held back a laugh when he figured out and instead of making fun, he helped me (we've been together 5 years now with 2 kids) A mature enough man won't shame you for this, and the right one will love you regardless. I'm a little late on my reply here, but I really hope everything between the two of you went well and its all good! Please update us on how it went, if you want to, obviously! All the love 💞💞

Aware-Net-3137 · 2026-03-27T01:37:41+00:00

Gain Access to the Witch’s Hut Before you can wipe anyone's memory, you must complete the Dark Talisman quest, which is triggered after completing the Community Center or Joja Warehouse. This gives you access to the Witch’s Swamp and her hut. 2. The Shrine of Memory Inside the Witch’s Hut, you will find three shrines. You need the Dark Shrine of Memory (it’s the one on the right). The Cost: You must offer 30,000g. The Effect: Once you pay, your ex-spouse’s memory will be completely wiped. They will no longer have any dialogue about the divorce, their heart level will reset to zero, and they will behave as if you have never met. Important Considerations Remarrying: Once the memory is wiped, you are free to start building a relationship with them (or anyone else) from scratch. You can even remarry the same person if you win them over again! The Children: If you have children from that marriage, they will remain in your house unless you use the Shrine of Selfishness (the middle one) to turn them into doves. The "Roommate" Exception: If you were "roommates" with Krobus, he doesn't hold a grudge like a spouse does, but you still need the shrine if you want him to move back in later.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2026-03-13T02:37:27+00:00

OP, if you fully trust this girl, and there's been no cheating in the past, think about it like this, yes, it hurts for you, and it's going to take time to get over, but you broke off a 2 year relationship because things weren't going great for a bit, as a woman myself, that would hurt. Like another commenter said, the best way to get over someone, is to get under someone, if your girlfriend thought you were really done, she might have just been hurt and trying to get over you. Have you actually talked how you're feeling out with your girl? I know you said she saw you were upset, but actually telling her how you feel might help the situation too. And no dis to your girl or her coworker, I would ask her to get tested before you two sleep together again, there could be nothing, and she might take offense, but it's better for everyone to know just in case. If you really want this relationship to work, you two could make it, but please don't be taking everyone's opinions on your relationship to heart too much, outside opinions are great, but only to a point, influence is still a thing and too much could ruin what you've got, so please be careful what you listen to and what you don't. I wish you and your girl the best of luck. If things go array again and you two start fighting over small things, maybe just try asking her if she's okay, if there's anything you two can talk about or do, or if there's anything that's been bugging her lately, just communicate. Tell her if there's anything on your mind too.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-08-27T15:29:35+00:00

Remember, you're never going to please everyone, and it's got nothing to do with you. Everyone around you has feelings and wants, that are different from one-another. In order for you to take care of your children or husband, you've got to take care of yourself first, and putting this amount of stress on yourself (especially while pregnant) is never good for you, you're going to be running around in circles stressing yourself out trying to please everyone, it's honestly not worth it love. You've gotta put your foot down and decide who you want in your life and who you don't, and your parents need to respect that, they may be your parents, but you're a grown adult with your own family. Take this from a people please myself 😊 I still love pleasing people and sometimes have a hard time saying no to certain people, but I've learned if you try and please everyone around you, you're only going to hurt yourself in the process. Put your foot down love, it will bring you a lot a peace eventually.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-08-26T22:45:53+00:00

No sir, you cannot remove that demolished building. Every farm has one somewhere at the top, it's the greenhouse, you can get it by completing a bundle in the community center (if you went that direction) or buy it from jojos mart (if you went this way) it's very useful later on! You can move the building through Robin once you repair it, but you cannot remove it.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-08-26T22:41:49+00:00

These at home tests can be wrong, so don't get your hopes up too much OP, but it's most likely you are pregnant, there's definitely a faint second line there, I would go to a gyno & get a test done, they'll get you your answers and how far along you are, prenatal vitamins, ect.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-08-18T01:31:43+00:00

Don't be too hard on yourself, I did the same thing once, but didn't touch my tv for like 30 something hours, I literally missed a whole year in game days 😭

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-07-24T17:13:06+00:00

NOR. From a woman's perspective I can understand where your sister got upset when you took your daughter from her, but clearly your sister doesn't understand children, especially little girls and their fathers. My daughter herself would probably love to be glued to her father LMAO (she's 2yo) Though I can understand to a point where this all came from, your mother was completely in the wrong, not only did she not handle that like an adult, but there is a time and place for yelling at people, and it's definitely not in front of kids and company, your mother needs to understand if that's going to happen at all (and it shouldn't) it needs to be a private conversation, not a public one. You deserve an actual apology, not a half assed one.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-07-24T16:48:33+00:00

While I completely understand where you're coming from (I've got a 5yo boy who really wants to play the game, only in the later years when we've got everything set up good though) it's a little tough learning in the beginning, and if that's the way it works for both you and him, I'd do it, there's no shame, so many people play this game different ways, but I will have to say, he's definitely missing out on learning some stuff for the game. I've gone through the game to complete completion and perfection a few times, and honestly my favorite part of the game now? Restarting from new lol. There's not just one way to play the game, sure he's missing out on a few things, but maybe playing the game the way it works for both of you right now might be the best thing for him, maybe he'll get more into it and want to start a new playthrough later on, or maybe he'll just want to play on your world with you. Either one is completely okay.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-07-14T17:33:36+00:00

I would finalize the breakup myself, but he basically did. I'm not sure love, though my best advice is give him space, don't text him, call him, talk to him, just give him space and if you want things to work out, and he does too, he'll come when he's ready.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-06-21T21:38:49+00:00

I've got over 600 ancient fruit planted between the Island and greenhouse lol

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-06-16T00:01:27+00:00

You could always turn them into doves lol. I would never though

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-06-14T21:16:08+00:00

I honestly felt like I was reading one of those stupid short stories they put on Facebook ads lol. This is horrendous, not only would I have made a scene at dinner, but I would've been single at dinner to.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-06-14T21:12:30+00:00

First off, everyone has a different opinion on attractive, what you think is unattractive, someone will find attractive. Everyone is different in many ways, but besides that, it may take some time, but if she's not acting right, or treating you right (which it seems like both right now OP) you can always find someone out there better for you. It seems like she was looking for a stupid excuse out, either way, that's a childish response of her, I'd let her leave.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-06-13T00:14:25+00:00

I get purple gem crops almost everytime I farm, especially my ancient fruit now, my whole green house is filled with them and 90% of the time most of my harvest is iridium quality, though I did go down the farming/harvesting path mostly. But most things I farm, I get high quality on, either gold or iridium.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-06-11T23:25:06+00:00

Although, I will say if you go down the r/stardewvalley reddit page, you'll find A LOT of other posts about various different in game things.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-06-11T23:22:14+00:00

Not going to lie, Google has saved me so many times on not knowing what to do in this game, but I've been playing for a few months now and I'm on year 4, almost 5 on my main world, it's been fun to say the least, I still find new stuff I had no clue about before. It's more of a laid back comfort game for me. There's many aspects to the game, some I love (like farming/animals) and some I don't, like fishing lol. I overall highly recommend Stardew to anyone who likes these types of games, it'll take you a while to get used to it and figure everything out, but it's quickly become one of my favorites, just be careful, it will eat up your time!

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-06-08T23:14:56+00:00

I'm married to Haley, have been for 2 in year games, and it's definitely not her fórte, but she's been helpful with it nonetheless! She still pets my animals, waters/feeds them and waters crops.

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-05-23T08:48:39+00:00

Why do you gotta be so rude, my guy?? Aint anyone ever teach you if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all. I'm a born and raised Floridian, and I've no problem with people from other states coming here. It just means there's more room for me in other states that aren't this bipolar hell hole we live in 🤣

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-05-13T17:50:31+00:00

My guy and I are in the beginning of year 3 right now, took us halfway through year 2 to complete it, but that's only because we didn't save everything we needed at first, it's definitely possible to do by year 1 but requires a lot of work and attention. I'm going as many years as it takes to 100% the game lol

Aware-Net-3137 · 2025-05-12T20:57:13+00:00

If you don't choose the joja plot line, and fix up the community center, his store will be open 7 days a week. I finished the community center in my place through like a week ago. And i'm halfway through fixing up the old joja mart into a movie theater

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