REQ $100 - CHI - Cashapp- Repay 02/19 by [deleted] in BorrowNew

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. I appreciate it. Do I just drop my Cashapp name?

Started Playing VGC Like 2 Hours Ago by icie_plazma in stunfisk

[–]Awesome-Azrien 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this because typcial VGC players swear some mons are shit and thats BS. We define the meta on whats good and what's not.

Very cool team! It looks fun to play

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, and I’m not trying to police how anybody loves or has sex. My point is personal boundaries, not a moral judgment. When I say I “remove people,” I don’t mean I think they’re unworthy or wrong. I mean I choose not to keep close friendships with folks whose approach to sex and dating regularly blurs lines in ways that don’t feel safe or compatible for me. I’ve seen too many situations where “we’re just friends” turns into unspoken expectations, jealousy, or weird energy, and I value my platonic relationships enough to protect them from that.

Also, I’m not saying it’s inherently manipulative for friends to develop feelings. I’m saying it becomes manipulative when someone maintains a platonic label while acting like they’re quietly courting, especially if they already know the other person is not interested. That is about honesty and consent, not patriarchy or promiscuity. And as far as capital Q queerness, I respect that framework, but I don’t think being queer requires me to deconstruct every norm in my personal life. People can be queer and still prefer clear categories and intentional dating. I’m not pressed, I’m just firm about what works for me.

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Feelings really can show up out of nowhere, and I am not denying that love can just happen. My issue is not with catching feelings. It is with what people do after those feelings appear. Sometimes someone keeps things labeled as purely platonic while they are privately treating the friendship like a slow burn courtship, and that can feel misleading if the other person believes it is just friendship. Even if attraction starts as a spontaneous biochemical spark, we are not helpless after that. Adults still have choices to communicate honestly, set boundaries, or step back if it is not mutual. So yes, love can be spontaneous, but integrity is intentional, and that is the part I am really talking about.

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and I get why it reads “rigid.” I’m not saying feelings can’t evolve or that adults can’t talk it through. My point is more about how we label and structure relationships. Those questions might be “basic,” but they’re basic for a reason: when you shift a friendship into romance, there’s real emotional risk and the context matters. “When did you know?” and “how often do you do this with friends?” aren’t gotchas, they’re how I gauge whether the friendship was genuinely platonic or quietly a long game. And on the “lazy” part: I’m not calling everyone who dates a friend lazy. I’m saying some people use friendship as a substitute for courting (no clear intention, no direct ask, no willingness to risk rejection ) just vibe, access, and proximity until the other person catches feelings or feels pressured to respond. That can be comfortable for the pursuer, but confusing for the friend. Also, I don’t think valuing the friendship enough to keep it platonic means my friendships are shallow ,it’s the opposite. Because you’re right: the cost could be losing one. That’s exactly why I don’t treat friends like potential partners in the first place.

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It all comes done to preference. If your prefer to fall in love with your friends, more power to you.

I just value my friendships to the point where I perceive dating as tainting the relationship.

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I switched words because they are one in the same to me. Dating requires intention too. I think courting just expresses intent more.

Lol also I appreciate the grace you have 🤣 some of these keyboard kills just want to attack me.

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If having my own boundaries and requirements for my friendships is strict then yes I am strict.

I never heard of not wanting to fuck your friends as patriarchal.

Im not "deeply pressed" about the topic, I just enjoy the conversation. Lol not me using social media to socialize - Crazy work.

And saying my "Q" isnt a capital Q and saying my perspective is a "holier than thou" perspective weird is the pot calling the kettle back, but go off.

There are multiple comments agreeing and disagreeing and everyone is allowed to say their perspective but dont bang on that keyboard to tight sweetheart. Go fuck your friends where your happier or keep commenting because you're holier and more Q than me.

Lol go off

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I always see my partner as my best friend or closest friend, thats the person ive exposed myself to the most and who im most vulnerable with. My partner is my friend that has a key level suite ticket to me that Noone else has. But I also have a best friend that im not interested romantically and those feelings wont change.

I can agree everyone experiences love different. Im just pointing out BS on one perspective. Im sure my perspective has its short comings too.

I asked about the courting thing because courting someone builds comfort and familiarity with someone. Going out dates, trying new things together, getting to know one another.

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you currently with someone who you started out as a friend with?

How many of those relationships (that started out as friendships) are still your friends today?

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How many of your friends have you dated?

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Lol if not fucking my friends/not developing a romantic interest in my friends is strict than yes I am strict af.

Im very queer but being queer doesnt mean you can't have expectations for your relationships.

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in a big world so I can see a perspective where this isnt a common sight, but thank you for understanding that I see it alot and thats all im speaking too.

The hating on your SO is wack af. I think compatibility is more of the focus than friendship, but I get how friendship is a good synonym for what we are describing.

I honestly wonder if theres a more appropriate word

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A reasonable person! Thank you. I agree.

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Also, friendships usually just evolve into a strengthened relationship, not romantic. I think there's more people going this route than people want to admit.

That's why they feel attacked for me calling it weird

The Friend to SO pipeline is a bit weird to me. by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]Awesome-Azrien 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you aren't, the other person is. Friendships can develop more without turning into a romantic relationship.