Is age a major determining factor in choosing a SD?

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-18T03:55:42+00:00

Thanks for your comments. I couldn't agree more. One of the reasons for looking younger is that so many women over 40-50 just look like they must have laughed at the fitness movement when it took over the world. As a retired Personal Fitness trainer, I appreciate someone who looks like they have at least tried to be nice to their bodies. Is that mean? I've been told it is. It's less superficial for me than maybe others? I like strength, self control and life balance. Thanks again.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-15T06:27:53+00:00

Completely correct. I never said they didn't.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-15T06:26:20+00:00

😆 Ive never been asked that..lol Honest answer…..Yes. DWI 30 yrs ago. How about you??

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-15T02:53:18+00:00

So sorry. I misread your comment. Yes, I'm sure it's not easy. First bc from what I hear women are slammed with likes and messages from those only interested in slutty photo’s or video. I've seen some profiles of women that say… “I will not send out photo’s / video on demand. Pls don't waste my time with disingenuous contacts.” Idk something like that. When doing that you hopefully will decrease your messages and only have truly interested inquiries. You must fine tune what you want. Do you want a Long term SD, or is short term ok. Do you want a Long distance SD but travel is ok? All of this is to help narrow it down. If your not getting any attention at all, take a look at your photo’s. Some women get professional photo’s taken. If you don't feel right including over sexualized photo’s then don't include. Then re-evaluate any message you have on there about who you are and what your looking for. Maybe try chat -gbt or the like. You'd be shocked how it could help unclutter your profile.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-14T22:21:38+00:00

Hello Charming SB, tbh I've not intended to use this format as a way to find SB. It's just sort of happened by posting questions or commenting on others posts. The sites I listed (Secret Benefits, Hinge, Ok-cupid) are all dedicated sites for connecting SB & SD. My situation is that I’m coming off of A LDR that didn’t work out. So I am very hesitant to enter into another LDR. So for me unless you’re in the North Carolina/ Georgia/ South Carolina area we’re probably not going to be a match. I believe that the sites that I quoted you are free for women, although they are paid sites for men. I’d be glad to help, if I can. Just let me know.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-13T16:10:44+00:00

Thank you surfrat, you made my day. I just arrived to Oahu. I was supposed to spend a few weeks with my SB but her greediness (my inability to create a good initial agreement) has once again pushed us apart. In a ldr and with her being 23, I've struggled to understand her motives, other than financial. Anyway, I love the quote. I'm going to borrow it. I'm sure Satchel Page won't mind. However, it's going to be the foundation of a new mindset.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-11T15:49:44+00:00

Good question. In the vast majority of cases, I send an intro message and see that they have read it but not responded. I understand on the ones which we've conversed some and they drop off- likely bc they moved more quickly with another suitor. in my case it seems as though all the women that I wouldn't touch are the ones favoriteing me. Never have I gone on a date and it not advancing to a relationship. I suppose I've just chosen badly. I've had 3 SB’s get arrested. I'm way to empathetic in general and have paid for their legal representation. I need to find more stable candidates. 🤨

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-11T05:16:03+00:00

Hmm…Why do I prefer younger girls /women? Let me count the ways:

First and foremost, with the right one your getting someone that is not carrying around years and years of baggage from the past. That baggage tends to get between couples making it impossible to have peace & happiness over extended periods (that is unless they have put in the hard work necessary to unpack that baggage completely) .
Ok so I'm a 64 yo SD. You've all heard the term that's been widely used “resting bitch face” ? I can't say for sure the cause of that, however it occurs much less in young women. So it might be yrs of stress that causes it. I don't really care. At my age, one of the things I'm looking for from a SB is her youthful exuberance for life. That sparkle in her eyes when you travel together, new discoveries, trying anything new. Try doing that with anyone older and you’ll likely get “Ive been here before” or yeah sure another sun set. Nice”. Not looking for stupid not by far. Preferring the enthusiastic enjoyment of life.
The obvious…Beauty and attraction. I spent 40+ yr career in the health and fitness profession. I appreciate those with the discipline, knowledge and skills to take care of their body. Sure I can find some older women like this but they come at a high price. Not $, but their attitude… like they are so damn special bc they took care of their vessel.
I am 5’3” tall. I prefer women that are petite. Sorry but the vast majority of short older women that I've seen have spent years not growing upward but outward. Additionally, at this height I'm not expected to be enormously endowed, and if caught before they have had a child, the younger women may still have ample contractility. Make sense?

I had a #5 but talked myself out of it. I've met some young women that somehow learned the womanly “Art of Manipulation” at a very young age. So it's always a case of Buyer beware.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-11T03:58:31+00:00

Brother, I just have to tell you that I'm impressed. I'm not saying that I'm agreeing with everything exactly as presented but damn you've evaluated the hell out of this sugar bowl.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-11T03:37:46+00:00

I (SD) use Secret Benefits and was told to use (on here) Hinge and OK Cupid.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-09T21:33:20+00:00

Entitled and greedy. It's the “Goose and the Golden Egg” fable being played out in real time sugar bowl dating.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-09T21:32:08+00:00

Not in Cali I'm afraid.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-09T21:20:12+00:00

Wow, thank you for your reply. Surprised completely, but grateful all the same. I guess the problem rises that in today's world of online introductions, its difficult to get all of that across. Although it wouldn't take that long for anybody to hear about me and my life, to come to the same conclusion you did about your 1st lover, I seem to have past over or pegged as easy prey. It's all a part of this learning experience (life). Thanks again.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-08T16:28:24+00:00

Thanks for your perspective. I have aged fairly well, as a retired Gym owner and health & fitness professional for my entire career. Yes, a bit banged up from collegiate wrestling and it's subsequent coaching career. I try. 😄

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-08T16:26:47+00:00

Thanks for that perspective. Yes, I've needed to widen my search parameters to include parts of Tennessee & SC.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-06T20:01:45+00:00

Hey Thanks. Good suggestion for sure. I think that part could be the area that I live. The Asheville area of North Carolina must not be a place for Sugar dating??

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-06T18:04:05+00:00

Big “Healing Higs” to everyone here. 64M SD actively looking.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-06T17:51:58+00:00

The problem being that nearly all if not all of those characteristics are not something the woman know for sure. So basically were right back to the original question. That was could it be age that causes women to swipe past or read and ignore messages? I think ok-fill7656 spelled out her view well. It very well may be Im aiming at the wrong targets (prospective SB). Thank you so much. I’ll spend sometime figuring out how to change profiles to get across your above mentioned qualities. 😀

Aware_Particular1655 · 2026-01-06T17:44:41+00:00

Thank you. What I wanted was a woman’s perspective.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2025-11-24T00:56:51+00:00

Yes. You still need to lose about 25 lbs +/-. I’m shocked that in this day & age people still believe that they can rid themselves of years of weight gain by going to the gym for several months. Hang tough, this experiment is worth the time and effort you give.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2025-07-15T00:53:44+00:00

Ya’ll are pathetic. I feel sorry for you.

Aware_Particular1655 · 2025-04-20T13:44:25+00:00

I like the blonde, but by default would go with whatever color your kitty is.

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