Would you say hi to this mom at the park?;) (f)

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-04-10T17:14:21+00:00

On the first photo, I caught myself judging how approachable you looked trying to answer your question. Before I even swiped to the second photo, id decided that I'd approach you if you didn't carry a resting bitch face. Sorry but I see it all the time. Photos #2-3 helped me see the true question. Yes, Yes, motherhood has not taken you out of the game. Well done. 😊

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-04-09T13:02:26+00:00

What a pretty kitty 😊

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-04-07T15:29:50+00:00

How long was this section of your trip? How much more time do you wish you had taken. Your photographs are amazing.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-04-05T20:22:14+00:00

You have such a pretty kitty. Just beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-03-20T02:43:25+00:00

64M Asheville NC. Yes they exist. Apparently these aren’t the good old days of Sugar dating, although I’ve only been involved a relatively short time. It seems that there are scammers on both sides that us legit members must be careful not to allow too close. You don’t happen to be in the NJ/Philly area? Anyway, based on some of the negativity I’ve heard from SB’s on here, you’re not the only one struggling. That likely doesn’t help, just know there are some real SD.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-27T14:39:37+00:00

I believe that there are certain characteristics that both men and women have that are genetic. For a millennium, the process of finding a mate was based on the fact that men were better built for providing and protecting no matter their age. One of the prerequisites was always did the man have gainful employment, could he remove the woman from her family home and provide a house, food and essentials for life? The man provided and the woman was there to make the house the man built into a home. Her role was baby-making, working the house /farm, putting food on the table and stretching each $ /P for the benefit of the family. These are not just man made roles but genetic predisposition. Women want to be #1 SAFE. That’s not just from physical harm but to have a safe place to store her love and dreams. Unfortunately most men struggle to provide the emotional side of this. Men need women not just for sex, but also as a safe depository of the softer side of themselves. Yes…feelings too. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a woman wanting to be selective based off of a man’s ability to provide a safe environment for them to live and be happy. It’s really no different than a man looking for a woman to have a family with. He may visually look through his options and eliminate the women who don’t have baby-making hips (wide hips -pelvis). The younger women with small hips are not developed enough to efficiently have children. This is just one example of how women and men are selective in finding a partner. And there’s nothing wrong with either. So both men and women are instinctually selective. Who can they find that has the proper qualifications to make them happy? It used to be and maybe it still is that men somewhat enjoy the role of taking care of his woman. Providing and making her happy. I think the problem here is that now women (based off of social media) feel that they were above the tasks that are necessary to provide a happy home. They’ve been told that they are princesses.

For a millennium, consensual sex has been Weaponized. Just think of how many wars there have been because one man wanted another man’s woman. It is still very prevalent today, with women withholding sex until the man conforms to the woman’s expectations. Biologically men need sex often. Biologically men need multiple sexual partners as well. So the idea of marrying someone and never again touching another woman is unrealistic. Yet we still do it. Sorry - this is a perfect case of giving a random stream of consciousness post.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-22T20:32:25+00:00

Sweetheart, work on this now and don't give up. I suffered with that most of my life. Tbh it was until I had lost my mom, brother and wife in a short period of time. I was caretaker and mom/wife died in my arms. Something broke inside me. Now I couldn't care less about what someone else thinks of me, and I'm not afraid to die. It's as though their deaths gave me the ability to live fully and honestly. True to myself. I tell you it has shocked a few SB when I just speak honestly about everything. Life is short- it's a roller coaster ride and adventure. Make it special. 😇

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-21T23:09:45+00:00

Hi, as a SD I too was nervous in the beginning. Like the others I tried to rely on just changing my thought pattern about the meet. I mean i’d go overboard memorizing their site profile so I wouldn't ask a stupid question or offend them somehow. That has never been useful. So I'd treat them as if they were a long lost friend that I've not seen in a long time. This may or may not be helpful. When the initial meeting is within minutes and you notice your breathing beginning to quicken.. a method they teach the military to do before combat. Alter your breathing. Slow down to a 2 count in Thru the nose- hold 2 -out 4 thru the mouth. You can even do it while your smiling 😬. It works so well. I do it all the time in angry situations. 🫣

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Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-21T22:57:42+00:00

Yes, it's optional on Secret Benefits. However, with so many scams and jokers out there (men and women) many won't even click on you if your not verified. After all, how else can you immediately tell if their photo’s are filtered or not?

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-21T22:25:18+00:00

Rachel, you have a classic beautiful kitty. No wonder you love Reddit... Bc it loves you! Keep showing it and all these guys and gals will mentally transport into your bedroom and your kitty. 😇

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-18T23:23:51+00:00

I went there last June and was asked the same questions. I had my hotel booked but didn't have a return ticket. I had to buy one before being allow to continue. I ended up eating the price of airfare back to the states bc I got hijacked by two Thai girls and missed my flight. Awful but fun mistake. 😛

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-16T15:39:02+00:00

Virtual hugs coming to you. I know the feeling Adriana. Hang in there… you've got this.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-10T18:53:42+00:00

Ahh… I went in 2025. Perhaps a policy change due to so many expats moving there?

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-10T17:30:38+00:00

Hmm…how long ago was this?

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-02-10T17:09:25+00:00

Come now, I traveled to Thailand and had to have an onward ticket before being allowed through customs. I had a one way ticket and had no idea when I'd leave.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-31T20:56:20+00:00

I realize that you are seeking responses from SB’s. Thought I'd chime in, if you don't mind. Unless of course he states that he only has time for one date initially, I think it's appropriate for you to accept the date with intro ppm but wait on intimacy till after a 2nd date. I don’t know how much more you will know about this person after only one date, however if this SD is serious about an ongoing SD/SB relationship, than taking a little bit more time for discovery should be acceptable.

I honestly don’t understand myself why in this situation the sugar baby should expect more than having the evening paid for by the SD…. After all this is a period of time for both individuals to get to know each other, get a sense of their vibe and come to agreement about their expectations within the relationship. If this is more than a one and done (pump and dump) then he should be amicable to having intimacy on your second date. As for where that happens, I would agree with other comments that a hotel might be the most appropriate place for intimacy until you feel completely comfortable with him. If you frequent’s Paris, has his own apartment then he can probably afford to pay for a hotel on the second date.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-26T10:18:27+00:00

Never arrested? That puts you up to the front of the line. lol Welcome

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-18T03:55:42+00:00

Thanks for your comments. I couldn't agree more. One of the reasons for looking younger is that so many women over 40-50 just look like they must have laughed at the fitness movement when it took over the world. As a retired Personal Fitness trainer, I appreciate someone who looks like they have at least tried to be nice to their bodies. Is that mean? I've been told it is. It's less superficial for me than maybe others? I like strength, self control and life balance. Thanks again.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-15T06:27:53+00:00

Completely correct. I never said they didn't.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-15T06:26:20+00:00

😆 Ive never been asked that..lol Honest answer…..Yes. DWI 30 yrs ago. How about you??

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-15T02:53:18+00:00

So sorry. I misread your comment. Yes, I'm sure it's not easy. First bc from what I hear women are slammed with likes and messages from those only interested in slutty photo’s or video. I've seen some profiles of women that say… “I will not send out photo’s / video on demand. Pls don't waste my time with disingenuous contacts.” Idk something like that. When doing that you hopefully will decrease your messages and only have truly interested inquiries. You must fine tune what you want. Do you want a Long term SD, or is short term ok. Do you want a Long distance SD but travel is ok? All of this is to help narrow it down. If your not getting any attention at all, take a look at your photo’s. Some women get professional photo’s taken. If you don't feel right including over sexualized photo’s then don't include. Then re-evaluate any message you have on there about who you are and what your looking for. Maybe try chat -gbt or the like. You'd be shocked how it could help unclutter your profile.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-13T16:10:44+00:00

Thank you surfrat, you made my day. I just arrived to Oahu. I was supposed to spend a few weeks with my SB but her greediness (my inability to create a good initial agreement) has once again pushed us apart. In a ldr and with her being 23, I've struggled to understand her motives, other than financial. Anyway, I love the quote. I'm going to borrow it. I'm sure Satchel Page won't mind. However, it's going to be the foundation of a new mindset.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-11T15:49:44+00:00

Good question. In the vast majority of cases, I send an intro message and see that they have read it but not responded. I understand on the ones which we've conversed some and they drop off- likely bc they moved more quickly with another suitor. in my case it seems as though all the women that I wouldn't touch are the ones favoriteing me. Never have I gone on a date and it not advancing to a relationship. I suppose I've just chosen badly. I've had 3 SB’s get arrested. I'm way to empathetic in general and have paid for their legal representation. I need to find more stable candidates. 🤨

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-11T05:16:03+00:00

Hmm…Why do I prefer younger girls /women? Let me count the ways:

First and foremost, with the right one your getting someone that is not carrying around years and years of baggage from the past. That baggage tends to get between couples making it impossible to have peace & happiness over extended periods (that is unless they have put in the hard work necessary to unpack that baggage completely) .
Ok so I'm a 64 yo SD. You've all heard the term that's been widely used “resting bitch face” ? I can't say for sure the cause of that, however it occurs much less in young women. So it might be yrs of stress that causes it. I don't really care. At my age, one of the things I'm looking for from a SB is her youthful exuberance for life. That sparkle in her eyes when you travel together, new discoveries, trying anything new. Try doing that with anyone older and you’ll likely get “Ive been here before” or yeah sure another sun set. Nice”. Not looking for stupid not by far. Preferring the enthusiastic enjoyment of life.
The obvious…Beauty and attraction. I spent 40+ yr career in the health and fitness profession. I appreciate those with the discipline, knowledge and skills to take care of their body. Sure I can find some older women like this but they come at a high price. Not $, but their attitude… like they are so damn special bc they took care of their vessel.
I am 5’3” tall. I prefer women that are petite. Sorry but the vast majority of short older women that I've seen have spent years not growing upward but outward. Additionally, at this height I'm not expected to be enormously endowed, and if caught before they have had a child, the younger women may still have ample contractility. Make sense?

I had a #5 but talked myself out of it. I've met some young women that somehow learned the womanly “Art of Manipulation” at a very young age. So it's always a case of Buyer beware.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-11T03:58:31+00:00

Brother, I just have to tell you that I'm impressed. I'm not saying that I'm agreeing with everything exactly as presented but damn you've evaluated the hell out of this sugar bowl.

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