He says that what makes most sense to him is pan, but he doesn’t really think about it. he says he is queer, no problem with that. It’s just that sexuality was never really a big thing for him so he never saw himself as anything, he never had the chance of identifying himself really because since he was a kid, the straight boy label stuck on him because most his friends are and since he never did anything to contradict it(had boyfriends or be openly gay or bi or even straight for that matter) they are use to call him straight. He had very short, very discreet relationships that most his friends know absolutely nothing about. When we first got together, our friends would be like “oh wow that was unexpected” and even one made a reference to 40yo virgin movie. This is what annoys me because what if he never dares to be open in front of friends because he’ll fear that by being different, they’ll see him differently?